Posts Tagged ‘relationship’

What I have found of late is that, in this new found age of authentic expression, there is less naive sympathy and simplistic expression. Everything has become very complicated. Even relationships of two’s have become gamed.

Now in sympathy of couples that do love each other, we need to go back to the basics of not morality, but of what makes us not human, but of one world. One world being not just humane, not just human, but also expert communicators, not of strategy, but of love. Not with a start or an end game, not with the result of being able to outwit one another, but without the expectation of anything, but with the simplicity to exist just within being.

The simplicity to exist is simply thus; in just being able to breathe in the fresh air. In being able to simply not outlive the other. In simply being able to remain still and outwit the other, to be the self. Read the rest of this entry »

Accepting divorce as a reality is an important step in the healing process. One must mourn the loss of what could have been, but you don’t want to get stuck in the past, because it won’t change anything.

Acceptance is the most difficult step that one must take in releasing the past and begin a new chapter of life. Acceptance involves things like blame, resentment, and regret. We have the option to let go of negative emotions, which will give us the freedom to move forward.

So, now you are divorced, do you choose to stay bitter and hurt? No, you work through it and regain your strength, so that you can find yourself again. I know this is easier said than done, but nothing in this life is accomplished without some effort. You have one life to live, and you get to decide how you want to live it. Read the rest of this entry »

When I work with clients or teach courses about relationships, the first area I look at is what they truly desire in a relationship, and how they want to feel. This applies whether one hopes to attract a soulmate, or improve a current relationship. It is also necessary to know before we choose to invest more time in any partnership, or to release it.

And yes, we are all able to have what we imagine, because we were born to create these experiences. We are each valuable, for exactly who we are. We all have special talents and gifts, but because we took a body, we have value.

If you don’t have complete clarity on what you want, one easy way to get started is to write a list of what you don’t want.  Then, next to each negative statement, write the opposite of what you don’t want. Read the rest of this entry »

Have you ever met someone who you just felt were from the same soul group as yourself? Sometimes we look into the eyes of a stranger and feel a very strong connection. It could be a very awkward feeling, especially when you are not expecting it.

Yes, we do connect with those who are kindred spirits. You feel that you know that person, and most likely you do. You know that person because your memory of them is recorded in your cell memory.

We have had many past lives and sometimes we find we are incarnated in the same soul group as that person. We sometimes connect with them briefly, for only a few minutes. Sometimes we see them every day at work, at school. Some are our teacher in some way shape or form. Read the rest of this entry »

As I continue to take calls and questions from people in pain, the one common denominator in many of these questions is the effect another person is having on the caller’s life.

So many people are in relationships with the wrong person. They hang onto someone, just waiting for things to change or be different. However that is usually not what happens. People do not change for another person, and if they do, it never lasts or works out in the long run. People can only change themselves for themselves, in order to make it last.

Hanging onto the wrong person in your life – whether it be a friend, family, spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, and even a boss, can hold you back from having your best and highest good in life. It can keep the amazing blessings that are waiting for you from coming in. Read the rest of this entry »

The difference between being alone and feeling lonely can be a fairly mixed concept.

After my youngest daughter left home, I certainly had a case of the ’empty nest syndrome’ for a short period of time. I chided myself, for I felt the same way when my oldest daughter moved out. I had that feeling of ‘someone was missing’ and ‘nothing is the same.’ However, this time it was different, for it dawned on me that I had never lived alone before.

I began noticing the difference between my awareness that I was alone, and feelings of loneliness. Read the rest of this entry »

Mystics have studied Astrology for thousands of years and it is still very popular to this day, because it can be used to reveal many things in your life. The natal chart is your Astrological birth chart, which is used to reveal things about the energetic influences that may have an impact on your entire life.

The natal chart represents the exact order of the planets and stars at the time of your birth. The energy surrounding your birth has an impact on personality, as well as predicting future events in your life. It can be a helpful tool to use in order to navigate through life more easily, and have a better understanding of how to live your life to the fullest. Read the rest of this entry »

Many times in my life I’ve had to move on, leaving friends, family, relationships and spouses behind, because I outgrew them. The spiritual awakening process is a double-edged sword. When we awaken, our value systems change. The shift is a blessing, but burning bridges always hurts, and often when we least expect it.

One of the most obvious symptoms of knowing we’re no longer in sync with those around us, is when we can do nothing other than listen to our inner guidance, as it gets louder and louder.  And, the more we tune into it, the more authentic we become and we can’t pretend anymore. Truth and integrity take over, because those values are more in alignment with our soul.

Often, those closest to us, align themselves with their own illusion of who they want us to be. They project onto us the values they think they most admire, and choose to find these in us, as opposed to who we really are. As Maya Angelou stated so wisely, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them; the first time.” Read the rest of this entry »