self-worth
Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
I believe that my own tendency to compare myself with others began at a young age, when my mother would constantly compare me to my cousins. For example, she would talk affectionately about their lovely physical attributes, like their thick hair, high cheekbones or deep-set eyes. Their personalities were louder and more assertive than mine too.
I was an overweight kid, and the more withdrawn I became, the more I would eat. I felt that my overweight was seen by others as greed, but I now believe I was layering deep insecure feelings.
I now know too that I was not meant to be like my cousins. In hindsight, I thank my mother for the life lessons. Perhaps she helped me in learning about insecurity and experiencing an inferiority complex. Today, I have a much deeper understanding of how my clients feel, when they don’t feel good enough. Or, as is often the case, when they are concerned about their children not feeling good enough for whatever reason. This is not always due to faulty parenting. Parents often suffer terribly when they see their kids, whatever their ages, suffer from lack of self-esteem. They see their kids as having every reason to be super-confident, yet witness them withdrawn and unhappy.
The Power Of Your Words
If only people realized how powerful their words are each time they make a statement. For example, I have heard some of my callers say things like, “I always attract partners who cheat on me.” The caller will be phoning in with hopes of getting a prediction which indicates a brighter future. And yet, in the meantime, they are programming their subconscious to accept their old negative dialogue.
I aim to help these clients understand that bringing about change is a process. To begin with, they truly have to want change. In truth, there are some individuals who derive a subconscious comfort from remaining stuck. Also, they need to feel worthy, which is why positive affirmations are so helpful.
The Truth About Dating Mr. Wrong
Some guys will say and do anything possible to get laid, and that includes lying about their intentions. So will some women.
This article is an attempt to cover a small portion about a very large and vast subject. It is not meant to villainize men, or women. There are some fabulous, wonderful and loving people who would love to be in a relationship with you. They will love you and embrace you, for you. The trick is finding them.
The way we find these wonderful people is by first being able to weed out the egotistical energy vampires and abusers. The other trick is to be honest with yourself about who you are, what you are looking for, what you need, and what you want.
Women sometimes think just because a guy tells them what they want to hear means that they must be interested. Not true. If you lay out all your hopes, dreams and fantasies, believing that a guy will fulfill them before actually really getting to know him, he will most likely only use them to get you in bed.
Yes, sad but true. There are many guys you will find on a dating site that have absolutely no interest in knowing you, or they will pretend that they do, and once they get you in bed, they are gone. Some guys will just use you for sex on their terms and their time lines, and they don’t care a lick about you. Continue reading
The Fallacy Of Being Perfect
People who go around trying to be perfect, or aim to “live up to their maximum potential” seldom seem to be happy. Neither do they appear to be living fulfilling lives. Their constant striving to achieve or maintain perfectionism seems to take the joy out of their lives.
Spirit inspired this chain of thought in me as I remembered three psychic readings that I did recently. The theme of perfectionism and potential had a profound effect on all three of my clients’ lives and or their loved ones. With their permission I am briefly sharing their stories here.
The first client called me upset, because she felt she had ruined their holiday stressing about wanting to make everything perfect. Not only did she take the fun out of it for herself, but for everyone else involved.
I connected with Spirit and received this message for her: “Doing special things like making Easter eggs and cooking Thanksgiving dinner should be enjoyable. Some people will like it, and some people won’t. Next week no one will remember. Learn to enjoy these activities more, and just go with ebb and flow. Spirit then also offer tools she can use to help her relax. Continue reading
You Are Amazing
You are powerless when you worry about pleasing other people, but when you focus on being an amazing person and creating an amazing life then you become powerful. As you gain a foothold on who you truly are and how you wish to present yourself to the world other people begin to recognize and respect you in new ways. Focus on the amazing person that you are.
Oftentimes we see you get caught up in other people’s business, wondering and worrying what they are thinking and what they are saying. As you focus on those external things outside of yourself it steals your energy and renders you powerless. It makes you weak in your thinking and insecure in your being. There is very little value in focusing on obsessing over their influence.
Remember, everything is always unfolding perfectly. Let go of trying to control other people and other things outside your power of influence. Move into yourself where you have full and complete control over what you are thinking, what you are feeling, and what you are saying. Because at the end of the day, as you look at yourself in the mirror the only person you need to answer to is yourself en God.
Rise up into the magnificence that you are creating a beautiful purposeful life. As you align with the best version of yourself people will either begin to step into your life, or they will step out. Continue reading
Let Spirit Put Ego In Its Place
I recently had a conversation with a lovely, learned lady who was quite beside herself, because her husband of ten years simply got up and walked out on her… with no explanation whatsoever! She was understandably beside herself with shock and grief. I asked her what kind of relationship she felt they had and she assured me it was a very loving one. I find it almost impossible to believe that a loving, caring partner would all of a sudden just turn his back with all they had shared together and walk out the door, in what appeared to be a cold and callous man.
I then asked her why she felt they had such a good situation between them and she said it was because she loved him so much. She did all she could to keep him happy and satisfied. Well, now we were obviously getting somewhere. On further probing I found this man had been emotionally detached, and certainly oblivious to her needs. How can this, by any definition, be a warm and loving relationship?
Her ego most assuredly suffered a blow, but I do wonder where spirit was in all of this. It would make no sense to me if spirit accepted such a one-sided relationship that was completely devoid of any care or kindness.
My suspicion is that she had convinced herself that this ‘relationship’ had to maintain itself, or she would not be an ‘acceptable’ woman if she did not have a prominent male in her life, even under these trying conditions. There we go, when ego runs the show a myriad of pains can certainly appear on the horizon! Continue reading
The Truth About Dragons
Dragons are often relegated to the realm of myth, but in my experience the energy of these beings can serve as an ally in our everyday life. Dragons in the western tradition tend to have a bad rap. For example, in some Judeo-Christian theology, the dragon is considered a symbol . When I first encountered this type of being in my own life I was taken aback. My roots stem from the Judeo-Christian tradition and much of my training and personal evolution stems from this background.
In eastern cultures, dragons are looked upon in much the same way westerners consider angels. These beings bring with them blessings, help, and unique power to facilitate change. Dragons are also represented in the Biblical tradition as well, but they have a different name.
Several years ago, I had my first encounter with a dragon-like being. When I saw it I heard the word seraph, even though at the time I had little familiarity with the term. I looked up the term and the literal meaning of the word is, ‘flaming serpent.’
In my experience, the creature looked exactly like the traditional conceptualization of a dragon, with a few minor differences. I realized after this first encounter I had interacted with a seraph – one of the classes of angels. Continue reading