Life Design
The Fallacy Of Being Perfect
People who go around trying to be perfect, or aim to “live up to their maximum potential” seldom seem to be happy. Neither do they appear to be living fulfilling lives. Their constant striving to achieve or maintain perfectionism seems to take the joy out of their lives.
Spirit inspired this chain of thought in me as I remembered three psychic readings that I did recently. The theme of perfectionism and potential had a profound effect on all three of my clients’ lives and or their loved ones. With their permission I am briefly sharing their stories here.
The first client called me upset, because she felt she had ruined their holiday stressing about wanting to make everything perfect. Not only did she take the fun out of it for herself, but for everyone else involved.
I connected with Spirit and received this message for her: “Doing special things like making Easter eggs and cooking Thanksgiving dinner should be enjoyable. Some people will like it, and some people won’t. Next week no one will remember. Learn to enjoy these activities more, and just go with ebb and flow. Spirit then also offer tools she can use to help her relax. Continue reading
Cultivating The Sacred, Or Breeding Contempt?
Let’s imagine you own an exotic, stunning Bengal cat. Gorgeous markings, intelligent maybe, even psychic. It often acts more like a dog than a tiger and… it also poops. The whole package is the cat. Do you focus on the smell and inconvenience of the poop when sharing stories and talking about the cat? Do you always bring up in conversation what you know about the cat poop, and perhaps other unsavory behaviors? No, of course not! Usually you brag about your cat.
Yet, when it comes to humans, people will brag about how much they know the unsavory (in their opinion) underside of someone, especially if it is a movie star, or a well-known spiritual teacher or healer. It is as if you know some ‘gory details’ about someone of note, this is proof you are ‘in with the it-crowd’ because you know these private things.
If it is a spouse, and you do this, it can often be an underhanded way of control or expressing anger that you do not have the courage or maturity to express directly with the intent of healing and becoming closer with your partner. People who have learned to behave as victims often make this passive-aggressive choice.
All people have a ‘poop side’ to them. Why would anyone choose to focus on that? Are they too scared to stay on their own path, in their own lane? Do they feel the need to be better than others? Why do some people feel obligated to let others know they are one of the ‘special ones’ that has seen the ‘poop side’ of someone, especially if they bring it up in public in an inappropriate fashion? How does that feed their ego, or their wounded self-esteem? Why does that make them feel safer in their world? Do they use it as a way to avoid a direct problem-solving conversation with the person? Continue reading
The Will To Change Your Future
There are times in all our lives when we feel confused or uncertain about the future. We wonder if we are on the right path? We follow our hearts, yet nothing seems to cooperate with our wishes? We feel a range of emotions that make us feel as though we are getting nowhere. Nothing bad is happening, but nothing related to our exalted dreams are either. We wonder to ourselves if this is it? Is this truly all there is?
These stagnant, quiet periods, when nothing significant seems to be happening, can be viewed in different ways. I see them as opportunities for many things we normally don’t have time to do, when our lives are busier. We can rest, travel, get organized, finish projects, work on health and beauty, learn a new skill, practice our spirituality, or catch up on our finances. We can also go over past events in our minds, learn from them, put them behind us, and dream of what we really want to do in the future.
These are all seemingly unimportant details that are in fact very important preparations for that which will inevitably happen next, when we put our minds on what we really want that is good for us as individuals.
A few weeks ago, I did a phone psychic reading for a client who asked me what was going to happen in her future. She did not have a more specific question, and she had only paid for a few minutes. So, I focused intently on her question, concentrating on her future, but not limiting my quest to a specific time frame. Continue reading
Processing Deep Emotions In Your Dreams
Disturbing, chaotic dreams or nightmares involving terror, violence or intense frustration can be extremely disturbing for the dreamer. When these dreams come around, it is not unusual to find yourself suddenly waking in the middle of the night, sitting bolt upright, shaken, and in a pool of perspiration. Some of my clients’ dreams are so hectic, they even ask me if they are possessed, or being punished!
