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The Confusion Of Psychic Bingeing

click pic for a free reading at PsychicAccess.comHave you ever had a life question weighing on you so heavily, that you have called several psychics trying to get the same answer, or some new information? Do you ever call different psychic readers and ask the same question over and over? And when you don’t get the same answer from everyone, do you start to doubt their readings? This bingeing approach to consulting psychics is a road to disaster, and extreme confusion.

I am usually concerned when someone calls me, after they have asked several other psychics the same question. I ask myself if the client is attempting to get the answer they want, or are they just so desperate that they are looking for something that fits? I sometimes hear, “Well, another psychic told me that he was coming back to me.” Or, “Another psychic told me that I would get the job, and now you are telling me I won’t?”

Sometimes what we want to hear is not necessarily the truth, neither is it always what would be good for us to hear. I understand why some people feel the need to go from one psychic to another, shopping for the ‘best answers.’ Usually the caller’s question is just very painful to deal with, and they want to be comforted, or at least just heard on a deeper level. This is very understandable. But consulting so many different psychics with diverse styles and varying approaches to reading, can lead to confusion and obsession, even dependency, and sometimes a reckless expense of one’s hard-earned money.

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When Your Man Is Not Ready To Commit

click pic for a free reading at PsychicAccess.comI often hear how wonderful the guy is that she is dating… if only he would commit to taking their relationship to the next level! If a woman is not satisfied with the way things are going and what she is getting from the relationship, should she continue to wait for him?

By patiently waiting for him against your better judgment, he only learns that he can get away with his lack of commitment, especially if he feels comfortable with what he is getting from the relationship. This way a pattern is formed.

So, how do you avoid wasting some of the best years of your life waiting on a guy that is never going to commit? well, right from the start you tell him what your looking for and what your expectations are. But handle it carefully, after all you don’t want to scare him away before things even get off the ground!

But do let him know how you feel about dating, long-term relationships, commitment, marriage, children, and whatever else may be important to you. This will inform him, so that you have a better shot at being on the same page. If he starts to make excuses, or says that he is not interested in a long-term commitment, at least not right now, then accept his words as the truth.

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‘Handling’ People

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comWhen people ‘handle’ me, it makes my skin crawl, literally. Why do people feel the need to ‘handle’ others? What is the difference between say being diplomatic with someone, being professional, or having boundaries, all of which are healthy behaviors, compared to ‘handling’ someone? The simple answer is energy.

Handling someone means you are a closed book, you have an agenda with a person and you want to accomplish that agenda, whether it is to get something from the person or to make that person go away (without you simply setting a boundary or being honest).

People who ‘handle’ others often do not know that is what they are doing; it is their unconscious ‘go-to’ behavior, their norm. Some ways of discovering if you are handling versus relating to someone, is to look at your other choices.

You may not realize that addicts always need handling. So, if you are an addict (of any kind — drugs, alcohol, sugar, sex, anything you feel compelled to do in excess), or if you tend to date, marry or make friends with addicts of any sort, you are more than likely someone who ‘handles’ others, as well as yourself. A handler type person will choose addicts often without realizing or admitting to themselves that they are an addict, because addicts do in fact need to be ‘handled’ until they come out of denial and start to participate in their recovery.

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Dirty Little Secrets

click here for a free reading at PsychicAccess.comSo many of us have secrets. Some sneak food, others drink alcohol, or they have a sugar habit, can’t have an orgasm, or they are depressed. More interestingly, in my experience, some people in the helping, motivation, exercise, or spiritual industry often have more secrets than most. They keep these secrets, because they have more to lose. If they are supposed to be selling a service or product that ‘works’… appearances matter (perhaps even more than the practice they sell).

Furthermore, people love to worship their idols and gurus… who are sometimes frail and imperfect humans themselves. We create heroes who in turn create themselves. Some of these ‘heroes’ come close to revealing themselves, most are only revealed after their death. In truth, we have no idea what other people are really going through in their lives. Nor do we typically want to know. Instead we prefer to worship some ideal. This helps us to further self-criticize, because we are not that ideal like them. And this in turn encourages everyone to keep more secrets.

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The Importance Of Setting Boundaries

click here now for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comI think my life-long lesson is boundaries and setting them. When I first started my journey in recovery, I had no clue what boundaries were. I think I am still learning them as I encounter situations, both spiritual and otherwise.

What is a boundary?  A boundary is a self-imposed limit on behaviors determining how you are to be treated, what type of behavior you will or will not tolerate, and how you will react when you feel those boundaries have been violated.

One example of a personal boundary is someone yelling at you.  You tell the person yelling at you, not to yell at you, otherwise you will walk up and leave the room. Then you get up and walk away from the situation if their behavior persists.

Another example is inappropriate tardiness. An individual tells you they will be at a place at a certain time. You are there on time, but the other person is not. You wait and wait. Then after several minutes, you leave. If the person shows up late without letting you know, they are out of luck. The person shows you who they are when they do not show up on time. Your time is precious and it shows a level of disrespect.

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Needing The Love Of A Spiritual Teacher

click photo for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comThe love of a spiritual teacher is not human love and this is often misunderstood in our Western culture. Many people are drawn to spirituality because they are profoundly lonely. For those looking for the love of a teacher, you can count on that loneliness to be a profoundly unconscious desire to be connected to the Self and to Spirit.

On a dangerous note, this is how cult leaders thrive, by preying on those who don’t realize they are seeking spiritual love, and by offering a manipulative human love. Human love can never fill the gaping hole, and because cult leaders tend to be sociopaths, it can take years for cult followers to wake up. By then there will be a great deal of damage control needed in order to heal.

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Claircognizance – The Gift Of Psychic Knowing

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comClaircognizance may not be the most glamorous psychic ability, but it is arguably the most underrated and misunderstood of all the psychic senses. On the surface it appears lackluster as a sixth sense, but it is actually a profound and powerful psychic gift. Claircognizance is often also a source of much amusement and even hilarity in my work as psychic medium. And that’s not all… it also happens to be the psychic ability that most frequently gets me into a lot of trouble in my personal life. Why? Well, because I tend to know stuff that I am not supposed to know!

Claircognizance or ‘clear knowing’ is the pathway of extra-sensory perception (ESP) that manifests as spontaneous factual knowledge and information. At times it also produces baffling insights, deep inherent wisdom, and even inspired ideas and solutions to complex problems. This psychic ability causes people like me to know things spontaneously, without any rational explanation for why we know it. We simply know something, the same way you would know which way to turn on the hot water tap in your bathroom…but without ever being shown how to do it.

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