Posts Tagged ‘partner’
If you’ve ever been in a relationship with someone who’s emotionally unavailable, you know how hard it is to get close to that person. People who are emotionally unavailable are evasive.
In the beginning the emotionally unavailable person starts out with flattery, flirting and wooing, but this typically lasts only a short while. They can even offer you a lot of self-disclosure and initially show their vulnerable side, but beware! The emotionally unavailable prefer the chase instead of the catch.
Control is another must for the emotionally unavailable person. They can very inflexible with their schedules and you find that you’re always the one doing all the work and fitting yourself into their schedule. Read the rest of this entry »
February always reminds me of love. It is the month during which we celebrate Valentine’s Day, and with every leap year it is also creates the opportunity for women to ask men out on a date, or to propose marriage. In February, the promise of Spring and new life is also in the air.
The energy of Venus, the Goddess of Love and Beauty, and planetary ruler of both Libra and Taurus, is deeply inherent in all of us. Her role in our life can be interpreted through our individual natal astrological charts. Venus rules what we value, and love. It is a feminine planet, and represents our caring, graciousness, and capacity for love and affection. It also shows what we value and the effect we have on others.
Venus has a different effect on men and women. We all hold small traces and traits of the opposite sex inside of us, and it is wise to seek balance and expression of those energies. Venus in a man’s chart is his feminine ideal. In a woman’s chart, Venus embodies her femininity. Read the rest of this entry »
Invariably, week after week, I receive questions from clients about attracting what they desire. This can range from a love interest to steady employment, but the solution is the same for just about any scenario. There are four keys to manifestation: identification, visualization, expect-action, and gratitude.
This is the most important step in the process of manifestation, and it’s often either overlooked or misunderstood by the general population. In order to attract what you want, you must understand what creates what you want.
For example, if you wish to be in a loving and committed relationship, then you must see yourself as the faithful and loving partner you wish to attract. Affirm, “I am the perfect lover.” Read the rest of this entry »
If, as many teachings suggest, there is spiritual growth in every experience, and in particular the more difficult times, then being strongly affected by another person’s negative behavior must also be one of life’s lessons.
I have been pondering this because of the increase in psychic reading calls I have been getting related to this very topic. Some of my clients have been profoundly upset lately by the negative outbursts of people in their lives, including family, friends, partners, work colleagues, or even random altercations in public places.
I love these words from the poem Desiderata: “Avoid the loud and the aggressive – they are vexations to the spirit.” How very true. However, more often than not, we are not in the position to avoid those individuals altogether, in order to escape their toxic influence. Even in a friendship turned sour, we often want to give the toxic friend the benefit of the doubt, knowing that they don’t always behave that way. We might even be in love with a negative person, hoping we can change them one day. Read the rest of this entry »
Everything we experience in life is an opportunity to grow and embrace fully who we are. In India they say that the path of the householder is the hardest spiritual path, far harder than that of the monk or hermit. In other words, facing the daily challenges of domestic responsibilities and being in close relationship with others, whether it be romantic, family, or work, is the hardest path to manage.
It is challenging in our everyday life to stay close to God, or remain true to the blueprint of who we were created to be spiritually. The good news is that, as we do learn to manage our challenges, we exponentially strengthen who we are. (Note, I use the term ‘God’ as a convenient, small word to indicate a vast Divine experience too big for me to describe, or define.) Read the rest of this entry »
As an aficionado of all things metaphysical, from auras to a zebra jasper crystal, I have always found Chinese Astrology particularly fascinating. I’ve read any and everything I could lay my hands on and ultimately, I believe, I have come up with my own fundamental basic understanding of it.
I’m a simple woman and as a writer I have found the simple approach is best. Chinese Astrology is based on 12 different animals, and the traits of each species defines the characteristics of each Chinese Zodiac year. If you understand the animal, then you understand the Chinese astrological sign associated with it. You might say it is an easy key to understanding what may initially seem complicated.
According to Chinese Astrology we are entering the Year of the Dog this month. Associated with the element of Earth and the season of Autumn, the closest Western Astrology signs are Scorpio and Libra. Read the rest of this entry »
Relationships flourish when they are put in the proper climate for growth. When it comes to intimate and romantic relationships it is integral for our own personal growth to recognize what we want and expect within the situation. Boundaries are a powerful way to cultivate the experiences that are more meaningful in our relationships.
Often when I am reading for a person that is having consistent challenges, Spirit will identify similar challenges within the situation. This is not universal, because challenges can stem from many sources. However, I would like to identify some consistent messages that do come up related to relationships.
One issue that comes up quite often is a focus on fantasy rather than reality. This is not to say that fantasy is bad, but when an individual expends a lot of their time and energy fantasizing about how a situation will evolve, they can potentially fall in love with the fantasy instead of the reality. Read the rest of this entry »
You’re crazy, that never happened. You’re too sensitive. You’re making things up. No one else has ever said that about me. I get along with everyone else except you. I’ve never had this problem with anyone else but you. Everyone says you’re crazy. I’m not cheating, so maybe you are… since you are accusing me. You are too sensitive.
These are just some of the things you might hear when someone is gaslighting you, when you have confronted them with their own issues or manipulations.
Gaslighting is a form of abuse that is more common in romantic relationships, but it can occur in landlord and tenant relationships, friendships, employee and employer relationships, and even in relationships with neighbors. It is basically the art of messing with someone’s mind or reality. Sometimes it is done in an obvious way, right in front of the person, and sometimes it is under the radar and you don’t you know who is gaslighting you, or even if you are actually being gaslighted. Read the rest of this entry »