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Slow And Steady Is The Best Path To Lasting Love
In today’s superficial world of online dating, hookup apps and sexual promiscuity, it’s has become a daunting challenge to find a suitable partner who is genuinely ready for long-term commitment and relationship monogamy.
Also, in the dating scene, people typically wear masks, especially during the initial introduction. Everyone wants to give a good first impression and rarely want to discuss their truth, or past traumas. Dates also like to exaggerate or omit information, to make themselves sound more important or successful than they really are.
A few weeks into a new relationship is usually when the cracks start to show and the truth begins to float to the surface. For example, he comes from a good family and appears to be successful on paper, but he is emotionally fragile, or verbally abusive and narcissistic in relationships. Or, he claims he is totally single when you first meet him, but there’s actually someone else in his life and they’re not breaking that up anytime soon, because they have money invested together or are married.
We too often get so caught up in the fuzzy feeling and fantasy of a person possibly being ‘the one,’ that we forget to question if they are in alignment with what we truly need to add value to our life. Always listen to what a date is telling you, without sugar-coating it for yourself.
Let Your Animals Speak For Themselves
Owning a pet is one of the greatest blessings in life. I am an animal lover through and through, especially dogs. Currently my family owns five Pomeranians, a Pitbull, and a Shih Tzu. Yes, a total of seven well-cared for and much loved dogs, each with its own quirky personality and unique needs. There is not a day goes by that one of them does not do something wacky to make me laugh. Owning dogs truly is a joy!
Recently one of my aging Pomeranians, 15 years old to be exact, became blind. At first she was scared of everything and required a lot of extra care. I debated whether it might be time to make the hard decision to let her go and be at peace?
Being a psychic medium, I know from personal experience that leaving this plane of existence is not the end for humans, and neither is it for animals. And sometimes letting go of a beloved pet is the best thing for the animal, especially when keeping them here only prolongs their suffering. I could never allow a beloved dog to suffer. So, I went back and forth with this difficult decision for weeks, asking what would be best for her. Was I being selfish in keep her here? Was she suffering needlessly?
As you probably know, when one is very close to a situation and your emotions are raw, we get caught up in the situation that is immediately in front of us, and we struggle to see things objectively. In these situations it also does not help to have any psychic abilities! I was simply too close to the situation. I couldn’t see clearly what was best for my pet.
When Enough Is Enough
Recently, I have had some life experiences which changed my view on how to handle certain situations. Maybe its Uranus’s influence, moving into Taurus recently, that has prompted my sudden shift in behavior and attitude? Or maybe, enough has just finally become enough.
While I love helping people and doing readings, I am also a fixed sign and an Earth element, which means I flourish in endeavors focused on concrete things, such as real estate. So, it’s no surprise that aside from doing psychic mediumship work, I also own and manage multiple rental properties.
Late last year, one of my tenants was going through a tough time. So, I offered to help her by doing a pro bono reading for them. Later, I was delighted when I received feedback that things were getting better for them, and that things were unfolding as I had predicted.
A couple of weeks ago, I received news that they had decided to act on the advice given in the reading, and were now moving out in June. While I was saddened to see them leave, I was somewhat relieved that I could now find more stable tenants for that property. In the same sentence, she asked if I minded doing another reading for them both, before they left the property. I gladly agreed and scheduled the reading for the next day.
After the reading was again done free of charge, they proceeded to inform me of their intentions to not honor the terms on their lease! With each sentence they spoke, the information became more and more dreadful. I’m sure by the time they had finished, my mouth was a gaping hole. I was in complete shock over what they had told me.
Turning Inward To See What’s Going On Outside
We often lose our way when we look to the outer world for direction. Relationships, people, places, things, careers, education and events cannot fully guide us on our delegated path of destiny. When we disassociate from the starkly remarkable and precise direction of the inner world, we veer off course. With an external focus we become confused and fearful about our footing and our particular place in the universe.
The outer world is an ever-evolving, unreliable mirage, without boundaries and purposeful meaning. It merely reflects conditions; it does not detect. In other words, the outer world is an outward expression of an inner nebulous experience of desire for permanency. Giving credence and value to it unnecessarily, as a separate functioning entity, brings elevated perplexity and condescending despair.
