inner guidance
The Self-Affirming Power Of Saying No
Are you the kind of person who has a hard time saying “no,” even when your heart isn’t in it?
Maybe you’re afraid of disappointing others, afraid they’ll distance themselves, or afraid they’ll stop liking you if you say no. Maybe your introverted side just wants to be liked and accepted by everyone, so you agree to things – even if it drains you.
I’ve experienced this myself and seen it happen to many people who come to me and ask, “How can I say no without feeling guilty?” or “If I don’t say yes, will I lose my connection with this person?
Saying “yes” out of fear, guilt, or obligation may be the easy way out in many situations, but it usually comes at a high cost to your personal and spiritual well-being.
Let’s acknowledge something important: You are enough just the way you are, and you are worthy of peace, joy and happiness. If someone truly values you, they’ll respect your boundaries, even if it means saying “no” once in a while.
On the other hand, if people cut you off because you set boundaries, they may not have been the healthiest presence in your life to begin with. True friends and meaningful relationships will respect your choices and understand your reasons without demanding constant explanations.
Over time, I’ve seen the toll that over-commitment takes. People who constantly say “yes” often end up feeling drained, overwhelmed, or even resentful. Some develop physical and mental health problems because they feel trapped by the constant need to please others. In some cases, burnout and depression set in, all because saying no felt like an impossible task.
The Angels Who Come And Go In Our Lives
As a psychic practitioner, I have had many profound experiences with angels. In the early days of my career, I was very curious and sometimes confused about the different types of angels and why they come and go in our lives over time.
During a meditation years ago, I asked spirit about this and the angels responded. I received a lot of information – a sudden flood of insight! I had apparently asked a complex question and the angels responded with different insights from many angles and perspectives, raising my awareness of the intricacies of the angelic realm even more.
At first I struggled to hear what each angel was communicating. It was like being in a crowded room where everyone was talking at the same time, making it difficult to focus and decipher which conversation to follow. Eventually I realized that I wouldn’t be able to make sense of it all at once.
Over the next few weeks, I spent more time in meditation, slowly piecing together what I was being shown. Through this process, I learned various core truths about how angels interact with us and the role they play in our lives.
One of my first insights was that we are accompanied throughout our lives by a dedicated team of spirit entities and celestial beings who provide us with unwavering support, guidance, and protection. Of these, our guardian angels and spirit guides take center stage, remaining steadfast companions from the moment we enter this world until we leave it.
Always Choose Your Gut Over Your Heart And Mind
We all have a higher purpose in this lifetime, and yet many never awaken to it, much less achieve it, because their ego has become more prominent in their lives than their higher self.
How do you know if what you are doing is for your highest good? How do you make sure you are aligned with your soul purpose? How do you know if what you want out of life is based on your worldly desires instead of your spiritual mission in this lifetime?
Well, you listen to your inner guidance. You trust your intuition. You follow your gut.
When you were born, a deep-seated dream was placed within you. As children we are often more in touch with our true calling or purpose, but many of us lose that awareness as we grow older. Unfortunately, it has been buried by the expectations of society and the many distractions of the material world.
Often our parents, peers, teachers, and mentors play a significant role in this process of shutting down our spiritual awareness. Has anyone ever laughed at you when you told them what you wanted to do or be? Did someone say, “Go back and think about that because it will never happen”? Each of us has a different story as to why we do or don’t achieve our dreams in life.
Today is the day to decide, “I will achieve my dreams as long as they come from the spirit and are for my highest good.” It is time to look at your dreams for your life from a deeper perspective.
Your Guardian Angel Is Always By Your Side
From the moment we take our first breath to the last, we are never alone. We are never lost or forgotten, even in our darkest hours.
Throughout our life’s journey, we have a guardian angel walking beside us, protecting and supporting us in ways we mostly do not notice and rarely truly understand.
Although many of us are unaware of their presence, our guardian angels are always by our side, offering protection in subtle ways.
Have you ever narrowly avoided an accident or felt an inexplicable calm in a moment of crisis? These are just a few of the ways your guardian angel intervenes to keep you safe.
Our celestial “bodyguards” are not strangers to us, but have been with us through many lifetimes and have full knowledge of our past experiences, current challenges, and future possibilities.
