Posts Tagged ‘judgment’
A trusted friend of mine has a funny saying that I find hilariously true. “Love is like the dew,” he says, “it can fall on any piece of poo in the yard.” He’s right you know. You meet this person, you are inexplicably drawn to him. Then you get to know him better. You begin to share your feelings for each other, your views of the world, maybe even your plans for the future.
Then suddenly you also see his shadow side. “What is so wrong with that,” you may ask. I asked that too, but then, as an empath and professional clairvoyant, I have come to understand how just those simple things can send a promising relationship into a tail-spin.
Why would loving someone and sharing your feelings with them be so damaging? It should be easy instead. You meet someone you have very strong feelings for, and he has feelings for you too. It should be wonderful and fulfilling, but in actuality it sometimes turns into something terrifying and destructive. Read the rest of this entry »
Recently, I posted on social media about my daughter’s graduation, when she was awarded a degree in Psychology with high honors from a well-known university. I was really proud of her, and wanted to share it with the world.
Many friends and family commented on the post, with congratulatory excitement and kind remarks. But later that day, I noticed there was also a hurtful comment on that same post from my mother.
In the post I had misspelled the words summa cum laude and my mother’s comment read, “Ask your daughter how to spell summa cum laude.” That was it. It seemed short and cold. My heart sank. Not only from the public embarrassment of her comment, but more so from the insinuation that I lack intelligence. Read the rest of this entry »
I used to work at a beauty salon and spa, where the energy amongst the staff was highly toxic. We were a group of women who ideally could have come together in harmony and make others feel amazing, but that wasn’t the reality.
Initially, I was friendly and open, because I wanted to get along with my co-workers. They all smiled at first and made me feel welcome, but in time they began to show their true colors, which turned out to be less friendly and welcoming.
Eventually it no longer was a place where I wanted to be every day, but the money was great, especially during the holiday and bridal season. So, I had to make it work for the time being.
Every day, I was feeling out of place and exhausted by the time I got home from work, so I decided to do something about it. Read the rest of this entry »
It is also very close to another age-old axiom, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Again, this sounds easy enough. And what if you are one of those people, as many of us are, who are not in the habit of treating yourself very well at all?
How do you typically treat yourself? Do you like yourself? Do you love yourself? Do you approve, care, and not judge yourself harshly? Are you kind and encouraging to yourself? Or is your internal mental chatter and expression riddled with thoughts like: Read the rest of this entry »
Do you feel inspired? With the hectic pace of life today, it is relatively easy to keep your head down and just live day-to-day, without having time to notice much beyond your immediate purview. Whether you are consumed by a busy career, overextended with a heavily scheduled home life, or over-committed to extended family and friends, or all of the aforementioned, it can be difficult to find true inspiration for oneself.
But there is no time like the present! Make a small but important commitment to yourself. Lift your head. Look around. Take time to breathe. Spend some time alone. Read. Learn. Appreciate. Take inspiration from the world around you. Set healthy boundaries. Stop and smell the flowers. Enjoy good-news stories. Revel in others’ accomplishments. Know that if others can do it, so can you. Read the rest of this entry »
The first step we need to take when we are doing deep spiritual work is to face ourselves. In mythology there is a story of a monster that dwells on the border between the physical and the spiritual worlds. In order to reach higher realms, we must face and conquer this monster.
Facing ourselves takes a lot of courage. Facing ourselves means that we stop blaming others and take responsibility for our own actions. It can also involve taking responsibility for the actions of others, by accepting responsibility for simply participating in certain circumstances through thought, word, action and feeling. It also has a tendency to annoy us, or make us very uncomfortable. That’s the price of spiritual growth and freedom. Letting go. I talk about this a lot in psychic readings about romance. Read the rest of this entry »
Sitting at a local café, drinking my smoothie, I couldn’t help but overhear a conversation behind me. They were talking loudly and were not really going out of their way to be discreet by any means. The one girl was talking about how her mother had passed. She spoke of chemotherapy and did not want the same ordeal for her friend, who is obviously going through something similar.
She then shared a story of how her aunt called her a few weeks ago and told her about a dream she had. In this dream the aunt was visited by the girl’s departed mother, who told her that if she could do it all over again, she would do two things differently when she was alive. She would not have taken the chemotherapy and she would not have spent so much time in church. Read the rest of this entry »
Think for a moment of all the heavy emotional burdens we tend to carry: resentment, anger, jealousy, vengeance, hatred. When we carry all that baggage, in some cases for years at a time, our mind, body and soul suffer the consequences. It can do a lot of harm over time, since these emotions are associated with very powerful negative energy! The good news is, there is a simple and effective way to leave all of it behind: the miracle of forgiveness.
True forgiveness is not just about our relationship to others. It begins with forgiving ourselves. If you were to take an honest inventory of your outlook on life as it stands right now, what would that be? Are you often judgmental, bitter or harsh on yourself and others? It’s time to offer some forgiveness. Read the rest of this entry »