Posts Tagged ‘friends’
It is okay to say no. As a matter of fact, it is imperative to learn to say no, and stick with it. We observe that many of you try to be all things to all people. You run yourselves ragged, physically and emotionally, trying to please other people.
You put others ahead of yourselves and then become frustrated and angry when you have no time left for your own personal lives. This is exhausting, stressful and becomes completely unrealistic over time.
The challenge in setting healthy personal boundaries often arises when it becomes difficult to prioritize your own needs and desires against the expectations of others. Since when do these people rule your roost? Since when are their expectations more valid or important than your own peace of mind, ideas or schedules? Why do you give them such power over your dreams, goals, ambitions and life? Read the rest of this entry »
Love is not easy. Whether it be loving yourself, loving another, loving your neighbor, your country. Yet, love is also not difficult to indulge yourself in. At any age we can love, we simply need to choose it over everything else.
Do you remember as a child how easily we loved our friends, our parents, siblings, and pets. I had a cousin who was absolutely in love with her little Red Wagon, that classic toy cart produced by the American company Radio Flyer. She would load this metal contraption with her pillows and blankets, climb in, and hug it. She animated an inanimate object, and projected emotion and much love into her red wagon. She loved her wagon and brought it to life. Silly? Not really. People love their cars, clothes, purses, shoes, and ego-driven identities… so, why not love a red toy wagon? Read the rest of this entry »
Your soul family are those people you’ve probably known over many lifetimes, and whose auras and experiences are similar to your own. When you meet one, you may find yourself drawn to him or her, even if there are differences in background, age, or culture.
As with all good friends, a soul family member will instinctively understand and support you. When you meet for the first time, you might have a conversation that lasts for hours. And you’ll always be happy to see them, even on your worst days. It’s almost like being in love, but purely platonic…though you might wish you could marry the person, even when they’re not your preferred romantic gender. Read the rest of this entry »
A decade ago, I congratulated a client on her pregnancy. She was a soon-to-be single mom. Lucy was battling her own demons, and insecurity after fighting the battle with alcohol and drugs, and had fallen head over heels for Justin during a recent stint in rehab. Naturally, she was devastated when the man she loved did not show the slightest interest in ever being a part of their son’s life.
Lucy was a beautiful, and exceptionally talented young woman, but had no idea how special she was. She was a slip of a thing and seemed so vulnerable. She only had a couple of friends, since so many others, as well as family, had given her the cold shoulder because of her substance abuse. Like myself, she’d had many slips by falling off the wagon, but I believe that to this day, she is winning the battle. Read the rest of this entry »
A soulmate is often defined as the individual that we can completely resonate with, that we can truly love and that they truly love us back unconditionally. In reality, however, due to our humanness, this may not always be possible and then we may become obsessed with the search for a soulmate. In that search sadly we often miss truly wondrous opportunities to connect with love in the most unusual or unexpected places. Read the rest of this entry »
We may not always know or understand why we have connections with particular people, and even after they have passed it still seems vital that we keep those connections in place. Also, how we stay in touch may not be the same for each of us, it just is important that we do.
Many years ago, I had a lovely older friend named Pat, who came from a very affluent, upscale family and was certainly refined in every manner. It was noticeable in the way she dressed and spoke. Her whole demeanor exuded the firm self-confidence of someone who has been used to having the finer things in life.
Somewhere along the road, Pat fell in love with and married a rough-and-tough, stevedore-type fellow named Bill. By all appearances they certainly did not seem like a compatible couple, however, they stayed happily married, produced three offspring and had over 30 happy years together. Read the rest of this entry »
In the sales and marketing field they often talk of ‘location, location, location’ (no matter how good your product or service is, how successful you are often comes down to location). Perhaps in our communication with others we should think of context, context, and context?
We have entered a period of time in the world that communication is misconstrued, even fake and has more opportunities to be interpreted as confrontational, biased, and not politically correct. On top of that put an individual’s personal style of communication – introvert, extrovert, analytical, emotional subjective and all the other styles, and the matter becomes more thorny.
Then, add even another layer, such as email and social media, which does not involve the other person being face-to-face. Now communication becomes even more complex, because body language and the human expression energetically is not a resource available to us to can pick up on the subtle options for interpretation. We will initially respond to the email from our frame of reference, and our reference alone, which is biased by our experiences. Read the rest of this entry »
A message I just received from a friend and colleague, prompted me to write this blog. In a previous message to her, I had mentioned how my partner and I hadn’t quite nailed our niche place to settle, even after a major cross continent move over two years ago. She replied that over the past two years she has come to the conclusion that, despite her deep spiritual beliefs, the world has gone crazy. She is battling to find a reason why she is here, after all of her struggles and heartache.
So many spiritual teachings, including those found in A Course In Miracles, speak of how everything is just an illusion. How do we know what is real? How often have we have stopped to consider this? Being exposed to so much of what is going on around us, not just locally, but globally through social and other media, makes us question all the more. It makes it challenging to still feel like we are able to make a difference in the life of another human being or animal in this day and age. Read the rest of this entry »