Posts Tagged ‘self-delusion’
Gaslighting can be a very destructive component of a toxic relationship. It basically refers to any form of ‘reality twisting’ or ‘crazy making’ that aims to confuse or manipulate the victim. Gaslighting is used to gain power and control in the relationship, by making the victim question their reality.
The phenomenon is typically found in romantic relationships, but it can occur in all kinds of social relationships, including friendships, in the workplace and with neighbors. Sometimes it is done in an obvious way, right under the victim’s nose, but mostly it is done under the radar and you don’t always know who is gaslighting you, or even that you are being gaslighted. Read the rest of this entry »
There are times when we are tempted to withdraw from the world, sit around, and feel sorry for ourselves. For many of us it is all too easy to get into the rut of complaining about how everything bad only happens to us, and how unfair life is. Some of us also easily complain that other people seem to have everything, and we have so little. When this kind of thinking takes over, it may be time to ask yourself some really tough questions.
Am I in a comfort zone? Is it really too difficult to make the necessary changes to have a better life? Do I really want to get well? What benefits am I possibly getting from choosing to remain stuck? Has my circumstances or my health status become my new identity? Am I always looking in the rear-view mirror, wishing I could rewrite the past? Do I obsess about what could have, should have, would have been? Read the rest of this entry »
Have you ever noticed that whenever you really enjoy what you’re doing, it’s as though there seems to be an energy flow or undercurrent carrying you? Don’t you wish you could live this way all the time?
Unfortunately, it seems too often we fall prey to worrying about what others might think of us, or we choose the practical path or the road most traveled. We get caught in the trap of following the opinions of others, rather than tuning in and listening to our own inner guidance.
When you follow the flow of what is true for you, it doesn’t mean you are shirking your responsibilities. It also doesn’t mean you are being selfish. It simply means you are choosing moment to moment what feels right. We are influenced every day by society’s standards of what’s right, and we seldom do a self check-in instead. Read the rest of this entry »
Many people are afraid of asking questions, and yet asking questions is an essential skill if one wants to learn from others, or from Spirit. People are afraid of what they perceive to be the risks involved in asking questions, due to their own unhealed issues of control, fear, and ego.
Asking questions can make you look or feel vulnerable. If you grew up in a dysfunctional or abusive family, asking questions may have been perceived as defiant, and maybe punishment would have been doled out.
In the workplace this is often the same. An insecure boss or even co-worker might react badly to questions, perceiving them as challenges rather than an effort to learn or obtain information needed to learn. In poorly run workplaces (that do not know how to effectively train or educate their workers) asking questions could mean you are risking getting fired for ‘not knowing’ something, rather than it being seen as taking the initiative to learn and check on details. Read the rest of this entry »
You are not your thoughts, or your feelings. You are the soul who has the ability to observe and experience those thoughts and feelings. You’ve may have heard this before, but the concept is one that has had such a huge impact on my life, I simply have to share it!
When I made this realization, I had already been working on my own inner dialogue. Until I paid attention to it, I hadn’t even realized how harsh it was. Our minds are often full of chatter which, when left unattended, can become a breeding-ground for limiting belief patterns.
You are like a beautiful tuning fork. Tuning in to that which is around you. You have control over what you will tune into…whether it be frustration or fear, or maybe discourse in your relationships. When you are lost in the story you may find yourself tuning into that vibration of ‘lost.’
Take a deep breath. Find something in your life that brings you joy, that brings you love and peace. Allow this to cleanse your vibration, your energy field. Allow this to redirect and help you to tune into the truth. Read the rest of this entry »
Sensitive people need to give themselves a break! I am very sensitive myself, and I consider it a gift. I wouldn’t be able to have the kind of career that I have without being sensitive. For those of us that are sensitive, it can come as a mixed blessing sometimes. The same sensitivity that allows me to empathically engage with others in an intuitive way, can also be a detriment when I allow the circumstances of this work, or of others, overwhelm me. I must be constantly careful about what I view on Facebook, and read or see in the news.
I personally abstain from following the news for the most part. My world is what I am experiencing at this present time. If we were alive 200 years ago, rather than right now, we would be clueless about most world events. However, these days absolutely everything is streamed into our conscious reality 24-hours a day, seven days a week. For those of us whose life purpose is tied in with sensitivity, it is unwise to partake in this media stream. Read the rest of this entry »
People often present a very different image of their life on Facebook, than they do in person. I have seen many times how the people in my own social circle would talk to me about what is really going on in their life, while what they present on their social media accounts is something very, very different.
I also encounter this phenomenon when I do psychic readings. A distraught client might say something like, “My ex called me up and told me how miserable he is in his new relationship, but then his girlfriend posted pictures of them having such a good time! So, what am I supposed to believe?” Read the rest of this entry »