Posts Tagged ‘self-delusion’

Accepting divorce as a reality is an important step in the healing process. One must mourn the loss of what could have been, but you don’t want to get stuck in the past, because it won’t change anything.

Acceptance is the most difficult step that one must take in releasing the past and begin a new chapter of life. Acceptance involves things like blame, resentment, and regret. We have the option to let go of negative emotions, which will give us the freedom to move forward.

So, now you are divorced, do you choose to stay bitter and hurt? No, you work through it and regain your strength, so that you can find yourself again. I know this is easier said than done, but nothing in this life is accomplished without some effort. You have one life to live, and you get to decide how you want to live it. Read the rest of this entry »

As I continue to take calls and questions from people in pain, the one common denominator in many of these questions is the effect another person is having on the caller’s life.

So many people are in relationships with the wrong person. They hang onto someone, just waiting for things to change or be different. However that is usually not what happens. People do not change for another person, and if they do, it never lasts or works out in the long run. People can only change themselves for themselves, in order to make it last.

Hanging onto the wrong person in your life – whether it be a friend, family, spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, and even a boss, can hold you back from having your best and highest good in life. It can keep the amazing blessings that are waiting for you from coming in. Read the rest of this entry »

If you are a passionate, committed person in a field that has become commercialized, it can be so very frustrating. One of the ways I deal with my frustration is with humor. Therefore, if you do not have a sense of humor, or take things very seriously, please do not read any further. If you do, you will be proceeding at your own risk.

I recently worked at a spiritual faire, which no members of the public bothered to attend. It ended up being just the bunch of ‘gifted’ vendors who spent the day talking incessantly about themselves, telling each other the same amazing stories, over and over again. These stories are meant to prove that they were meant to share their ‘gift’ with humanity. Not mentioned in any of these tales is the family money, or lawsuit money, alimony, family or spousal support payments, which helped to finance their perceived notions of being ‘chosen’ to do this work. Read the rest of this entry »

Toxic relationships can have a detrimental effect on our health. Some of us stay in toxic relationships for all kinds of reasons. We try and rationalize in our minds the reasons why we should not end it.

Some people think having a family with someone, or owning property together, is reason enough to stay in an unhealthy relationship. Some feel they have invested so much time and energy into the relationship, that it would be a waste to walk out. Others stay for religious reasons.

So, too many people keep living in relationships that are unhealthy and detrimental to their well-being. But what I have learned over the years, as professional psychic and spiritual advisor, is simply this: if the love is no longer there, it wasn’t meant to last; that period of soul growth is complete and it is time to move on. Read the rest of this entry »

The first step we need to take when we are doing deep spiritual work is to face ourselves. In mythology there is a story of a monster that dwells on the border between the physical and the spiritual worlds. In order to reach higher realms, we must face and conquer this monster.

Facing ourselves takes a lot of courage. Facing ourselves means that we stop blaming others and take responsibility for our own actions. It can also involve taking responsibility for the actions of others, by accepting responsibility for simply participating in certain circumstances through thought, word, action and feeling. It also has a tendency to annoy us, or make us very uncomfortable. That’s the price of spiritual growth and freedom. Letting go. I talk about this a lot in psychic readings about romance. Read the rest of this entry »

When I first moved to the  San Francisco Bay Area, I learned that if you want to get around quickly, it’s best to walk everywhere. All the time spent walking gave me the opportunity to observe a lot about myself and my thoughts, as I ventured through various nooks and crannies of the city. On these walks, I also encountered interesting sights, fascinating people, and many exciting places, including bookstores and restaurants.

Sitting on the steps of Sproul Plaza, at the University of California, Berkeley, I always found a ragged looking elderly man. He perched himself on the edge of the curb with a Marie Callender’s pie tin to collect money. But he was no victim; his energy was combative. He would yell at passersby, “I hate you!” If at all possible, people avoided him by crossing the street. His words still reached their ears, but that 50 foot distance gave at least some reprieve. Read the rest of this entry »

As a professional psychic, I often come across clients who are stuck in a relationship or career that doesn’t seem to bring them fulfillment or happiness. Overall it seems our society has been conditioned to settle for less than we are worth, and the majority of us have been raised to escape from our problems, instead of acknowledging them head on.

If you are at a crossroads, or questioning why you find yourself in a toxic situation, then it may be time to get brutally honest about who you are and what you really want. Refuse to make any further excuses and take responsibility for what you can change. Denial or lack of self-love will often times hold us back, but the truth will always set one free into greener pastures. Ask yourself the vital questions. Read the rest of this entry »

As a Tarot reader through many seasons, I have seen for myself where interpretation, listening to instinct and understanding the true meaning behind the cards makes for a better and more rounded reading. But perhaps the Tarot in and of itself will want to play tricks on you. This too I have seen many times!

People tend to misunderstand the Tarot, its meaning, and more importantly, its true purpose. It was never intended as a fortune telling tool per se. It can only be through careful study and a willingness to open one’s mind and heart, that reading the Tarot can be truly successfully mastered. Yes, even to the point of predicting time frames – something clients love, of course, but which can be very tricky to predict. Reading the cards correctly and imparting correct advise is crucial when it comes to time prediction. Read the rest of this entry »