They know the full spectrum of our soul’s journey, from the lessons we’ve learned in previous incarnations, to the opportunities and growth in our current lifetime, to the potential that awaits us in future lives.
They understand the intricacies of our karma, the unfinished lessons we carry, and the gifts and wisdom we’ve cultivated over many lifetimes.
They communicate with us through intuition, inspiration, dreams, signs, and synchronicities, gently nudging us toward the right choices and experiences that will help us evolve spiritually. Sometimes they intervene more deeply and directly in times of intense crisis or extreme danger.
Always Stay True To Your Soul Path And Purpose
Visiting a nursing home or retirement community and interacting with the residents can be a life-changing experience!
I recently had the opportunity to interact with a group of seniors and one of the things I asked them was, “If you could go back in time and start over, what would you do differently?”
To my surprise, the biggest regret most of them have is that they wish they had been more true to themselves and lived their lives their own way instead of pleasing others. One lady says she realizes she should have followed the original path her soul intended for her, instead of trying to live up to the expectations of others.
Another lady recalls how her life was shattered when a man she loved dearly and had devoted her life to unexpectedly left her to be with someone else. She said that was the day she realized she had wasted so much time putting her own dreams and goals on hold to make someone else the focus of her life. If she could go back in time, she would have handled this relationship very differently. In fact, she would probably never have gotten involved with him in the first place! “Never live for someone else, that is what I have learned,” she said.
Some of the regrets seemed heavy and intense. Some realize that too much time has passed and they cannot undo the choices they have made. There are potential joys and opportunities for personal and spiritual fulfillment that are now forever out of reach. One gentleman added that while there is much wisdom and truth in the saying “it’s never too late,” there are also the practical realities of aging and “missed deadlines” for some things in life.
What Comes First: Friendship Or Romance?
Is it really necessary to build a solid foundation of friendship when you already have a gut feeling that the person you just met might be “the one”?
This is a question I sometimes get from clients seeking a love or relationship reading. They want to know whether they should focus on building a friendship first if they feel that their relationship has the potential to lead to a long-term commitment or marriage.
The answer can vary depending on the people involved and the unique dynamics of their relationship.
While there’s no one-size-fits-all answer, building a friendship can provide a stable foundation for the deeper layers of a romantic relationship. Friendship helps create a space where mutual respect, understanding, and shared values can flourish – qualities that are crucial to a lasting partnership.
I find many folks jump into a relationship with both feet, convinced they’ve found their true soulmate, only to be disappointed later.
Developing a strong friendship with your partner can be incredibly beneficial. It allows you to get to know each other on a deeper level without the pressure or distractions that often come with romantic and physical intimacy. In a friendship, you’re more likely to feel comfortable being your authentic self. This authenticity can lead to a stronger emotional connection, which can then become the foundation for a more serious romantic connection.
The Timeless Appeal Of Tarot Divination
I have yet to meet a spiritually-minded person who does not like the Tarot, or at least is not a little intrigued by this famous deck of cards.
The Tarot is arguably the world’s most popular and widely used divination tool, renowned for its rich symbolism and the depth of insight it offers. As an esoteric tradition dating back centuries, the Tarot has evolved into a diverse, sophisticated system of divination used by people from all walks of life to explore the mysteries of the mind, spirit, and the future.
Unlike some other forms of divination that require specialized knowledge or tools, the Tarot is accessible to both beginners and seasoned practitioners, offering a unique blend of art, intuition, mysticism, and storytelling. Its versatility allows it to address a wide range of questions, from personal and spiritual dilemmas to broader societal issues, making it a go-to resource for those seeking guidance, clarity, and self-discovery in an ever-changing world.
Each of the 78 cards in a Tarot deck is loaded with symbolic imagery and archetypal meanings that can be interpreted on multiple levels, from the deeply psychological to the spiritual and mystical. This layered symbolism allows diviners to explore personal dilemmas, spiritual growth, and the mysteries of life.
Unlike other divination tools that may rely on more rigid systems, Tarot offers a fluid framework that adapts to the reader’s intuition, personal beliefs, and level of psychic ability, making it accessible to people of diverse backgrounds and spiritual practices.