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Is Your ‘Soulmate’ A Narcissistic Predator?
He must be your soulmate, or twin flame, because he knows you so well. He has taught you so many things about yourself. Surely, this means he is ‘the one.’ I don’t think so. You might want to say something like this regarding your therapist, teacher or healer, but even then I would still be careful.
If you are constantly looking for someone to ‘get’ you, or yearning to be understood on a ‘deeper level,’ you might as well have a target on your back that says: prey. If you are so wounded and empty that you need to be constantly affirmed by another, then you need some serious healing, prolonged growth work on your Self, your inner child and your relationship with your Higher Self and Source.
Even when working with a spiritual teacher or healer, if they are doing most of the work for you, telling you all about your Self, then they are merely telling you a narrative, a story. Stories don’t solve problems, or heal. Information or data does not heal. It can point you in the right direction, but ultimately information does not heal, action does.
So if your healer, teacher, therapist or counselor is telling you all about your Self and that is all they are doing, you might want to reconsider. Reevaluate how much help you are actually getting. It is only a mental boost to receive this kind of information. In other words, your brain feels temporarily happy with the excitement of words. But it is ‘drug’ that will wear off quickly. Soon, you will then trotting off in search of another high.
The Myths Of Mercury Retrograde
As a practicing psychic, I have on many occasions spoken to clients who were concerned about the planet Mercury going retrograde. They typically fear that this recurring planetary event might wreak havoc in their lives. While astrologers agree that it can at times be a more challenging time, many of the fears about retrogrades are often unfounded, and based on myth and misinformation. Its potential effect on our daily lives can actually be highly positive and beneficial.
Reputable astrologers quite rightly point out that by truly understanding Mercury Retrograde and how to manage its influence in our life, we can actually turn it into a positive experience, rather than a negative one. For my part, should you have been worried about the Mercury Retrograde in the past, I hope to ease at least some of your concerns here, as to what role this phenomenon can, and cannot play in your daily life.
The Spinning Backwards Myth
The most prevalent myth about Mercury Retrograde is that the planet is ‘spinning backwards’ at this time. The truth of the matter, as any astronomer would tell you, is that Mercury is not actually moving backwards during a retrograde. It only appears to be receding.
The planet Mercury is closer to the Sun than any other planet and therefore circles around it in as little 88 days. The Earth, on the other hand, takes much longer, i.e. a whole year to complete this trip. During a retrograde, Mercury appears to slow down, while Earth seems to move at a faster rate. This creates an optical illusion in the heavens which makes it seem that Mercury is spinning backwards in its orbit. However, Mercury is merely moving more slowly around the Sun, compared to planet Earth.
One can liken this to Mercury being a race car on the inside track, while Earth is on the outside of the track and overtaking Mercury. While doing so, as Earth appears to go faster, it would seem that the Mercury is slowing down or, in fact, going backwards, even though this is not the case.
Aligning Yourself To Attract Lasting Love
When I do readings, many people usually want to talk about their love life. This is a valid and meaningful subject for all of us. Having a meaningful, harmonious and loving relationship is a wonderful part of the human experience. However, it is also true that a relationship often does not solve many of the problems and issues we have as a single person.
It is important to understand that we carry our consciousness with us everywhere we go. If you assume that you will find a relationship that will ‘make you happy,’ then you are deeply mistaken.
Yes, we may draw temporary relational circumstances that allow us to feel a little better about ourselves, but without a firm structure of personal happiness, we will eventually engage in self-sabotaging behaviors that cause the relationship to become unsustainable.
Again, we will carry our consciousness with us everywhere that we go. If we are discontent being single, we will find a way to be discontent in the relationship also.
Every relationship is the product of co-creation. Too often when a relationship does not work out, it is easy to point to the other person and say, “You did this to me.” And it makes sense, because if the original assumption is that the other person will ‘make us happy,’ then we will also make the automatic assumption that the other person can ‘make us miserable.’
Feeling Like You’re Not Good Enough
Sometimes we put our heart and soul into a relationship, only to get cheated on, or dumped for no reason. The main question that usually comes to mind in this type of situation is, “Why am I not good enough?”
Take a moment and consider the relationships of relatives and friends, who have gone through similar a experience. Some people are able to jump right up and move forward, while others sit and wallow in self-doubt and self-loathing – sometimes for years.