Things occur for reasons incomprehensible to us. Though we go to great lengths to add our unsolicited opinions, and smear our unjustified ignorant remarks so callously, the truth remains, while the rest falls away. Nothing we say or do can change one iota of what is to be.
We are not now, nor will we ever be, greater than the Tao that sustains us. It matters not what one relates, refers and registers this sacred energy as (god, universal spirit, nitrogen), the impersonal movement requires no acknowledgment to carry out supreme super structural force and intent. In other words, we will not be consulted on the sublime activities which occur in our lives without consent or confirmation.
Purity Of Purpose – The Enigma Of Our Soul’s Journey
None of us really know what we are doing. Though we go about our days with full intent, saturated purpose and determined objectives, the real sublime reason why we are motivated to act remains hidden from view. We awake in the morning with a concentrated objective, having calculated the outcome and minimized the barriers.
We proceed as if what we will achieve has something to do with us. So much so, we either take blame for the mishaps, or bask in the glory of the success. Neither response is accurate, or appropriate. We think we know what we are doing, but we do not. We never know. We only project, and in those projections, we are wrong.
There’s much more to the picture left unseen, than seen. So much is hidden from view. It’s simply amazing how we go about our days denying how much crucial information we don’t have access to. We work with what we see in an obscured partial light, but we attack the problems as if we have all the goods available.
The truth is, our present knowledge and insight, no matter how much we may have paid for expert guidance, is always limited and biased. Yet, we continue to make all of these unnecessary plans and believe that unless they unfold exactly and precisely as we have ordered or constructed, we have in some way failed to accomplish our preset goals.
The Easter Angel And The Golden Ticket
It was around Easter, one year in the early 1970s, when I had a profound angel encounter. I was playing outdoors with many other children my age. We were eagerly running through a large open field looking for Easter eggs.
Well, they were not exactly real eggs. If you are from my generation, you might remember those plastic eggs that would break open to reveal inside them candy, colorful stickers and small, cheap bracelets. Some also contained little pieces of paper with trivia or inspirational messages. I remember thinking the words on the paper were more valuable to me than the tiny Tootsie Rolls or Hershey Bars.
On this occasion, I soon had a full basket and was sitting on the ground opening up my eggs and stuffing my goodies in the plastic bag we were all given. We were to return the eggs, so they could be recycled.
There was a very angelic looking women at the Easter egg hunt. She was helping some of the children find their eggs. Whenever they seemed to be having a difficult time, she would go to them and say something encouraging, or would help to cheer them up in some way. I kept my eye on her since we arrived, as she stood out from everyone else.
Later, while standing in line to return my empty eggs, she knelt down in front of me and asked, “What did you get?” I opened my bag and showed her all the candy and goodies. Then I lifted my hand and said, “This piece of paper is my favorite.” It was a golden slip of paper which read: It is wise to not put all your time, energy and love in one basket.”
Forgiveness Is The Solution
Forgiveness may be the path to a truly happy and fulfilled life. In his book The Forgiveness Solution, Dr. Philip Friedman puts forth the idea that all our emotional concerns, such as judgment, anger, and grievance, come from our inability to forgive. When we hold onto this emotional baggage, it harms everything. Hurt people hurt people. Taken to the extreme, it may lead to self-harm, or harm to others. But there’s a way out of this vicious cycle.
The first and most important step is to learn to forgive ourselves and develop, what Dr. Friedman calls ‘self-regulation skills.’ In essence these skills are defined by the classic Serenity prayer for courage to change what we can, acceptance of what we cannot change, and the wisdom to know the difference. In addition, becoming wholly healthy, physically, emotionally, and spiritually, will better allow self-forgiveness.
When we engage in our daily spiritual practice, we should ideally include a mantra about forgiveness. It may take a while for the idea to take root. Habits take about 30 days to become routine, but after you’ve begun to forgive, you can let the pain go by the wayside.
Keeping a positive attitude is essential to the process of forgiveness. This doesn’t mean that you have to be happy all the time. What is does mean is that setbacks and obstacles are regarded as challenges to overcome, rather than insurmountable hurdles.