Posts Tagged ‘dating’
Some of my most treasured moments have been the conversations I’ve had with folks from my grandparents’ generation. I especially like to ask elderly couples what their secret is to a long-lasting marriage, or relationship.
Their answers always put a smile on my face. Usually they would say that they slowly got to know each other, to see if they had the same values and decide if they were compatible.
Sadly, much has changed over the years. These days people no longer seem willing to put in the work and commitment it takes to build a strong foundation for a healthy, enduring relationship. Instead, we rush into romantic connections without thinking and seldom questioning the other person or their motives. Read the rest of this entry »
I was finishing up a health survey recently, for which I had been selected as a participant in a statewide population-based study. About halfway through the questionnaire was a section on stressors that I had experienced in my life over the past 12 months.
The questionnaire featured 43 items of stress, all considered significant major events in a person’s life, both positive and negative. Just taking the test, had me stressed finding out what my results were at the end. I ended up with 15 of the 43 events listed having happened to me in the previous 12 months.
When I retook the test, with the previous four years in mind, I got a whopping 24 out of 43 events listed! In addition, an overwhelming majority of these stressful events were negative. Only two of them are considered positive. Read the rest of this entry »
We all have a soul light that is eternal and bright. It shines through our physical being when we are aligned with our authentic self. We are all individually created to be different from one another. If we can remember that, especially when others appear to reject us, we’ve accessed the key to unlock our soul archetype.
When we compare ourselves to others, we get off track and can try to muster up a fictitious self that becomes impossible to uphold. It creates expectations that trap us, and can actually prevent us from shining our own, unique light into the world.
Have you ever felt like you are different, or don’t fit in? The first step to finding your authentic self, and tracing back to who you are as a unique soul, is to detach from others. Sometimes there is a feeling of loneliness associated with this, but if you keep moving forward, and through it, and trust in what’s unfolding, you will land in a place where true confidence resides – the kind that can never be taken away. You will gain a self-respect that will allow your gifts and talents to flourish. Read the rest of this entry »
A trusted friend of mine has a funny saying that I find hilariously true. “Love is like the dew,” he says, “it can fall on any piece of poo in the yard.” He’s right you know. You meet this person, you are inexplicably drawn to him. Then you get to know him better. You begin to share your feelings for each other, your views of the world, maybe even your plans for the future.
Then suddenly you also see his shadow side. “What is so wrong with that,” you may ask. I asked that too, but then, as an empath and professional clairvoyant, I have come to understand how just those simple things can send a promising relationship into a tail-spin.
Why would loving someone and sharing your feelings with them be so damaging? It should be easy instead. You meet someone you have very strong feelings for, and he has feelings for you too. It should be wonderful and fulfilling, but in actuality it sometimes turns into something terrifying and destructive. Read the rest of this entry »
At least once a day, sometimes more, I have this sort of conversation during a psychic reading: “I just don’t know what to do about our relationship. I love him so much. He just doesn’t seem to feel the same way. He seems distant. Does he really love me?”
Then, before I can even take my cleansing breath to answer…wait for it…comes the customary follow-up question: “Or is there another man in my future?”
So, she loves, loves, loves this man. She can’t even breathe for the amount of love she has bubbling up inside her. Yet, at the first sign of trouble, or even a little break in communication, she is already looking for the next guy to take his place in the revolving door of her love life. Read the rest of this entry »
When I work with clients or teach courses about relationships, the first area I look at is what they truly desire in a relationship, and how they want to feel. This applies whether one hopes to attract a soulmate, or improve a current relationship. It is also necessary to know before we choose to invest more time in any partnership, or to release it.
And yes, we are all able to have what we imagine, because we were born to create these experiences. We are each valuable, for exactly who we are. We all have special talents and gifts, but because we took a body, we have value.
If you don’t have complete clarity on what you want, one easy way to get started is to write a list of what you don’t want. Then, next to each negative statement, write the opposite of what you don’t want. Read the rest of this entry »
After my youngest daughter left home, I certainly had a case of the ’empty nest syndrome’ for a short period of time. I chided myself, for I felt the same way when my oldest daughter moved out. I had that feeling of ‘someone was missing’ and ‘nothing is the same.’ However, this time it was different, for it dawned on me that I had never lived alone before.
Toxic relationships can have a detrimental effect on our health. Some of us stay in toxic relationships for all kinds of reasons. We try and rationalize in our minds the reasons why we should not end it.
Some people think having a family with someone, or owning property together, is reason enough to stay in an unhealthy relationship. Some feel they have invested so much time and energy into the relationship, that it would be a waste to walk out. Others stay for religious reasons.
So, too many people keep living in relationships that are unhealthy and detrimental to their well-being. But what I have learned over the years, as professional psychic and spiritual advisor, is simply this: if the love is no longer there, it wasn’t meant to last; that period of soul growth is complete and it is time to move on. Read the rest of this entry »