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Be Judgmental

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comIn this age of being politically correct, some might actually stop reading after seeing the title of this blog post. Please don’t. People these days might accept the terms discernment, or judgment call, but never judgment! But there is no problem with having a judgment. The issue is what you choose to do with that judgment (or judgment call, or discernment). What matters is how you respond to your inner voice judging what is happening. It matters a great deal.

If you have been raised to put others before yourself, you have been taught to not protect yourself, but rather to put the needs, wants and desires of others first. The false belief is that this is done in order to protect yourself, to survive. If you have not questioned your past, or worked on learning about, or healing, your childhood (which happened on purpose as part of your incarnation, and therefore is a key element of exploration for you to advance in soul evolution) you will not even know that putting others first is your default setting. It will simply be ‘normal’ for you, while you continue to wonder why certain patterns of you getting ‘slammed,’ or getting taken advantage of, keep happening.

You cannot heal what you do not know. Children of alcoholics, or addicts, or narcissists, or childhood trauma (war, earthquakes, divorce, death, poverty) often learn that they have to suppress who they are, what they want or need, even what they think, in order to become what someone else wanted them to be, in order to survive, in order to live. Continue reading

Are You A Giver, Or Taker?

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comEver had one of those days where you feel as though you’re at your wits end? You thought to yourself, “I can’t handle this anymore. I’m not even sure who to turn to, to support me!” You probably found yourself feeling stressed, overloaded and ready to explode, or perhaps just feeling exhausted, drained, like you’re a car for which the fuel light came on 20 miles ago.

There is only one thing you can do in these situations. Stop.  Pull over. You need to assess your situation. When I work with people who are feeling either of those intense states of being, I help them figure out which category they are falling into at that moment. Are they a giver or a taker?

Many of us think that we are never ‘takers,’ but truth be told, nearly all of us fall into that category from time to time.  There’s nothing wrong with being a taker, the same as there is nothing wrong with being a giver. That is, as long as you are equaling out your exchange.

If you are always a taker, depending upon others for physical, emotional and spiritual support, you are going to soon find your lush forest of support become a dry empty desert. When there is no equilibrium of give and take, people will naturally pull away from you. Individuals can only take the sense of draining for so long. Continue reading

A ‘Black Belt’ In Psychic Prowess

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comI am a psychic medium, but I do not like to be categorized as a ‘world-renowned’ this… or a ‘seventh generation’ that… or even as a ‘third degree, black belted, sumo’ something! I do feel that the very concept of labeling psychic work in this way is somewhat superficial, and unnecessarily competitive. We are not in a Kung Fu class competing for a world title.

True psychics are gifted by God, or whatever you personal understanding is of a Higher Power, or the Divine. It is the psychic’s purpose in life to be of service to others and guide them on their path. And although it is spiritual work, we also need to earn a living. In today’s world no one is going to bring us a bushel of corn, or a crate of apples to live on, like they used to do in the old days. We obviously need to be financially compensated for our time, to cover our living expenses.

But sometimes people in this field of work will choose a life of fame and fortune. When going this route they have to be very careful of not letting the ego get into the way. I have seen a few ‘gurus’ go off course this way. They become ‘gods’ in their own minds and they expect to be revered and worshipped by others.

I am not kidding. I personally know someone who listens to the weather forecast, and then claims he is the one controlling the weather. One time the forecast predicted the day before that our area wouldn’t be hit that badly. He then told me not to worry… that he was going to push away that approaching storm with his psychic powers! And after the storm had passed, Mr. Miracle Man called me and said, “See what I did! See how powerful I am?” True story. Continue reading

Let Spirit Put Ego In Its Place

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comI recently had a conversation with a lovely, learned lady who was quite beside herself, because her husband of ten years simply got up and walked out on her… with no explanation whatsoever! She was understandably beside herself with shock and grief. I asked her what kind of relationship she felt they had and she assured me it was a very loving one. I find it almost impossible to believe that a loving, caring partner would all of a sudden just turn his back with all they had shared together and walk out the door, in what appeared to be a cold and callous man.

I then asked her why she felt they had such a good situation between them and she said it was because she loved him so much. She did all she could to keep him happy and satisfied. Well, now we were obviously getting somewhere. On further probing I found this man had been emotionally detached, and certainly oblivious to her needs. How can this, by any definition, be a warm and loving relationship?

Her ego most assuredly suffered a blow, but I do wonder where spirit was in all of this. It would make no sense to me if spirit accepted such a one-sided relationship that was  completely devoid of any care or kindness.

My suspicion is that she had convinced herself that this ‘relationship’ had to maintain itself, or she would not be an ‘acceptable’ woman if she did not have a prominent male in her life, even under these trying conditions. There we go, when ego runs the show a myriad of pains can certainly appear on the horizon! Continue reading

Why Take A Hospice Course

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comWhy would anyone want to take a course about death and dying? Most of us don’t even want to think about death, much less talk about it. A lot of people think and feel it’s just plain crazy, and that such a course could never enrich their life.

I can only speak for myself and say that I highly recommend a hospice course, especially if you want to understand yourself and life better. Hospice teaches people how to live while dying.

The cost of a course is usually very affordable as it is not aimed at making a profit. However, I had to take several evenings off from my work as a psychic medium, hypnotherapist and energy worker, so it cost be a lot more in the end. But it was well worth every penny, including the time I spent braving the cold winter here in Maine. Continue reading

Loving The Emotionally Unavailable Person

click here to get a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comIf you’ve ever been in a relationship with someone who’s emotionally unavailable, you know how hard it is to get close to that person. People who are emotionally unavailable are evasive.

In the beginning the emotionally unavailable person starts out with flattery, flirting and wooing, but this typically lasts only a short while. They can even offer you a lot of self-disclosure and initially show their vulnerable side, but beware! The emotionally unavailable prefer the chase instead of the catch.

Control is another must for the emotionally unavailable person. They can very inflexible with their schedules and you find that you’re always the one doing all the work and fitting yourself into their schedule. Continue reading

Finding Your Power

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comSome of you have a difficult time standing up for yourself, or expressing your position, for fear of being torn down. But there I no need for fear. There is nothing you need to worry about when you come from your position of power, your position of influence and love.

We are by no means encouraging you to engage in aggressive behavior or communication. When you find that rising up in your voice, it is your ego throwing a ‘temper tantrum,’ wanting its way or feeling hurt from an experience that may have nothing to do with the issue at hand, but it may have been triggered by the current experience.

Your truth is one of love and peace and joy. You are spiritually supported to step into your relationships in a more confident, stable, secure way. Continue reading

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