For A Reason, A Season, Or A Lifetime?

I’m often asked in relationship psychic readings if a certain person is ‘The One.’ Is this the person whom my client is supposed to be with in this lifetime? This is such a common question and one that usually deserves a more elaborate answer for clarity.

People come in and out of our life for a myriad of reasons. Some of them are only there for a short period of time, while others remain for decades, or the rest of our life.

Have you ever felt like you keep meeting the same person over and over again, but in a different body? For example, a gentleman might call in for a reading about a woman who he’s been dating for a month. He wants to know why all of a sudden she has pulled away or is paying less attention to him, and then he goes on to say that he continues to meet this same kind of woman. They all seem very interested in him for a short time, and then all of a sudden they just disappear. Why does this keep happening to him? This is where the inquiry tends to come up of, “Will I ever meet the right woman?”

The first thing I notice during readings, when I tune into someone’s energy, is the patterns they carry. We all have patterns running from our past, and though it may be harder to identify at times, once noticed and embraced, it actually helps us to grow spiritually. It allows us to become more aware of our authentic self, what our gifts are, and why we are here in this life.

Think about the people in your life over the years. Whether they were there for a reason, a season or a lifetime, accept them and treasure them for however long they were meant to be part of your life. And when they are gone, be thankful for the gifts you received from them when they were here ~ Annette Petrick

These patterns, when truly held in a container of kindness and compassion, and more closely examined, offer us the greatest opportunity to discover what awaits us. It is an invitation to reclaim our wholeness or authentic self. Your angels and spirit guides are your cheerleaders standing beside you, helping you find the courage to look and see what these patterns are and how to wake up out of them, and be free.

One of the best places to start, is by looking at some of the people who’ve come in and out of your life in the past. Maybe someone pops into your mind while reading this? Think about that person and what type of relationship you had with them, and how long it lasted. Was it just for a season? Or might there have been a reason?  Are they still in your life today? Ponder the dynamic with them and how it made you feel. Did you give your power away to this person? If so, why? What did you think you could get from them that you later discovered you didn’t really need from them?

Now, think of someone you really adore, who is a dear friend or even a pet friend! What is it about this person or being that makes you like them so much? What do you notice about how you feel when you’re around them? How do you feel about yourself when you’re around them? These relationships reveal so much about the type of people you need to draw into your life. When you think about how easy it is being around them, these relationships hold the pointers that offer you the greatest source of information on how to be more selective as to whom you allow into our precious life.

As to the folks who come into your life for just a reason or a season, there may be pleasant or unpleasant memories that come up, and that’s okay. Simply review and think about what you may have learned from them. This is not to condone any ill behavior on their part, if it was a challenging relationship, and especially an abusive one. Just think about what you learned or took away from it. Whether a good relationship or a bad one, what was the main thing you learned from it?

I think if I’ve learned anything about friendship, it’s to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don’t walk away, don’t be distracted, don’t be too busy or tired, don’t take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff ~ Jon Katz

Lifetime relationships can be interesting in regard to family karma. In the book Journey of Souls, Michael Newton writes about life in-between lifetimes and visiting that dimension through hypnosis. Dr. Newton had numerous patients who while under hypnosis experienced a place where they saw family and friends that they know from this lifetime in a circle with them, all together holding hands. He refers to this as a Soul Pod. The patients reported that while visiting this space, they had a knowing sense of who they know in this life as their dad, for example, may have been their son in a previous life.

This addresses the family karma I speak of, as well as the relationships we make that are here for a lifetime. When we can see a relationship from a different perspective or through a new lens, it creates openings where there were none before and an opportunity to heal.

Have you ever noticed that when you have a difficult relationship with someone, whether work or family, and once you resolve the conflict within yourself, that the relationship dynamic changes on the outside? Spiritually speaking, it’s like you got the lesson or graduated in some way and are ready to move on.

Sometimes the greatest challenges in life can prove to be the greatest blessings. We need only stay aware and learn to discern the patterns.