life experience
We Are All Worthy Of Forgiveness
Sometimes my brokenhearted clients ask when the person they love will also hurt the way they have been hurt by them. They have been wounded, sometimes very deeply, and they so desperately want to know that the one who hurt them will also suffer in the end. Preferably, a lot!
They desire retribution for all the pain, suffering and deceit they have suffered due this person. There has to be some kind of justice. Isn’t there some form of karma, they will ask pleadingly.
Some spiritual teachings and belief systems suggest that our most emotionally challenging experiences in this lifetime occur as a result of life lessons we have agreed upon with other souls, before being born into this particular lifetime. This concept is known as our life plan, soul agreement or soul contract, among other.
These challenges can present themselves as blockages and patterns, that we aspire to finally recognize on a soul level and then to rise above – too often after repeating the same lessons many times over during this lifetime and others.
Yes, it makes sense to me that there is a profound lesson in harsh, life-changing experiences, but it’s not so easy to see it that way, and to believe it could be something we would have agreed to, especially when we hurt so badly now.
Navigating The ‘Soul School’
Based on my communication with the ancients, my guides, angels, and those who have passed before me, it is my belief that we were born into our bodies as a soul, and we are in ‘soul school’ during our time here on Earth.
I also believe we chose to take our particular body, and chose other souls with whom we would interact during this lifetime, which can be referred to as our ‘soul family.’ We each agreed to play certain roles in each other’s soul growth.
Just like in school, once we learn certain concepts and master the fundamentals, our soul can choose to continue with advanced studies. Judging from my own accomplishments and challenges in human school, it made me stronger. When I stuck with it, I received the lesson of that particular subject and didn’t have to repeat it. I was then able to move on. The same I believe holds true for the soul.
When we keep doing the same thing we get the same result. When we master the spiritual lesson, we get to move on to things which has a greater match to the vibration we are expressing and desire.
When we get stuck, which we all will at some point, we keep repeating that pattern with either a person, situation or circumstance. The good news is we don’t have to stay there. Often they are not meant to be permanent; they are there only for a season in our life.
The latter can be difficult, sad, hurtful, and hard to understand sometimes. Because we often ‘want what we what, period.’ We can too often not imagine the greater possibilities. Also what we know, can feel safe and predictable.
The Key To Healing Your Relationship
Our emotions and feelings are not always perceptions that originate within. Many are caused by external events or outer circumstances. For example, a motivational speech can lift you up, while a scolding can bring you down. So too can a healthy, or toxic relationship.
Much of our modern lifestyle is based on our reactive feelings to external influences. Social media influencers, popular culture and news sources tell us how we should feel, but do we really know what is going on in our heart? Marilyn Manson expresses this modern dilemma brilliantly in the song Coma White:
A pill to make you numb
A pill to make you dumb
A pill to make you anybody else
But all the drugs in this world
Won’t save her from herself
In my experience, the reason there are so many dysfunctional relationships and broken marriages these days is the fact that many of us no longer know our own true feelings.
We are all the result of life experience. Experience is what gives us knowledge of success, or failure. The only person you can change, or whose behavior you can alter, is yourself. Every other thing follows suit. That is how we heal our relationships. We must lead by example.
Yesterday, Today And Tomorrow
A loyal client recently asked me to send her one of the guided meditations in my collection. I have collected many over the years, and she experienced several of them in a meditation class I used to offer. She said she was planning to start a small meditation group of her own, and would be happy with whichever meditation I chose to share with her.
I sincerely wished to help her, and therefore wanted to choose carefully. So, on my walk this morning, along a path lined with olive trees, I asked my guides for a sign or symbol of what script would best help her get going with her guided meditation venture.
Well, Spirit never ceases to surprise me. The ‘sign’ was almost instant, and prominent. Out of nowhere, I suddenly smelled the exquisite scent of the ‘Yesterday Today and Tomorrow’ plant (Brunfelsia). I immediately knew exactly which meditation to send my client.
Yesterday, Today & Tomorrow Meditation
Sit in a comfortable chair and close your eyes. With your eyelids closed, glance upwards for a few moments, directing your eyes towards the heavens. This is helpful in relaxing your eyes and also symbolic in connecting with Spirit.
Now, take several deep breaths and, as you do so, relax your head in a downward position. Allow your eyeballs to relax downwards too, whilst still keeping your eyelids gently closed.
Are You An Old Soul?
An ‘old soul’ is a person who wise beyond their years. It is someone who has a deeper understanding of human nature and the world we live in. I also believe that an old soul is a person who has learned valuable life lessons from their past incarnations or former lifetimes.
How do you know you are an old soul? Well, if you can see the bigger picture of things, and you are always wanting to learn more, then your current lifetime is probably not your ‘first rodeo.’ Old souls are typically highly intuitive and empathic. Their psychic senses are heightened, and they understand who they are in this life.
Old souls are attracted to wisdom and truth. They are not much for superficial lifestyles and trivial pursuits. They are not materialistic. Instead, they focus more on the beauty and simple joys of life, instead of the indulgences of material wealth and luxuries.
They feel the need to follow their own path in life, seeking their own truth and understanding, free from the opinion and views of others. They want to understand more about life and what makes things tick They live their lives the way they want to, and they find purpose and inner peace on their own terms.
Time To Follow Your Heart
The Covid-19 pandemic has been causing many of us to face some of our life issues that may not have come up otherwise, had we not been under so much stress, while isolated from external social support.
The times we are going through remind me a lot of what the United States went through after 9/11. People were scared, and our lives changed. Some of us questions our purpose and our future: our lifestyles, our goals, our dreams. Many homes overnight became fortresses of self-isolation. Air travel became an issue. Many things we took for granted changed literally overnight. Sound familiar?
At first it was a matter of fear, anxiety and self-preservation. Then the effect on our emotions, choices and attitudes kicked in. Many people became more humble, patient and kind. We were more unified than ever, similar to our mindset during World War II, when a nation came together with one goal: to protect and defend what they loved.
Back then, people planted gardens, and bought bonds to support the cause. Industry became a place where women could play a more significant role in manufacturing and engineering. All for one thing, and one thing only: to secure our freedom. Covid-19 has brought with it similar challenges and adversity. What remains to be seen is how we will choose to respond and what good might come from it. I believe we will ultimately beat this crisis in the same way we have done in the past, both as individuals and as a nation. We have done it before, and we will do it again.
Love Yourself, And Don’t Stop Believing
Recently, I had time to reflect on different aspects of my own life and where it was, or wasn’t going. I was starting to feel self-pity creeping up on me, and had to act to shift my energy out of that negative space, as it would trickle off into other areas of my life.
I was supposed to attend a celebration with family on a Wednesday, as well as a gathering with another group of relatives on the following Saturday. But I wasn’t prioritizing my own needs and well-being, and the Universe decided to put an end to my plans.
To cut a long story short, on the Wednesday, instead of going to the party, I landed in the local hospital emergency room, as my knee gave out and I could not walk. The Universe was telling me to rest – to sit down and get my priorities back in order.
My priorities have always been my children and grandchildren, and that hasn’t changed. However, my views on the recurring family drama, with regards who can go see who, and when, and where, and how, has significantly changed. I have decided to let go of always trying to keep the peace, and please everyone. I no longer wish to expose myself to the unnecessary stress and commotion of it all.
I let it go by simply asking my angels to deal on my behalf with all the stuff that I could no longer hold inside and carry, and take it off my shoulders. And yes, it took me a couple days to realize what was needed, but as soon as I did this, the need for walking with a cane started to disappear and the pain and swelling in my knee has been minimal the last couple of days.