self-delusion
How To Truly Help Others Without Ego
As a spiritual or metaphysical practitioner there is no substitute for having a spiritual mentor or teacher of your own to guide you. People typically tend to continue the same ego-driven behaviors in their lives, over and over, not catching it. They can’t catch it without practice and guidance from someone who can help them see the nuances of slipping back into ego-dominated behaviors.
In other words, a workshop or certification course, or reading some articles and books, and then practicing on your own, typically will not offer you much success in personal transformation or your field of work. As Einstein said, you cannot solve problems with the same mind, i.e. mindset, paradigm, consciousness, level of awareness, that created the problem in the first place. This is why people go to 12-step meetings, psychotherapy, support groups or work with a mentor, guru, or teacher – to get viewpoints, input, suggestions, guidance from other people who are also on a journey.
Religion, Superstition And Personal Spiritual Practice
Religion is not only a codified system of beliefs, it also includes rituals that some might label as superstitions. The difference between belief and superstition is experience. If you experience something it is a reality, for you, and you will believe it. If you don’t experience it, then it is only hearsay and without proof you don’t necessarily believe it. However, you might still engage in it, because you were ‘told’ it is true. The latter usually applies to religion. Sound familiar?
Superstitions are the building blocks of present day religions. People tithe the church, for example, because they were told that is what God expects and they will be rewarded with prosperity. Some people use guided meditations, or rituals and spells, to manifest what they want, without having any real experiences of feeling an energetic connection themselves.
Healing The Inner Child
We often see you run from your pain and deny your suffering. You are an expert at ignoring and refusing to acknowledge the wounds stuffed deep in your heart. Or you hide behind your mantras and affirmations, wanting so badly to ‘feel better.’ We invite you instead to move deeply into your suffering, naming the pain and emotions, and then moving even deeper still into the black abyss of pain. It is time to release the unforgiveness that is no longer serving you.
Hold your inner child as they scream in agony from lifetimes of unexpressed suffering. When you allow yourself to fully experience this pain, you will begin to enjoy your opportunities of spiritual growth, instead of dreading them. Because turning toward your pain opens a portal of God’s love and grace. Turning toward your pain, instead of away, allows you to embrace all aspects of yourself – your successes along with your failures. The more you do this the brighter your light becomes, until eventually, your vibration is so high you begin to glow from the inside out.
A Spiritual Approach To Chronic Complainers
Don’t complain, don’t ever complain. These are words I read in a book long ago, and they have stuck in my mind ever since. However, I certainly seem to have attracted a lot of complainers into my life – moaners and critics who have taken the very process to an art form! Amongst these individuals are family, friends and love relationships, and they are all challenging in their own way.
I have come to the conclusion that the lesson those souls have given me, is to rise above the irritation, and perhaps to try and see their predicament and unhappiness from a place of compassion. I have since managed to become less affected by other people’s groaning, because I stopped thinking that their displeasure might be my fault, or that I could ‘fix’ them and turn them from a ‘cup-half-empty’ type of person to a ‘cup-half full.’
Are Romantic Relationships Meant To Last Forever?
Will my relationship last forever? Will I be married? Are we meant to be together in this lifetime? These are the kind of question I often get when I am doing a relationship psychic reading.
In my family everyone stayed married forever. Divorce was not acceptable. I was the first of my siblings to get a divorce and was shunned because of my choice. My parents stayed married for nearly forty years, until my father’s death. Their marriage was an experiment in terror, as I use to observe how miserable they were staying together. I used to joke with them that they were the poster children as to why I should not get married! My two siblings also tied the knot, only to find themselves in unhappy marriages.
Holding On To A Broken Relationship
Are you waiting for him to return to you? Has your break-up stopped you from living your life? Have you decided that no matter what anyone has said to you, that you know that he is coming back to you? Holding on to a broken relationship is a common occurrence in many people’s lives. One person moves on, another does not.
When confronted with this dilemma, you may believe he will be back. I know him; he can’t function without me. He needs me. He knows we are spiritually connected. However, this is often not the truth of the situation. It is simply your ego egging you on to believe what you want to believe.
I usually ask people to go into their ‘gut’ and take the heart out of it. But still I will get, “My gut says he will be back.” This is ego, because the response is so quick and without breathing in and allowing your guides to give you the proper answer.
Beyond Boundaries
Your evolution and growth never stops. Certain skills need to be learned and practiced. Then, as your energy shifts and changes more rapidly, more profoundly and with greater consciousness, if you have a spiritual practice, you are able to change your skills, enhance them, and learn to handle and use new skills.
Earth plane changes in skills typically start with cognition – left brain learning of new ideas, theories, or skills. This is true in mainstream therapies as well. After you learn an idea, you practice it, and then learn to handle what happens when you use these new ideas, concepts or skills. You learn to handle the energy of your implemented changes. Life does this too. You get a divorce, your spouse cheats, you are fired. This changes your energy, and then you have insights – a rough way to go.