trauma healing
Embracing Growth Challenges In Your Relationship
At some point in a romantic relationship, we all face challenges that test our connection with our partner or spouse. People disagree, make mistakes, and experience conflict. It’s human nature.
However, it is important to realize that most problems in a developing relationship are often not inherently negative or catastrophic. Instead, they present valuable opportunities for personal growth, healing, and self-discovery.
If you believe that your happiness in a relationship depends on finding the perfect partner, it’s time for a new perspective. The key to a happy relationship is to remove personal barriers one at a time. By doing so, you can fully immerse yourself in love and become a magnet for attracting the right partner into your life.
Consider the following five common issues that many new couples face and how you can learn from them to foster a stronger, more fulfilling connection with your significant other.
The Happiness Myth
Some people go into a new relationship expecting their partner to bring them the complete state of happiness, joy, and fulfillment they have always sought. But others cannot make us happy, joyful, or fulfilled because achieving this is always an inside job. It starts with us.
Grief Is A Sacred Gift Of Soul Experience
Long ago, I yearned for a deeper life, a full life, a sane life. And the door opened. It led me within.
Now, I long for a deep wound to be healed, and again I feel the door opening. I am prepared for the changes that come each time the door opens, and welcome them with profound gratitude.
I’ve come to understand that these “doors” don’t always show up looking bright and shiny and obviously spiritual. Sometimes they arrive disguised as heartbreak, loss, and the kind of grief that knocks the breath right out of your body. It doesn’t feel like a doorway then. It feels like a wall. A dead end. A great, echoing “Why?”
Last year had been a particularly difficult time for me. So much grief! Layers of it. Old grief that I thought I had already handled. New grief that came out of nowhere. Grief that didn’t even seem to have a clear name or story attached to it. I just had waves of sadness and loneliness that would rise up and spill over when I least expected it.
All part of the process, of course. But when you’re actually in it, that is not always comforting. I remember wondering, sometimes out loud:
When will I get back into the universal flow again?
When will the spiritual things I need for my Journey manifest?
When will this heaviness lift?
I wasn’t asking in a demanding way, more like a child pressing her face against the window, looking out at life, feeling like everyone else was moving forward while I was sitting in slow motion. My faith never left, but it got very, very quiet.
The Hidden Blessing Of Dysfunctional Parents
For those of us who grew up with dysfunctional or abusive parents, the journey of healing is not a straight path. It twists and turns through shadows of anger, grief, and longing.
But, within this curse always lies a paradoxical hidden blessing or two. Even the most wounded parents can be our teachers and a source of inspiration, not because of what they gave us, but because of what they could not.
Yes, dysfunctional and abusive parents can be an inspiration. Not in the sentimental sense of gratitude for their suffering, but in the clear-eyed recognition that their brokenness became the rich soil in which your awareness grew.
A damaged parent can inspire you to live more consciously, to love with intention, and to stop the cycle of ancestral pain that shaped them and you.
They can inspire you to use their example as a guide for what not to do, what not to say, and who not to become.
Their absence of nurturing can ignite within you the sacred resolve to be present and compassionate. Their harshness can awaken your gentleness. Their coldness can teach you warmth. The rejection you endured can remind you daily to make every person you love feel safe, seen, and cherished!
Even if your parents were never healed, you can be. Even if they never awakened, you can awaken. Their story does not have to become your destiny. You can use their limitations as fuel to create something better, purer, and truer.
Finding True Love That Lasts A Lifetime
Are you longing for true love? The kind of live that lasts a lifetime? A love that feels deeply aligned with your soul and supports your growth, your dreams, and your everyday life?
You are not alone in this. Many people are on this journey of seeking a partner who doesn’t just fill a void, but enhances the wholeness they are already cultivating within themselves.
Too often, people settle. I see this in psychic readings all the time. They choose what’s convenient or familiar, rather than what is truly right. There seems to be a silent epidemic of settling for less, of choosing relationships out of fear or loneliness rather than soul alignment.
I find one of the biggest challenges many people face is believing they are worthy and deserving of true happiness.
Ask yourself: Did I consciously choose the person I am with, or did I say yes because they showed interest? Did I see a future, or did I simply not want to be alone?
