self-worth
The Truth About Your Ego
We so often think of the ego as a bad thing. And we spend a lot of time deciding what level of ego is okay. The truth is, it’s all okay. It’s only our sense of self that makes us think someone’s ego is too big, or too small.
Let me elaborate. The ego is simply another tool we have to translate energy. The ego is simply our sense of self, our sense of identity, our sense of self-esteem or self-importance. That last one, self-importance, usually hits a cord with most people. But you are important, why shouldn’t you think so?
We often confuse ego-mania with the ego. We use these two words interchangeably, and therefore the ego has gotten a bad rap. Like anything balance is needed.
When we think of ego, we often think of someone who uses others to fuel their own sense of self. This isn’t ego, this is an imbalanced person who is grasping for a way to make themselves feel better, because they don’t see how truly amazing they are.
The Power Of Your Empathy
If you are an awakened empath, you are probably well-aware of your ability to not just feel the emotions of others, but to also see, hear and know things associated with those emotions and feelings. Unfortunately, as empaths we do not come to this Earth with a guidebook on how to work with our amazing gifts.
Like most of us, you have probably also been fumbling along, learning through trial and error… while learning from others, who also learned through trial and error, and so on, and so on. And through all this you have most likely also been made aware of the so-called ‘shortcomings of being an empath,’ instead of the power of being an empath. And if you are lucky enough to have recognized or been taught to own your power, it probably still came attached with a reminder of the ‘shortcomings.’
Calming The Stormy Waters Of The Inner Child
I walk on the beach daily, near my home. In fact, I often walk multiple times a day. This is my meditative and contemplative time, to reflect and see what areas in my life I can improve or change, what areas are working well, and what shifts are going on.
In the morning, the water can be as smooth as glass. This represents true peace, clarity and reflection. In the afternoon, the water can have three-foot to ten-foot waves, and the beach space that was so abundant in the morning, is gone. This represents the turmoil that is happening in my life and on our planet, or just what comes and goes in the daily news.
In the evening, the water settles down. It’s not quite as glass-like as in the morning, however it has a small and calming wave. This represents all the cleansing that happened during the day and the cleansing that is to happen through the night, bringing me full circle to another calm again in the morning.
Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
I believe that my own tendency to compare myself with others began at a young age, when my mother would constantly compare me to my cousins. For example, she would talk affectionately about their lovely physical attributes, like their thick hair, high cheekbones or deep-set eyes. Their personalities were louder and more assertive than mine too.
I was an overweight kid, and the more withdrawn I became, the more I would eat. I felt that my overweight was seen by others as greed, but I now believe I was layering deep insecure feelings.
I now know too that I was not meant to be like my cousins. In hindsight, I thank my mother for the life lessons. Perhaps she helped me in learning about insecurity and experiencing an inferiority complex. Today, I have a much deeper understanding of how my clients feel, when they don’t feel good enough. Or, as is often the case, when they are concerned about their children not feeling good enough for whatever reason. This is not always due to faulty parenting. Parents often suffer terribly when they see their kids, whatever their ages, suffer from lack of self-esteem. They see their kids as having every reason to be super-confident, yet witness them withdrawn and unhappy.
The Power Of Your Words
If only people realized how powerful their words are each time they make a statement. For example, I have heard some of my callers say things like, “I always attract partners who cheat on me.” The caller will be phoning in with hopes of getting a prediction which indicates a brighter future. And yet, in the meantime, they are programming their subconscious to accept their old negative dialogue.
I aim to help these clients understand that bringing about change is a process. To begin with, they truly have to want change. In truth, there are some individuals who derive a subconscious comfort from remaining stuck. Also, they need to feel worthy, which is why positive affirmations are so helpful.
The Truth About Dating Mr. Wrong
Some guys will say and do anything possible to get laid, and that includes lying about their intentions. So will some women.
This article is an attempt to cover a small portion about a very large and vast subject. It is not meant to villainize men, or women. There are some fabulous, wonderful and loving people who would love to be in a relationship with you. They will love you and embrace you, for you. The trick is finding them.
The way we find these wonderful people is by first being able to weed out the egotistical energy vampires and abusers. The other trick is to be honest with yourself about who you are, what you are looking for, what you need, and what you want.
Women sometimes think just because a guy tells them what they want to hear means that they must be interested. Not true. If you lay out all your hopes, dreams and fantasies, believing that a guy will fulfill them before actually really getting to know him, he will most likely only use them to get you in bed.
Yes, sad but true. There are many guys you will find on a dating site that have absolutely no interest in knowing you, or they will pretend that they do, and once they get you in bed, they are gone. Some guys will just use you for sex on their terms and their time lines, and they don’t care a lick about you. Continue reading
The Fallacy Of Being Perfect
People who go around trying to be perfect, or aim to “live up to their maximum potential” seldom seem to be happy. Neither do they appear to be living fulfilling lives. Their constant striving to achieve or maintain perfectionism seems to take the joy out of their lives.
Spirit inspired this chain of thought in me as I remembered three psychic readings that I did recently. The theme of perfectionism and potential had a profound effect on all three of my clients’ lives and or their loved ones. With their permission I am briefly sharing their stories here.
The first client called me upset, because she felt she had ruined their holiday stressing about wanting to make everything perfect. Not only did she take the fun out of it for herself, but for everyone else involved.
I connected with Spirit and received this message for her: “Doing special things like making Easter eggs and cooking Thanksgiving dinner should be enjoyable. Some people will like it, and some people won’t. Next week no one will remember. Learn to enjoy these activities more, and just go with ebb and flow. Spirit then also offer tools she can use to help her relax. Continue reading