Working with many people over the years, one of the biggest eye openers for me has been that it is typically the partner who is left behind, and then struggles to move forward, who compromised the most in the relationship. They usually gave, and gave, and gave, and didn’t receive much in return. Their needs always took a backseat in the relationship. They would sacrifice more and more, until there was nothing left for them to give, while their partner did not change and simply kept using and abusing them.
If you constantly compromise on what you really want from a relationship, the union will at some point simply disintegrate. The other person is never going to magically become someone different. That person you hoped they would become, after you moved in, or after you gave a little more, or after you married them, or after you had a child with them…never shows up. What you see in someone from the start, is simply who they are.
The Astrological Compatibility Of Romantic Relationships
Many popular songs have declared over the years that “loves makes the world go round.” No doubt, compatibility is a big thing! Big enough to make people spend millions every year on various matchmaking services, online dating apps and relationship gurus. Human beings are social creatures, naturally geared towards finding a mate. Finding a mate, however, is not the key here. Finding the ‘right’ mate is.
General compatibility, or being able to exist, live, or work together without conflict, does not adequately define the nature of true compatibility. Sharing the same bed in a gratifying manner takes awesome precedence! Experiencing genuine physical attraction and ‘chemistry’ is the number one requirement for sexual intimacy. For a romantic couple to continue thriving and their love to remain invigorated, this level of compatibility dominates the other requirements in a gratifying union.
Where does this sensually-elicited, thrilling energy come from? The patterned configuration of clustered stars, where else! Because everything organic and inorganic: people, places, events, weather, plants, animals, air, food, water, universes, galaxies, are all intricately connected. Nothing is exempt.
Comprised of incalculably indestructible elements, minerals, nutrients, and gases; we are all fused cosmic particles, star dust, which never die, but simply change form. And because we are so sublimely constructed, we are affected, influenced and subjected to the inner combination’s of these ultrasonic mixtures.
Jump, Jump For My Love!
Romantic relationships, who needs them? The truth is, we all do. Who can be involved in them authentically? Well, now we are immediately reminded just how wonderfully fragile and caustic the combination of two energetic egos can display themselves in these unions. Fragile in the sense that we usually do not see or appreciate what is right there before our eyes. And caustic, because we take things way too personally.
Our conditioned brains are so accustomed to looking for problems! Bad idea. An outright orgasmic, orchestrated gathering can take place in the most intimate of relationships. But, unfortunately, we too often have our sights set on something ‘better’ over the shoulder of our partner.
What is it we are searching for? How did we lose interest, when just a moment ago our mate made our heart throbbing and our knees wobbling? The problems begins when we set up an idea of what we expect from the other. Yes, we expect the other to fulfill something in us we believe we do not possess.
Truth be known: humans are driven by lack and fear. We are also constantly steering away from pain and striving toward pleasure. When the object of our foremost desire begins to dwindle in the pleasure-seeking particular department, it is only because we have set up unattainable, exclusionary, illusion-drenched goal for the partner to master.
We are no longer satisfied with the mere act of them jumping over four foot hurdles. We want them to scale even taller buildings, or soar into the skies carrying a banner which reads: I will fulfill your every need and desire! Impossible. Nobody can do that. Furthermore, who would really want to do that much?
Venus In Your Astrology Chart
Most people are familiar with their Sun, Moon and Rising Sign, but Astrology goes so much deeper than that. For example, if your birth sign is Scorpio, you could have Venus in Leo, which would make you more expressive and spontaneous in relationships.
Venus, the planet of romance and relationships, plays a significant role in how we approach love and passion in our lives. Below is a list of all the zodiac signs and how they may be influenced by Venus in you and your partner’s chart.
Aries
There is never a dull moment with Venus in Aries. They are adventurous, intense and will let the world know that you give them meaning. They are a sucker for love at first sight and typically enjoy showing you off.
However, as quick as Aries can fall in love, they can also lose interest, if it’s ‘too much, too soon.’ Aries usually act on impulse and enjoy the chase, so don’t smother them because they love to hunt.
Taurus
Taurus brings a lot of stability and grounding energy to a relationship. They prefer enjoying private moments in the comfort of home, or watching the sunset. They are sensual and enjoy indulging in fine dining and luxury.
Taurus also prefers for relationships to grow organically and are big on developing a strong bond that can withstand any storm. Slow and steady wins the race, so don’t get too pushy or demanding, because they will turn to stone.