self-empowerment
How To Deal With Energy Vampires And Psychic Bullies
Someone or something draining your energy? Most of the time it’s someone whom you are either trying to please, or get approval from, or someone you’re trying to help. You may begin to notice that something changes in your energy field each time you are around this person, or that you feel an imbalance of some sort afterwards. When I say being around a person, this can mean exposure to them through meeting in person, texting, talking over the phone, and even energetically, or psychically.
Energy bullies and psychic vampires are very good sucking the life force right out of you. Unfortunately, you may not notice this is happening, until after the fact. However, once you realize what has happened, identifying it is the first step to proactive healing, regeneration, and protection from allowing it to happen again.
Let’s have a closer look at what is actually taking place during an energy drain. Suppose you have a friend who is always complaining about her life, or often has a negative outlook on every situation she is involved in. This could also be a family member you meet for coffee, or whom you chat with over the phone regularly. And dealing with this person leaves you always energetically drained, deflated or emotionally unsettled.
I’d like to preface this with the fact that we all have times where we need to vent, or reach out for help when we are struggling with something. On the other hand, we also have moments where we need to be the voice of reason for someone else, or have an open mind and heart to listen and truly be there for the people we love and care about. Listening is so important in relationships, but if only one person is talking and one person is listening, over and over again, it is a drain on the listener.
A Message To Those Who’ve Lost Their Light
The other night, before going to bed, I quietly spoke to my deceased grandfather. I asked him to help me find the right words. Something to bring hope and comfort to so many of my clients who’ve been feeling lost, weighed down, or tired of carrying their pain.
I asked him, “Please, Grandpa, show me what to say. Help me give them what their hearts need most.”
That night, I dreamed. But it wasn’t just a dream. It was a visitation. The air around me grew still and was filled with a golden glow that felt like peace and love. From that light, my grandfather appeared.
He didn’t look the way I remembered him from his later years, but he looked strong, bright, and full of calm energy. His eyes held the same gentle understanding he always had, but it was deeper, almost eternal.
He smiled and said softly, “I heard you. I’m here.”
Then he said, “If there’s a dream or passion that still burns inside you, don’t let it fade. That spark within you was placed there by something greater than yourself. Even when the world feels dark, your light hasn’t gone out. It’s only waiting for you to rise again.”
He looked at me, and I could feel the weight of his words, as if they were wrapped in love.
“Don’t let anyone steal your sparkle,” he said. “There will always be voices that doubt you or make you question your worth, but their disbelief can’t touch what’s divine within you. The light in your spirit is stronger than their shadows.”
The Power Of Ansuz During Mercury Retrograde
Mercury is going retrograde again today and, as always, I am already seeing many issues with miscommunication, unnecessary conflict, and misunderstandings come up in readings. I am also picking up a lot of nervous energy with clients.
Mercury Retrograde really affects our ability to communicate, and especially to listen and understand each other. My best advice always in these times is to not get sucked into arguments to easily, as both parties usually got it wrong to begin with. Stay calm, pay attention and find out the facts, before you lose it prematurely…only to regret it later.
The next retrograde begins today and lasts until November 29, 2025. The full shadow phase around this retrograde (both pre-shadow and post-shadow) spans from about October 21, 2025 (pre-shadow began) to December 16, 2025 (post-shadow ends).
If you are looking for new ways to support your energy during this retrograde period, try my go to technique. I connect with the energy of understanding and patience using a specific rune, which I use for meditation in these times, and as a symbol to carry with me until the retrograde is over.
The rune I am talking about is Ansuz. It’s the rune associated with the throat chakra, because symbolizes the energy of clear communication and using the right words. It carries the powers of convincing, powerful speech and writing, wisdom, analytical thinking and reason, and the ability connecting and network with others.
I frequently used this rune when I used to be work in the corporate world. It helped me a great deal to calm my nerves when I had to speak in front of many people at meetings and presentations.
When Your Man Is Not Ready To Commit
I often hear how wonderful the guy is that she is dating… if only he would commit to taking their relationship to the next level!
If a woman is not satisfied with the way things are going and what she is getting from the relationship, should she continue to wait for him?
By patiently waiting for him against your better judgment, he only learns that he can get away with his lack of commitment, especially if he feels comfortable with what he is getting from the relationship. This way a pattern is formed.
