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Are Romantic Relationships Meant To Last Forever?

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comWill my relationship last forever? Will I be married? Are we meant to be together in this lifetime? These are the kind of question I often get when I am doing a relationship psychic reading.

In my family everyone stayed married forever. Divorce was not acceptable. I was the first of my siblings to get a divorce and was shunned because of my choice. My parents stayed married for nearly forty years, until my father’s death. Their marriage was an experiment in terror, as I use to observe how miserable they were staying together. I used to joke with them that they were the poster children as to why I should not get married! My two siblings also tied the knot, only to find themselves in unhappy marriages.

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The Truth About Dating Mr. Wrong

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comSome guys will say and do anything possible to get laid, and that includes lying about their intentions. So will some women.

This article is an attempt to cover a small portion about a very large and vast subject. It is not meant to villainize men, or women. There are some fabulous, wonderful and loving people who would love to be in a relationship with you. They will love you and embrace you, for you. The trick is finding them.

The way we find these wonderful people is by first being able to weed out the egotistical energy vampires and abusers. The other trick is to be honest with yourself about who you are, what you are looking for, what you need, and what you want.

Women sometimes think just because a guy tells them what they want to hear means that they must be interested. Not true. If you lay out all your hopes, dreams and fantasies, believing that a guy will fulfill them before actually really getting to know him, he will most likely only use them to get you in bed.

Yes, sad but true. There are many guys you will find on a dating site that have absolutely no interest in knowing you, or they will pretend that they do, and once they get you in bed, they are gone. Some guys will just use you for sex on their terms and their time lines, and they don’t care a lick about you. Continue reading

Be Judgmental

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comIn this age of being politically correct, some might actually stop reading after seeing the title of this blog post. Please don’t. People these days might accept the terms discernment, or judgment call, but never judgment! But there is no problem with having a judgment. The issue is what you choose to do with that judgment (or judgment call, or discernment). What matters is how you respond to your inner voice judging what is happening. It matters a great deal.

If you have been raised to put others before yourself, you have been taught to not protect yourself, but rather to put the needs, wants and desires of others first. The false belief is that this is done in order to protect yourself, to survive. If you have not questioned your past, or worked on learning about, or healing, your childhood (which happened on purpose as part of your incarnation, and therefore is a key element of exploration for you to advance in soul evolution) you will not even know that putting others first is your default setting. It will simply be ‘normal’ for you, while you continue to wonder why certain patterns of you getting ‘slammed,’ or getting taken advantage of, keep happening.

You cannot heal what you do not know. Children of alcoholics, or addicts, or narcissists, or childhood trauma (war, earthquakes, divorce, death, poverty) often learn that they have to suppress who they are, what they want or need, even what they think, in order to become what someone else wanted them to be, in order to survive, in order to live. Continue reading

Let Spirit Put Ego In Its Place

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comI recently had a conversation with a lovely, learned lady who was quite beside herself, because her husband of ten years simply got up and walked out on her… with no explanation whatsoever! She was understandably beside herself with shock and grief. I asked her what kind of relationship she felt they had and she assured me it was a very loving one. I find it almost impossible to believe that a loving, caring partner would all of a sudden just turn his back with all they had shared together and walk out the door, in what appeared to be a cold and callous man.

I then asked her why she felt they had such a good situation between them and she said it was because she loved him so much. She did all she could to keep him happy and satisfied. Well, now we were obviously getting somewhere. On further probing I found this man had been emotionally detached, and certainly oblivious to her needs. How can this, by any definition, be a warm and loving relationship?

Her ego most assuredly suffered a blow, but I do wonder where spirit was in all of this. It would make no sense to me if spirit accepted such a one-sided relationship that was  completely devoid of any care or kindness.

My suspicion is that she had convinced herself that this ‘relationship’ had to maintain itself, or she would not be an ‘acceptable’ woman if she did not have a prominent male in her life, even under these trying conditions. There we go, when ego runs the show a myriad of pains can certainly appear on the horizon! Continue reading

The Wounded Inner Child

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comA wounded inner child will wreak havoc in your life, control your emotional reactions, and flavor all of your life situations and choices. In the extreme, every abuser, pedophile, sadist, emotional abuser has also been abused, but more importantly, remain unhealed. The damages from their own past remain unexamined and is usually still alive in the unconsciousness, and therefore unhealed.

The magical, spiritual, loving, hopeful, optimistic, healed or never wounded inner child does the same: runs your life, controls your heart chakra, and therefore your emotional reactions, and makes healthy choices that support you as an adult.

Simply knowing about the state of your inner child, or making blithe comments about your inner child, does not imply a healing. Simply saying that you have learned some information is a bit like ‘monkey see, monkey do.’ It is a start, but information is not knowledge. Information applied, worked with, integrated into your learning styles, and into your life experiences, becomes knowledge.

Knowing you love someone is different than loving them. People who regularly abuse their spouse psychically, will fall on their knees proclaiming their love, even as their victim lays there waiting for the ambulance. And in their great sorrow, they actually mean what they say. And yet they will do it again, and again, and again. The information is in their head. They did a bad thing, they love their spouse, however because there is no knowledge, there is no healing. Their behavior will continue, until perhaps imprisonment, or some other extreme circumstance occurs. Continue reading

Changed Life Is A Mission Accomplished

click here to get a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comFrom time to time a client will ask me how I manage to stay focused when people so frequently seek the same advice over and over. “I don’t know how you put up with me,” they might say.

Well, in all honestly, I don’t feel I am ‘putting up’ with them at all. On the contrary, I feel honored that they feel safe enough to share their concerns with me. If it’s important to them… then it’s important.

What does concern me, however, is that I will be able to offer them some helpful direction and healing during a time which must feel to them like they are in a dark pit of hopelessness, or that the rug has been pulled from under them. They are often in shock over an incident, usually connected to a relationship or a career. But there always is an answer, or a solution. Continue reading

The Path To A Healthy Relationship

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comEverything we experience in life is an opportunity to grow and embrace fully who we are. In India they say that the path of the householder is the hardest spiritual path, far harder than that of the monk or hermit. In other words, facing the daily challenges of domestic responsibilities and being in close relationship with others, whether it be romantic, family, or work, is the hardest path to manage.

It is challenging in our everyday life to stay close to God, or remain true to the blueprint of who we were created to be spiritually. The good news is that, as we do learn to manage our challenges, we exponentially strengthen who we are. (Note, I use the term ‘God’ as a convenient, small word to indicate a vast Divine experience too big for me to describe, or define.) Continue reading

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