Posts Tagged ‘serenity’
Doing a psychic reading can sometimes trigger unpleasant memories or negative emotions for the psychic professional. But, as unpleasant as our own experiences may have been, they do help us to identify with those individuals who approach us for counsel.
One situation which has cropped up lately relates to jealous friends or family members. More often than not, my client doesn’t have the foggiest idea as to why the jealousy is there at all, especially when they feel they’ve put every effort into sustaining the relationship in question. All friendships and relationships take work, but when we feel that, in return we are getting back bad vibes, or any kind of negativity, it doesn’t feel fair. Read the rest of this entry »
Stress confronts us around every corner. Sometimes it’s all we can do to just to get through each day. How we deal with stress says a lot about us, and there are many proactive, healthy ways to do this.
The Serenity Prayer states, “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” That is a wise prayer! Stress is unavoidable, so don’t pretend it doesn’t exist. Acknowledging that it is there and having tools to fight stress is half the battle. Using multiple tools such as meditations, problem solving strategies, and time management can be much more helpful than only having one ‘go-to’ strategy. Read the rest of this entry »
Many years ago a friend of mine told me simply to choose happiness. I was thoroughly frustrated with that statement, as there was so much opposition in my life. Like most people, I have had struggles that lasted not only months, but decades. I faced adversity not only once or twice, but repeatedly. I also had to manage all these challenges on my own, due to traveling on my own, starting my own businesses, and surviving immense loss, among other things.
At the time my well-meaning friend had simply not experienced any of these life challenges to the same degree, thus I did not believe her. To make the choice to feel joy seemed resolutely trite, in the face of such constant, episodic misfortune!
In truth, she was not too far off in that statement. Except, it was not a conscious choice, or something of cultish free will. It was more of an attitude that came over me after repeated misfortune, which led to a toughening up, a new approach, a singular mindset, a resolute focus. Read the rest of this entry »
I have been contemplating how often a friend’s photo on social media, a call from a customer, an advertisement, the written word, or an overheard phrase has triggered a really significant memory for me. This was the case again last night, when the word “bliss” featured in a commercial for chocolate on my TV screen. For some reason this prompted a memory from many years ago.
I was working temporarily in a retirement home as a caregiver. Although I didn’t have long-term plans to remain in that job, I loved working with the old people, and used to give them reflexology treatments and healing massages in my free time. The short treatments gave them great relief, and they began asking if I would come back and help them again.
This caused a lot of animosity with the rest of the staff, who were already unfriendly towards me. They made it clear that I was not ‘one of them’. I was the outsider, and not from ‘their village.’ The home’s matron asked me to stop doing any healing or therapeutic work with the residents, because it was not in my job description. Read the rest of this entry »
Some people simply add value to our lives. Kindred souls are true friends who make us feel that sharing space with them, or being around them, is right where we are meant to be. I call that comfortable, blissful feeling “being in Zen.”
Then of course we have all experienced sharing space with toxic people who make us feel like we need to leave immediately, because if we don’t take action we will soon start to feel depleted or drained. I like to describe that feeling as “going against the grain.” It very much feels like I’m doing something that doesn’t feel right, or that I am not where I’m supposed to be. Read the rest of this entry »
Parting with old emotions is difficult, but it is always followed with a happier you. To focus and work in the present to release those outworn emotions, is to fully accept your role in the creation of your life.
Negative feelings like anger are usually so emotionally charged from past situations that they become deeply embedded in our psyche, right down to the very core of our brain synapses. When we are fighting or indulging in negative emotion, we often don’t realize that we are overreacting, until after the damage is done. Then we stand alone and lonely among the destruction of our words, intentions and actions. To add insult to injury, we then sometimes look back and cover our eyes in denial, blaming others for our behavior. This way a lonely life will only become even more lonely. Read the rest of this entry »
This past year has been exceptionally transitional for me. It started with my move to Florida from Western New York, at the end of February, after I had walked away from a marriage that no longer was working. After trying and trying all these years, I just could not go on. I also lost a pet whom I loved dearly, soon after moving to Florida.
Something I don’t talk about much, which has been painful to process, are some of the reasons why I wanted to start a new life. Right after my father passed away, I decided to move away from my mother and my step-sisters. Breaking away from my family is not something I can say was an easy decision. In fact, it was one of the most difficult decisions I ever had to make. Read the rest of this entry »
It is so true to say that we live in a very challenging world. As sobering a fact this may be, spirit teaches us that there is much that can be done to rise above any challenge, to become empowered in the process, and thus influence a better future for ourselves. The secret to doing this is to self-nurture.
Why should we self-nurture, and more importantly, how does one do it right? Self-nurturing can so often, wrongly, be confused with self-indulgence, which is something different altogether. Self-nurturing can be likened to looking after yourself both spiritually and physically, and by doing both you should find: Read the rest of this entry »