Posts Tagged ‘communication’
A decade ago, I congratulated a client on her pregnancy. She was a soon-to-be single mom. Lucy was battling her own demons, and insecurity after fighting the battle with alcohol and drugs, and had fallen head over heels for Justin during a recent stint in rehab. Naturally, she was devastated when the man she loved did not show the slightest interest in ever being a part of their son’s life.
Lucy was a beautiful, and exceptionally talented young woman, but had no idea how special she was. She was a slip of a thing and seemed so vulnerable. She only had a couple of friends, since so many others, as well as family, had given her the cold shoulder because of her substance abuse. Like myself, she’d had many slips by falling off the wagon, but I believe that to this day, she is winning the battle. Read the rest of this entry »
In the sales and marketing field they often talk of ‘location, location, location’ (no matter how good your product or service is, how successful you are often comes down to location). Perhaps in our communication with others we should think of context, context, and context?
We have entered a period of time in the world that communication is misconstrued, even fake and has more opportunities to be interpreted as confrontational, biased, and not politically correct. On top of that put an individual’s personal style of communication – introvert, extrovert, analytical, emotional subjective and all the other styles, and the matter becomes more thorny.
Then, add even another layer, such as email and social media, which does not involve the other person being face-to-face. Now communication becomes even more complex, because body language and the human expression energetically is not a resource available to us to can pick up on the subtle options for interpretation. We will initially respond to the email from our frame of reference, and our reference alone, which is biased by our experiences. Read the rest of this entry »
When I facilitate a séance, it is to give the sitters opportunity to communicate with departed spirits that have crossed over to the other side, which the spirits like to call ‘home.’ Spirits often like to call the day they left the earth plain their ‘birthday’ going back home. Death is the beginning of their life in the other side, as some people like to call it. Matter cannot be destroyed it just changes form.
A séance is group session aimed at communicating with spirits. The word séance comes from the French word for seat, session or setting (from the old French seoir, which means to sit).
There are usually three to twelve people in the séance. I prefer six to eight, and if possible a mix of female and male energy. When people come to my space for a séance I have a nice round wooden pedestal table. Lighting is a personal preference. Some mediums like very little light, some like a red light, because they believe it is easier to see spirit in red light. I personally feel spirit can communicate in any kind of lighting. Read the rest of this entry »
Self-forgiveness is so essential in today’s modern world. With the festive season fast approaching, however, forgiving oneself is more important than ever, so we can enjoy our time to the full and not let guilt, self-punishment and blame get in the way.
As human beings we have all glanced at our calendars and cringed at the fact that we have overlooked a loved one’s birthday, or not spent as much quality time with our family as we intended. Equally, resentment can kick in when those around us tend to forget our birthdays, or fail to notice our efforts on the professional or home front. Read the rest of this entry »
Is your partner cheating on you? Is your spouse seeing someone else? These thoughts can be life-changing in a relationship. It can create a wall that is very difficult to tear down, especially if it is not the truth of the situation. Yet, if true, it can also destroy a family.
There are several signs to watch for in every relationship that will bring the truth of the situation to you. However, you must be willing to act after knowing the truth, and not just sit there and be disrespected.
Does the cell phone get hidden when you walk into a room, after they have been fervently texting on it? Does it go in their pocket, or under a cushion? Does it go into the bathroom with them? Is it always by the bed, in a place that you could never access it? Is it password or fingerprint protected so you cannot see anything in it? Has it become a third appendage attached to the person at all times? Are they chuckling, however won’t show you what they find so amusing?
One day, a female monkey picked up a sweet potato and washed the sand and dirt off in a nearby stream. Soon after, the mother of the juvenile monkey was also washing her sweet potatoes in the stream. In this unusual case it was a youngster had taught an adult and not the other way around, as is more commonly observed.
Over the course of the next five years, one by one, several of the other monkeys of the group also picked up the habit of washing off their sweet potatoes. The exact number is unclear, but something amazing is said to have happened – as if overnight, all of the monkeys were washing their potatoes in streams, and in the sea. Even monkeys on the other islands, crossing natural barriers. Read the rest of this entry »
The word pathos comes from the Greek word ‘to feel’. Etymologically the preceding word means ‘to feel together.’ This could be a misinterpretation, as all people have very unique versions and imprints of feeling.
Every emotional state is unique. Nothing can transcend the way someone perceives a memory of color, the way one first experiences a moment, and the feeling associated to it, and the feeling it imprints into us.
To feel together would be to assume that every state is intuitively identical to all of us, and this is entirely untrue. Unique perception accounts for most of the states of feeling we have, apart from basic feelings we have that may have to do with survival states. These feelings may include grief (in order to process loss), anger (in order to transcend negative situations), or joy, to extend the best probabilities for survival. Read the rest of this entry »
We are all different. Each person is a piece of the puzzle that creates a group. All people are raised different. People may have different spiritual beliefs, different educational backgrounds, jobs, nationalities. Yet, if the common goal is the same, there is no reason why we cannot achieve much more in our world. Some of us simply need to find a way to respect diversity.
Spiritual groups tend to be the especially challenging when it comes to diversity. Too often spiritually-minded people are expected to always agree with everyone about everything, in order to promote goodwill among group members and keep the peace. But in any group people have to learn how to agree to disagree. It’s always okay to have your own opinion and express how you feel. One must just remember that not all of the group may agree with your thoughts. Read the rest of this entry »