Posts Tagged ‘abuse’
Humans have an electro-magnetic energy field, which is why we have medical technology like magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) scans. In Chinese philosophy and Taoism it is believed that this energy field consists of the dualistic energies of Yin and Yang. They are direct opposites, but also interdependent and complimentary to each other. We need good a balance of the two for optimal well-being, happiness and personal fulfillment.
Yang energy is the electric, active energy, full of outward movement. Too much Yang can make a person overbearing, impatient, impulsive. American culture tends to worship Yang energy. Think of slogans like “Just do it” and “No fear.” Read the rest of this entry »
Finding true love is hard. Literally. At times it feels like you have hit a cement wall, but it happens, and it hurts. The pain of love that once was, and is now unrequited, is not something one would wish on your worst enemies.
You may have loved with the hope and possibility of your love being returned, but instead you loved someone who just didn’t feel the same way. Or, you loved someone deeply, who also loved you in return, and then for some unknown reason, they turned off the switch.
When this happens, you are hurt in ways that are unimaginable and extremely bewildering. This person loved you and you loved them. Maybe they met someone new? Maybe their love was never real? Whatever the case, you’re left in excruciating pain. Read the rest of this entry »
I have counseled so many people that are normally outgoing, loving, supportive, wonderful souls, but sometimes these souls are so giving they give themselves away. They forget to protect themselves in the process. Have you ever had this presence of an emotional vampire in your life? This can happen in a love relationship or a friendship, or with a family member.
Is their needs all that count, but yours never ever do? Love is not love, and friendship is not friendship, if you put aside yourself on a daily basis. This is what we have to remind ourselves of on a continual basis. Sure, relationships are give and take, but when they seem to take and take, and there is no giving, something is off. Read the rest of this entry »
Today’s full moon on July 19th is traditionally known as the Full Mead Moon in Germany.
Long, long ago, God of wisdom, poetry and war, Odin, made a decision to send a younger God, Mani, to the skies. Mani was a very handsome God and his duty was to drive the chariot and fill the dark night skies with light.
Odin collected all things wasted on Earth and sent them with Mani. He collected misspent time and broken vows, abandoned friends and squandered wealth.
Every night Mani’s chariot was filled to the brim with unanswered prayers and wasted talent, unfulfilled promises and favors. He also carried the hearts of the ones who did not love, and the memories of the ones who did not care to remember.
Mani took two children with him too, a blonde boy named Hyuki, and his sister called Bil. But this was not Odin’s original plan. Read the rest of this entry »
When I would lament life’s ups and downs, a good friend use to say to me, “Amy, it is what it is.” I hated that particular saying! It wasn’t until I was older, and maybe a little wiser, than I came understand its full meaning.
Relationships of any kind, whether that be romantic, familial, friendship, co-worker or whatever, can be a great teacher. I recently discovered a relationship to be such a case in my life.
A very dear friend of mine has been abusing alcohol to the point of addiction. I seems as if this person is on a path to self-destruction, as if she no longer wants to live. I have never seen someone drink so much in a short period of time as I have witnessed with this particular friend. Her family has tried to reason with her as well, but to no avail. We are all at the end of our ropes! Read the rest of this entry »
I have heard disturbing stories of metaphysical gurus and spiritual teachers sexually exploiting their followers or people under their care. This raises questions around the ethics of being in a helping profession, and also how to be on the receiving end of such help or support. Is the spiritual community paying enough attention to red flags and boundaries?
When do we set boundaries? One does not want to be too paranoid, however waiting too long might send the wrong message, like “your behavior is okay.” We want the help, but sometimes the price we are asked to pay is not so clear. I shall explore the intricacies, the dance, of this aspect of a helping relationship through the narrative below. Read the rest of this entry »
I have struggled with depression for many years. I used to have highs and lows. During the highs I was invincible, untouchable and successful. Everything I touched seemed to turn to gold (in my mind). My personal appearance would be well-manicured, my house immaculate, gourmet meals were served for breakfast lunch and dinner. I would start new businesses, for having a husband, two children and a full-time shift job was not enough.
I launched these businesses with great success while on my emotional highs. Money excited me – not other people’s money, but the money I was able to make during these manic bouts. I loved it and loathed it all at the same time. I barely needed to sleep. I would spend lavishly on those I loved. Read the rest of this entry »
Spirit recently communicated the power of pain and the importance of forgiveness to me in a way I had never quite conceptualized before. Pain is a natural process of the human experience. It is a messaging system that tells us something is not quite right with our situation.
This is true for our physical body, as well as our emotional body. The difference between the two is that physical pain is often more easily recognized, and the appropriate steps to relieve and even to heal the pain can be taken when it is recognized. Emotional pain, however, is more often left unrecognized, or the messages that are being sent are pushed aside.
Both men and women are taught to suppress their pain. Traditional adages like, “boys don’t cry,” or “keep a stiff upper lip,” are reflections of emotional ignorance. We now also live in a society where we are being medicated for emotional issues at rapidly increasing rates, which only adds to the ignorance of our emotional state. Read the rest of this entry »