Posts Tagged ‘serenity’
Most people who set New Year’s resolutions don’t keep them. Each year we tell ourselves that it’s time to move on, to change, and to leave negative people and influences in the past, and yet we seldom stick to our resolve. Is it possible to finally let go of things that hold us back? Yes, it is!
The first step we can take is to be fully honest about what is holding us back, and why it’s so difficult to let go. This is best done with the help of a mentor, such as a counselor or trusted friend, who will listen objectively. Until we have a true understanding of all our ‘baggage’ and our own part in it, it will never go away.
It is a bit of conundrum that we have this Western culture desire to achieve a goal of enlightenment… and then we die. This is like rushing through a vacation and obsessing if we are ‘doing it right.’ What is ‘right’ anyway? We each are completely different people on our own individual journey.
After we achieve our life lesson and our chosen destiny for this life, we cross over. So really, what is the rush? So, we can get onto the next what? Vacation? Job? Lover?
Whether it is music, art, great food, lovemaking… we participate in these so we can be engaged and engulfed in a full, all-consuming, memorable experience – not an end result.
One of the reasons people enjoy doing something very physical or demanding (including creating crises or drama in our lives) is because a challenge (or crises) demands our full attention. It forces us to be completely present, completely engaged and this allows us to immerse our self in enjoying or engaging in the task at hand. Read the rest of this entry »
Creating a sacred space within our homes is essential to our well-being and emotional health. How many times have you needed a time out, or place of refuge to clear your mind? Seeking peace and balance is vital, with all of the breakdowns and breakthroughs occurring in our personal lives, and the world today.
You don’t need to invest much money since simplicity is key. From past experience, the best place to start is by removing all the ‘stuff’ in your living space that is no longer needed, or wanted. Sell it. Donate it. Or toss it – depending on the value and sentiment. Read the rest of this entry »
Yesterday is history, tomorrow a mystery, today a gift from Spirit. That is why it is called ‘the present.’ The present is indeed a gift – one that is often ignored. At any given moment we can become miserable. Life is a constant series of choices and decisions. We decide what we want to pay attention to, and what we let go.
This can be a dangerous path. If you are in denial; unconsciously running away from your feelings; living in a fantasy world; using unrealistic thinking; or abuse drugs or alcohol; you can indeed ignore reality and red flags.
There is a balance. We live in the world, but we do not control it. A wonderful saying from the Twelve-Step Program is, “Do the footwork, let go of the results.” One can add to that… ‘don’t forget to smell the roses.’ Read the rest of this entry »
Doing a psychic reading can sometimes trigger unpleasant memories or negative emotions for the psychic professional. But, as unpleasant as our own experiences may have been, they do help us to identify with those individuals who approach us for counsel.
One situation which has cropped up lately relates to jealous friends or family members. More often than not, my client doesn’t have the foggiest idea as to why the jealousy is there at all, especially when they feel they’ve put every effort into sustaining the relationship in question. All friendships and relationships take work, but when we feel that, in return we are getting back bad vibes, or any kind of negativity, it doesn’t feel fair. Read the rest of this entry »
Stress confronts us around every corner. Sometimes it’s all we can do to just to get through each day. How we deal with stress says a lot about us, and there are many proactive, healthy ways to do this.
The Serenity Prayer states, “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” That is a wise prayer! Stress is unavoidable, so don’t pretend it doesn’t exist. Acknowledging that it is there and having tools to fight stress is half the battle. Using multiple tools such as meditations, problem solving strategies, and time management can be much more helpful than only having one ‘go-to’ strategy. Read the rest of this entry »
Many years ago a friend of mine told me simply to choose happiness. I was thoroughly frustrated with that statement, as there was so much opposition in my life. Like most people, I have had struggles that lasted not only months, but decades. I faced adversity not only once or twice, but repeatedly. I also had to manage all these challenges on my own, due to traveling on my own, starting my own businesses, and surviving immense loss, among other things.
At the time my well-meaning friend had simply not experienced any of these life challenges to the same degree, thus I did not believe her. To make the choice to feel joy seemed resolutely trite, in the face of such constant, episodic misfortune!
In truth, she was not too far off in that statement. Except, it was not a conscious choice, or something of cultish free will. It was more of an attitude that came over me after repeated misfortune, which led to a toughening up, a new approach, a singular mindset, a resolute focus. Read the rest of this entry »
I have been contemplating how often a friend’s photo on social media, a call from a customer, an advertisement, the written word, or an overheard phrase has triggered a really significant memory for me. This was the case again last night, when the word “bliss” featured in a commercial for chocolate on my TV screen. For some reason this prompted a memory from many years ago.
I was working temporarily in a retirement home as a caregiver. Although I didn’t have long-term plans to remain in that job, I loved working with the old people, and used to give them reflexology treatments and healing massages in my free time. The short treatments gave them great relief, and they began asking if I would come back and help them again.
This caused a lot of animosity with the rest of the staff, who were already unfriendly towards me. They made it clear that I was not ‘one of them’. I was the outsider, and not from ‘their village.’ The home’s matron asked me to stop doing any healing or therapeutic work with the residents, because it was not in my job description. Read the rest of this entry »