So, how do you avoid wasting some of the best years of your life waiting on a guy that is never going to commit?
Well, right from the start you tell him what your looking for and what your expectations are. But handle it carefully, after all you don’t want to scare him away before things even get off the ground!
But do let him know how you feel about dating, long-term relationships, commitment, marriage, children, and whatever else may be important to you.
This will inform him, so that you have a better shot at being on the same page. If he starts to make excuses, or says that he is not interested in a long-term commitment, at least not right now, then accept his words as the truth.
If you are looking for long-term, committed relationship, then spend time with a guys who shares the same values and expectations. Watch his actions – they do speak louder than words!
Tarot Forecast November 2025: Ten Of Swords
The card that came in for this month is the Ten of Swords, a card that can look harsh at first, but carries a powerful message of closure, truth, and rebirth. This isn’t about endings for their own sake; it’s about release. Something has run its course, and it’s time to stop holding on.
The Ten of Swords invites us to be honest with ourselves, to stop pretending that what’s broken can still be fixed the old way.
This month’s theme is surrendering what’s no longer serving us. The Ten of Swords clears the clutter, both inner and outer. It shines a light on what’s been draining us, and while it can feel uncomfortable at first, it also brings freedom.
There’s a certain peace that comes with finally letting go. What’s ending now makes room for healing, insight, and new beginnings.
November’s energy is quiet but meaningful. It’s not dramatic or loud, it’s the deep exhale after a long effort. It asks us to slow down, listen, and trust that the cycle closing now is paving the way for something better.
The Ten of Swords doesn’t sugarcoat reality, but it always carries the promise of dawn. Its message is simple: you’ve come through the hardest part, and even if you can’t see it yet, light is returning.
By the end of this month, you may feel a sense of emotional relief or clarity that wasn’t there before. The Ten of Swords helps us clear old patterns, step away from what’s over, and prepare for the next chapter. It’s not the end, it’s the turning point between endings and renewal.
Learning To Say Yes To Yourself
It is in the empath’s nature to say ‘yes’ to just about anything requested of them. It goes against our grain. For some of us, saying ‘no’ also brings on fears of rejection, abandonment or letting someone down when it may be important to support them.
Rather than finding an excuse, or simply telling the truth, many of us give in and just go along. It just feels easier in the moment, and even validating or satisfying.
But when you end that phone call, or respond to another text, and you feel anxious and panicked, while you start going over all the other things that will have to fall to the wayside by saying yes, then you really are saying no to yourself.
Self-care requires that we sometimes say no to others, in order to say yes to our own well-being and peace of mind. Consequently, the person that you said yes to won’t be getting the best of you. If you have said yes at your own expense, then what you bring to the table for that person is stress and anxiety. Your best self will not be fully present.
Saying yes, when you really want to say no, can also lead to resentment that you then attach to the person who asked for your assistance.
Here the responsibility lies with ourselves. We teach people how to treat us and many times we don’t give others enough credit for understanding when we say no. Most people would rather hear. “No thanks, that time doesn’t work for me” or “I have other commitments,” instead of having to sense a half-hearted or less than enthusiastic yes.
The Great Awakening: You Were Born for This Moment!
The shift is constantly rising. The veil continues to lift. Some feel it more than others. We are living in a very different energy frequency today, compared to a decade or two ago.
These are the days you want to walk with caution and discernment, and there are many different tools you can use to get in tune with your higher self and experience some of these wonderful things.
You can now increasingly see and feel things before they happen, you can experience wonderful things, but you must be living with your heart and mind open to connect with others and live with clarity and lightness of being.
There are things you can do to raise your vibration to match the global awakening, just as there are things you can do to lower your vibration. Unconditional love, and keeping your heart and mind open, raises and connects you to others who are on the same path as yourself.
You can connect with other light beings and enlightened souls by being positive, as well as through meditation, prayer and listening to uplifting music. Some of my favorite music is classical and Indian mediation music. I find it heightens my frequency a lot.
Become a part of the great awakening, the wonderful age that we are living in right now. You don’t want to live with blinkers on, you want to be alert and know who your companions are and make sure they are not sucking the life out of you. You want to surround yourself with positive, spiritually aware people.