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Let Spirit Put Ego In Its Place

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comI recently had a conversation with a lovely, learned lady who was quite beside herself, because her husband of ten years simply got up and walked out on her… with no explanation whatsoever! She was understandably beside herself with shock and grief. I asked her what kind of relationship she felt they had and she assured me it was a very loving one. I find it almost impossible to believe that a loving, caring partner would all of a sudden just turn his back with all they had shared together and walk out the door, in what appeared to be a cold and callous man.

I then asked her why she felt they had such a good situation between them and she said it was because she loved him so much. She did all she could to keep him happy and satisfied. Well, now we were obviously getting somewhere. On further probing I found this man had been emotionally detached, and certainly oblivious to her needs. How can this, by any definition, be a warm and loving relationship?

Her ego most assuredly suffered a blow, but I do wonder where spirit was in all of this. It would make no sense to me if spirit accepted such a one-sided relationship that was  completely devoid of any care or kindness.

My suspicion is that she had convinced herself that this ‘relationship’ had to maintain itself, or she would not be an ‘acceptable’ woman if she did not have a prominent male in her life, even under these trying conditions. There we go, when ego runs the show a myriad of pains can certainly appear on the horizon! Continue reading

The Wounded Inner Child

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comA wounded inner child will wreak havoc in your life, control your emotional reactions, and flavor all of your life situations and choices. In the extreme, every abuser, pedophile, sadist, emotional abuser has also been abused, but more importantly, remain unhealed. The damages from their own past remain unexamined and is usually still alive in the unconsciousness, and therefore unhealed.

The magical, spiritual, loving, hopeful, optimistic, healed or never wounded inner child does the same: runs your life, controls your heart chakra, and therefore your emotional reactions, and makes healthy choices that support you as an adult.

Simply knowing about the state of your inner child, or making blithe comments about your inner child, does not imply a healing. Simply saying that you have learned some information is a bit like ‘monkey see, monkey do.’ It is a start, but information is not knowledge. Information applied, worked with, integrated into your learning styles, and into your life experiences, becomes knowledge.

Knowing you love someone is different than loving them. People who regularly abuse their spouse psychically, will fall on their knees proclaiming their love, even as their victim lays there waiting for the ambulance. And in their great sorrow, they actually mean what they say. And yet they will do it again, and again, and again. The information is in their head. They did a bad thing, they love their spouse, however because there is no knowledge, there is no healing. Their behavior will continue, until perhaps imprisonment, or some other extreme circumstance occurs. Continue reading

Changed Life Is A Mission Accomplished

click here to get a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comFrom time to time a client will ask me how I manage to stay focused when people so frequently seek the same advice over and over. “I don’t know how you put up with me,” they might say.

Well, in all honestly, I don’t feel I am ‘putting up’ with them at all. On the contrary, I feel honored that they feel safe enough to share their concerns with me. If it’s important to them… then it’s important.

What does concern me, however, is that I will be able to offer them some helpful direction and healing during a time which must feel to them like they are in a dark pit of hopelessness, or that the rug has been pulled from under them. They are often in shock over an incident, usually connected to a relationship or a career. But there always is an answer, or a solution. Continue reading

The Path To A Healthy Relationship

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comEverything we experience in life is an opportunity to grow and embrace fully who we are. In India they say that the path of the householder is the hardest spiritual path, far harder than that of the monk or hermit. In other words, facing the daily challenges of domestic responsibilities and being in close relationship with others, whether it be romantic, family, or work, is the hardest path to manage.

It is challenging in our everyday life to stay close to God, or remain true to the blueprint of who we were created to be spiritually. The good news is that, as we do learn to manage our challenges, we exponentially strengthen who we are. (Note, I use the term ‘God’ as a convenient, small word to indicate a vast Divine experience too big for me to describe, or define.) Continue reading

Conquer Your Fear For An Authentic Life

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comI have done thousands of readings for people from around the world, and I can assure you that fear is part of the human condition. It is not only a valuable asset to recognize danger (emotionally and physically), but it can also be an opportunity to face the fear that is holding you back from living your best, authentic life.

Fear is a reaction to something, or someone, that one perceives as dangerous, threatening or potentially painful. Fear is not necessarily a bad thing, as it helps us avoid dangerous situations, like touching a very hot surface, or swimming in rapidly-moving water. It can also be related to loss of a loved one. If, for example, a person is between the ages of birth to 18 years and dependent upon a parent to meet basic needs, the fear becomes very deep-rooted, and the same is true if you are older and suffered many or even one significant loss. We can also become frightened before speaking to a large group of people, when boarding an airplane… or just thinking about it! Some of us fear clowns or a wild animals. Continue reading

Signs You Are Being Gaslighted

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comYou’re crazy, that never happened. You’re too sensitive. You’re making things up. No one else has ever said that about me. I get along with everyone else except you. I’ve never had this problem with anyone else but you. Everyone says you’re crazy. I’m not cheating, so maybe you are… since you are accusing me. You are too sensitive.

These are just some of the things you might hear when someone is gaslighting you, when you have confronted them with their own issues or manipulations.

Gaslighting is a form of abuse that is more common in romantic relationships, but it can occur in landlord and tenant relationships, friendships, employee and employer relationships, and even in relationships with neighbors. It is basically the art of messing with someone’s mind or reality. Sometimes it is done in an obvious way, right in front of the person, and sometimes it is under the radar and you don’t you know who is gaslighting you, or even if you are actually being gaslighted. Continue reading

Saying Thank You Is Good Karma

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comKarma can be witnessed by looking back on one’s own life and experiences, or by observing the lives of others and how karma affected them. If you are close with someone you can see their karma unfold if you’re paying attention. Sometimes we don’t see it until much later in life.

A less obvious kind of karma, which I have started to notice over this past year, relates to saying two simple words: thank you. Why is saying thank you so very difficult for some people? I have never understood it, until recently.

One of the most common reasons people don’t say thank you, is because they were never taught to do so as children. Usually we are taught these things early on. But some people are brought up in dysfunctional homes where there is the lack love, attention and connection between parent and child. Continue reading

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