Dream interpretation psychic readings may reveal that such a nightmare reflects a traumatic occurrence from the client’s past, which they fear may occur again. Constant fear of history repeating itself may be invading their thoughts. When we are emotionally and mentally in a place of darkness, our every thought tends to become distorted by fear.
My clients usually hope to find some enlightenment as to what their hectic dreams can possibly mean, and I do my best to interpret their nightmares the best way I know how. It can be most helpful when a psychic exposes the root cause of a frantic dream.
But I also do recall a dream expert, who gave a talk at a psychic fayre once, saying, “The very best person to interpret any type of dream is the dreamer themselves.” What a psychic can do is give their insight, but their interpretation should resonate with the client. Continue reading
You Are Amazing
You are powerless when you worry about pleasing other people, but when you focus on being an amazing person and creating an amazing life then you become powerful. As you gain a foothold on who you truly are and how you wish to present yourself to the world other people begin to recognize and respect you in new ways. Focus on the amazing person that you are.
Oftentimes we see you get caught up in other people’s business, wondering and worrying what they are thinking and what they are saying. As you focus on those external things outside of yourself it steals your energy and renders you powerless. It makes you weak in your thinking and insecure in your being. There is very little value in focusing on obsessing over their influence.
Remember, everything is always unfolding perfectly. Let go of trying to control other people and other things outside your power of influence. Move into yourself where you have full and complete control over what you are thinking, what you are feeling, and what you are saying. Because at the end of the day, as you look at yourself in the mirror the only person you need to answer to is yourself en God.
Rise up into the magnificence that you are creating a beautiful purposeful life. As you align with the best version of yourself people will either begin to step into your life, or they will step out. Continue reading
Ritual In A Modern World
Ritual is one of the oldest forms of spiritual expression, and it has roots in pretty much all religions and spiritual practices. The energy created when we take the time to focus our intent, while using symbols and tokens that have meaning for us personally, can be transformational! Whether you practice ritual in a group or on your own, it can supercharge your manifestations and aid in any healing processes you may be going through.
When most people think of ‘ritual’ they often think of darkened smoky rooms, with people in long robes, chanting in strange languages perhaps, all seemingly choreographed with everyone knowing their roles. I’m sure there are some who practice in this way, and truly many of those elements have their place in ritual – incense, chanting, and so on. But I would suggest that ritual can also be something less rigid which we can craft to fit into our modern lives.
In my own practice, I began by creating a little ‘altar’ for myself. It is a small space where I arranged a few candles, some incense, crystals, feathers and some other tokens that have meaning to me. I added a picture of my mother, and a statue of an angel given to me when my grandpa passed away. I created a small space that had deep meaning for me and brought me into a mindset of love.
Now, I didn’t have a lot of room for this! So when I say a small space, this could be anything from the corner of a dresser, to a whole tabletop. As my practice has evolved I now find that any spare surface becomes a home for little treasures that I find in my adventures. Once you start creating these rituals in your life, the Universe will often send you little gifts to help you along. Continue reading
Is That Your Intuition Speaking?
Do you sometimes sense your thoughts are more than just thoughts? Do you sometimes hear your thoughts? Do you feel your thoughts? Do you know when it’s your intuition speaking? How do you know the difference between intuition and thinking thoughts?
There are many questions to be asked in order to understand and to allow yourself to become comfortable relating to and relying on that higher part of your consciousness. Your intuition is sometimes referred to as your ‘higher self’ – the all-knowing part of you.
The best way to understand and integrate your intuition into your daily thoughts and understanding of life, is to look back and observe yourself. We all use our intuition every day of our lives. Think about it. More often than not, when you make a decision, you are basing your decision on how you feel about the situation. Look back and see how many of the following questions fit into your life.
- Have you known about future events before they happened?
- Did you sense things going on with other people before they materialize?
- Did you get information through physical sensations?
- Did you feel physical sensations when you made a bad decision?
- Have you felt physical sensations when you made a good decision?
- Have you had an awareness that your intuition was speaking to you?
- Do you sometimes get hunches about things that come to pass?
- Have you checked in with your intuition when you wanted to know the answer to something?