Another issue that often comes up in readings is people rushing into relationships without taking the time to ask themselves the deeper questions. Have I healed from my past? Am I open and ready to receive real love? Do I truly know what I want?
Manifesting a love that is genuine and enduring takes both inner work and intention. It is not something that simply falls into your lap. It is a co-creative process between your human ego, your higher self, and the universe.
A Beginner’s Guide To Holistic Healing
True healing is about more than just easing lower back pain or calming anxious thoughts. It’s about supporting the “whole you” so you can live in greater balance, joy and peace.
It means caring for the body, the heart, the mind, and the soul. While each of these areas can be worked on separately, the deepest transformation happens when they’re all supported together. That’s the essence of holistic healing.
For many people who are new to holistic healing, it can seem complex, mysterious, or even intimidating. Often, there’s curiosity, but also uncertainty about where to begin, especially if they’ve never tried it before.
Some worry they’re not knowledgeable enough, or believe it’s something only meant for people with special spiritual insight or advanced esoteric understanding. Others may wonder if they’ll “do something wrong” or fear they won’t understand what’s happening during a session.
These feelings are completely normal, but they can hold you back from exploring something that could be deeply supportive and life-changing.
The truth is, holistic healing doesn’t have to be complicated or overwhelming. You don’t need to know every technique or understand all the details to benefit from it. An experienced healer will help you find the best route, even if you’ve never walked the path before.
If you’ve never had a holistic healing session, here’s what often happens: You might arrive thinking you need one specific kind of support, but a skilled healer will take time to tune in and see what you truly need most. Sometimes they’ll use the method you requested, and other times they may suggest a different approach, or even combine several techniques, to support you in the best possible way. The aim isn’t just temporary relief; it’s to start you on a healing journey you can continue long after the session ends.
The Lesser-Known Art Of Trance Healing
Many psychics and mediums are naturally drawn to healing and energy work. Many of us feel an innate pull toward alternative therapies, especially those that call upon the loving assistance of the spirit realm to heal the body, mind, and soul.
Whether we’re seeking healing for ourselves or exploring how other healers invite spirit intervention, the journey can be enlightening and transformative.
This interest in spirit-assisted healing became particularly strong for me recently when I visited a trance healer in Spain. He is a gifted medium and a highly respected healer, known both locally and in the United Kingdom.
There is something both grounding and ethereal about him, as though he walks the line between worlds with grace and strength. He has worked with spirit for most of his adult life. Even as a child, he had profound experiences with the unseen world.
As someone who works regularly with spirit in my own practice, I know how vital it is to tend to our physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. He seems to understand this intuitively, and his healing touch addresses all of those aspects for me.
He practices trance healing. It’s different from the more traditional laying-on-of-hands and Reiki approaches. During our sessions, I feel intense waves of peace, warmth, and an almost electric tingling sensation, even though he never physically touches me. The energy flows through me with unmistakable potency, and it’s clear that something or someone from the spirit realm is orchestrating the experience.
From Resentment To Radiance: The Power Of Forgiveness
As a Kundalini yoga instructor, I’ve come to understand forgiveness as much more than just an act of kindness or compassion. It is a sacred healing practice — an essential release and transmutation of toxic energy held within the subtle body.
My work as a Reiki healer and psychic reader has deepened my understanding of this concept. I’ve witnessed firsthand how unresolved emotional pain, bitterness and resentment can create stagnation in our energetic pathways, dimming our vitality and obstructing our intuitive abilities.
In both healing sessions and psychic readings, I’ve seen forgiveness spark remarkable shifts in people’s physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well-being.
In the Kundalini Yoga tradition, forgiveness is not merely a moral ideal. It is a profound energetic cleanse. When we cling to resentment, anger, or betrayal, we create dense energy imprints, or emotional residue, in our aura and chakras, especially around the heart center (Anahata). These blockages disrupt pranic flow, dull intuitive perception, and limit our capacity to experience divine love.
My yoga teacher, Yogi Bhajan, often reminded us that the fastest route to healing and happiness is to forgive completely and limitlessly. He taught that true forgiveness requires releasing the subconscious “recordings” and emotional patterns etched into both hemispheres of the brain — patterns that replay pain and perpetuate karmic loops. “Forgive, release, learn, love, and excel,” he would say. Continue reading