Posts Tagged ‘partner’
A trusted friend of mine has a funny saying that I find hilariously true. “Love is like the dew,” he says, “it can fall on any piece of poo in the yard.” He’s right you know. You meet this person, you are inexplicably drawn to him. Then you get to know him better. You begin to share your feelings for each other, your views of the world, maybe even your plans for the future.
Then suddenly you also see his shadow side. “What is so wrong with that,” you may ask. I asked that too, but then, as an empath and professional clairvoyant, I have come to understand how just those simple things can send a promising relationship into a tail-spin.
Why would loving someone and sharing your feelings with them be so damaging? It should be easy instead. You meet someone you have very strong feelings for, and he has feelings for you too. It should be wonderful and fulfilling, but in actuality it sometimes turns into something terrifying and destructive. Read the rest of this entry »
At least once a day, sometimes more, I have this sort of conversation during a psychic reading: “I just don’t know what to do about our relationship. I love him so much. He just doesn’t seem to feel the same way. He seems distant. Does he really love me?”
Then, before I can even take my cleansing breath to answer…wait for it…comes the customary follow-up question: “Or is there another man in my future?”
So, she loves, loves, loves this man. She can’t even breathe for the amount of love she has bubbling up inside her. Yet, at the first sign of trouble, or even a little break in communication, she is already looking for the next guy to take his place in the revolving door of her love life. Read the rest of this entry »
Many of you desire a romantic partner in your life and we know that this can be a beautiful experience. But we also know that sometimes in your life it isn’t about being with someone outside of yourself. It is about being with that which you are – creating a beautiful relationship with your soul, with your spirit, with your higher self.
Let go of your attachments to wanting things to be different than they are. Be present in your life now. Find the gifts that this present moment brings you, whether you are in a relationship or not.
You are whole and complete. You are an aspect of divinity. There is nothing broken and nothing needs to be fixed. And there is no one you need to complete you. You are complete. You are the perfect and the perfection. Read the rest of this entry »
When I work with clients or teach courses about relationships, the first area I look at is what they truly desire in a relationship, and how they want to feel. This applies whether one hopes to attract a soulmate, or improve a current relationship. It is also necessary to know before we choose to invest more time in any partnership, or to release it.
And yes, we are all able to have what we imagine, because we were born to create these experiences. We are each valuable, for exactly who we are. We all have special talents and gifts, but because we took a body, we have value.
If you don’t have complete clarity on what you want, one easy way to get started is to write a list of what you don’t want. Then, next to each negative statement, write the opposite of what you don’t want. Read the rest of this entry »
So many people are in relationships with the wrong person. They hang onto someone, just waiting for things to change or be different. However that is usually not what happens. People do not change for another person, and if they do, it never lasts or works out in the long run. People can only change themselves for themselves, in order to make it last.
Hanging onto the wrong person in your life – whether it be a friend, family, spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, and even a boss, can hold you back from having your best and highest good in life. It can keep the amazing blessings that are waiting for you from coming in. Read the rest of this entry »
After my youngest daughter left home, I certainly had a case of the ’empty nest syndrome’ for a short period of time. I chided myself, for I felt the same way when my oldest daughter moved out. I had that feeling of ‘someone was missing’ and ‘nothing is the same.’ However, this time it was different, for it dawned on me that I had never lived alone before.
Many times in my life I’ve had to move on, leaving friends, family, relationships and spouses behind, because I outgrew them. The spiritual awakening process is a double-edged sword. When we awaken, our value systems change. The shift is a blessing, but burning bridges always hurts, and often when we least expect it.
One of the most obvious symptoms of knowing we’re no longer in sync with those around us, is when we can do nothing other than listen to our inner guidance, as it gets louder and louder. And, the more we tune into it, the more authentic we become and we can’t pretend anymore. Truth and integrity take over, because those values are more in alignment with our soul.
Often, those closest to us, align themselves with their own illusion of who they want us to be. They project onto us the values they think they most admire, and choose to find these in us, as opposed to who we really are. As Maya Angelou stated so wisely, “When someone shows you who they are, believe them; the first time.” Read the rest of this entry »
It’s exciting when you first meet someone new who has the potential. Feelings become intensified and the possibilities become endless on where it could all go. The problem enters when both parties initially fail to get to know each other or ask the hard hitting questions in the beginning of the relationship.
Are they looking for a short term or long term commitment? Do they still have an attachment to someone else? Do they value and want a family? How well do they handle conflict? Am I able to be myself with this person? Will we be able to compromise on the bigger issues? Will they be a positive influence in my life? Read the rest of this entry »