Accepting divorce as a reality is an important step in the healing process. One must mourn the loss of what could have been, but you don’t want to get stuck in the past, because it won’t change anything.
Acceptance is the most difficult step that one must take in releasing the past and begin a new chapter of life. Acceptance involves things like blame, resentment, and regret. We have the option to let go of negative emotions, which will give us the freedom to move forward.
So, now you are divorced, do you choose to stay bitter and hurt? No, you work through it and regain your strength, so that you can find yourself again. I know this is easier said than done, but nothing in this life is accomplished without some effort. You have one life to live, and you get to decide how you want to live it. Read the rest of this entry »
He tells you that he loves you, always wants to be with you, and can’t seem to get enough of you. He calls and texts you all the time, and you’re feeling this is it… the perfect relationship! You love the way he makes you feel. He must be ‘the one.’ Then all of a sudden he’s gone…
He is not contacting you anymore. No calls, no texts, no dates, no nothing. What happened? Where did he go? Well he went into his ‘cave.’ That is where men go when they realize they have moved to fast, or when they feel that they are getting too attached.
Men retreat into their cave to take a break and think about what comes next. They will stay in there until they find solutions. The timing always varies for each individual guy. Read the rest of this entry »
What makes a man fall completely in love with you? Head-over-heels in love? Well, a man will fall in love when you give the signals that you are really looking for and ready for lasting love.
Maybe it’s the timing, or certain qualities he is looking for, but I feel that it is mostly about chemistry and connection. The way that you look into his eyes, and the way you listen to him as if he were the only one in the world, the way you make him feel, and the feel of you in his arms.
Some men go for personality, and some like the intellectual side of you, the way that you smell, and the feeling that he can’t live without you, and that you are a part of him. Read the rest of this entry »
There are so many people that feel that they are in love with someone just because they are so amazing, and they cannot stop thinking about them, but truthfully most of the time the intense feeling that comes with really liking someone is not love, it is infatuation. How does one tell the difference?
First and foremost, when you are infatuated it happens very quickly, love is a slow process – love needs a deeper connection. Infatuation can make you feel irrational, love calms you. Infatuation can feel very intense, love is grounded, and generous, and solid. Read the rest of this entry »
It is so important to always keep the lines of communication open. Without it our relationships will not grow. I cannot stress enough how essential this is. It is the foundation, as it allows us to share our interests, to organize our lives and to make the best decisions.
Working together is the way we talk and listen to each other, not at each other. Always be clear about what you want, and need to say, so that your partner hears it accurately and understands you, and does not get any mixed signals. Share positive feelings, tell them how much they are appreciated and admired, and how important they are to you. Read the rest of this entry »
One of the hardest things that we will ever have to do is recover from a broken heart after a relationship break-up. We don’t want to be without the person we love; it hurts to say their name, or to think about them. And sometimes it is hard to even breathe.
When a relationship fails we need to go and heal. This is a time to be around people who care about us. The worst thing that we can do is to harden our hearts, and build a wall that no one can touch. All that this will do, is stop us from growing and learning more about ourselves – to know who we are and learning how to love ourselves again.
We are not to give up on future relationships, that will not serve us in the long run. We need to be able to feel again, but it takes time. Everyone has to go through their own grieving process, because no one really knows just how much you are really hurting. With time you will get there. Read the rest of this entry »
When we meet someone that we are attracted to, we don’t always listen to our ‘inner voice.’ Too often we go with our heart, instead of our head. When we don’t listen to our inner guidance and refuse to be patient, we tend to get hurt.
Women prefer men who say what they mean. Today’s women are independent and we want someone who brings out the best in us. We want a gentleman, a best friend. Yes, we want romance and respect, but most of all we want honesty and trust. For without it we have nothing. Some men never speak their minds or reveal the truth.
There are also the men who come on too strong, always calling, always texting, making you feel that he can’t live without you and everything seems so almost too good to be true. Then one day, he is gone, missing in action, retreated into his cave. I always tell women that when this happens to let it be. Don’t contact him! The reason he is in his cave is because he is trying to figure things out or find his own solutions. He needs some time and space for himself. Some will come back, and some will not, but in the meantime you must focus on yourself. Read the rest of this entry »
Knowing your past is just as important as knowing your future. There are many hurts that are carried over into this incarnation when the soul does not heal from its prior life. Most people do believe in reincarnation. I certainly do.
Knowing who you were, how you lived, and who you loved and lost in previous lives is important so that your soul can heal in this lifetime. It is one of the keys to joy and happiness.
Our soul has ‘cell memory’. Letting go of judgment toward yourself and others, and healing from guilt and other emotions from past lives, releases these memories and you become happier and have a new sense of freedom in this life. It enables you to move forward on your journey in this life. Read the rest of this entry »