Posts Tagged ‘partner’
When I work with clients or teach courses about relationships, the first area I look at is what they truly desire in a relationship, and how they want to feel. This applies whether one hopes to attract a soulmate, or improve a current relationship. It is also necessary to know before we choose to invest more time in any partnership, or to release it.
And yes, we are all able to have what we imagine, because we were born to create these experiences. We are each valuable, for exactly who we are. We all have special talents and gifts, but because we took a body, we have value.
If you don’t have complete clarity on what you want, one easy way to get started is to write a list of what you don’t want. Then, next to each negative statement, write the opposite of what you don’t want. Read the rest of this entry »
So many people are in relationships with the wrong person. They hang onto someone, just waiting for things to change or be different. However that is usually not what happens. People do not change for another person, and if they do, it never lasts or works out in the long run. People can only change themselves for themselves, in order to make it last.
Hanging onto the wrong person in your life – whether it be a friend, family, spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, and even a boss, can hold you back from having your best and highest good in life. It can keep the amazing blessings that are waiting for you from coming in. Read the rest of this entry »
After my youngest daughter left home, I certainly had a case of the ’empty nest syndrome’ for a short period of time. I chided myself, for I felt the same way when my oldest daughter moved out. I had that feeling of ‘someone was missing’ and ‘nothing is the same.’ However, this time it was different, for it dawned on me that I had never lived alone before.
Many times in my life I’ve had to move on, leaving friends, family, relationships and spouses behind, because I outgrew them. The spiritual awakening process is a double-edged sword. When we awaken, our value systems change. The shift is a blessing, but burning bridges always hurts, and often when we least expect it.
One of the most obvious symptoms of knowing we’re no longer in sync with those around us, is when we can do nothing other than listen to our inner guidance, as it gets louder and louder. And, the more we tune into it, the more authentic we become and we can’t pretend anymore. Truth and integrity take over, because those values are more in alignment with our soul.
Often, those closest to us, align themselves with their own illusion of who they want us to be. They project onto us the values they think they most admire, and choose to find these in us, as opposed to who we really are. As Maya Angelou stated so wisely, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them; the first time.” Read the rest of this entry »
It’s exciting when you first meet someone new who has the potential. Feelings become intensified and the possibilities become endless on where it could all go. The problem enters when both parties initially fail to get to know each other or ask the hard hitting questions in the beginning of the relationship.
Are they looking for a short term or long term commitment? Do they still have an attachment to someone else? Do they value and want a family? How well do they handle conflict? Am I able to be myself with this person? Will we be able to compromise on the bigger issues? Will they be a positive influence in my life? Read the rest of this entry »
When impatience takes over in your life, things become off-kilter. That’s when relationships break apart; jobs become unsettling, or they become impossible to find; money starts to dissipate. And all these things just cause more impatience, and more frustration.
When I tell you that someone will come into your life in Divine timing, it simply means that when you are able to be patient and let go of the edginess, the Universe will open the door an allow something or someone better to come into your life at the right time. This is all done on Divine timing – not yours, or mine. Read the rest of this entry »
One minute you are dating the love of your life, and the next you find yourself single again. Yes, we have all been there. It is never easy when you have to go back out there again, into the dating scene, but if you want to find the love of your life you need to take a chance.
I have been dating a lot since moving to Florida. I feel like my dating life has been like a revolving door, as one guy comes in… another one goes out. My aunt said it best, “Men are like buses. When one bus leaves, another one pulls up!”
So, how does one find someone worth your time and energy in this vast morass? Dating can sometimes be like a marshy swamp, not knowing when you will hit the bottom. I have learned the following from my own dating adventures. Read the rest of this entry »
Recently a trusted friend posted on my Facebook timeline a link to the Jeremy Buck song Turn my Ship Around, from the album Vibe. I had never heard of Jeremy Buck, but I clicked it and listened. The song’s lyrics reminded me of times when I felt no one listened to my concerns, when people tried to bully me, when people tried to undermine me and were being false friends. It reminded me that through those times, I ensured I found a new direction and was determined to fulfill my goals to the best of my abilities.
The song reminds us to simply “turn our ship around” when feeling that we are heading in the wrong direction. The question however is what type of ship are you in, or steering? Perhaps a Kayak, a 12ft fishing boat with outboard motor, a 35ft cruiser or speedboat, or an oil tanker or cruise ship? What kind of ship are you commanding? Read the rest of this entry »