Life Design
It Is Never Wise To Shoot The Messenger
Time is precious. Time is something we should value more. I sometimes wish there was a ‘time bank’ where all the lost time of my life is safely stored for later use. Imagine that: a time savings account. Sadly, there is no way to get lost time back.
In my line of work as a spiritual advisor, I deal with many cases of regret and ‘lost time.’ Some of these clients tend to use phrases of self-accusation to make sense of their failures and regrets: would have, should have, could have.
Your life should never be a game of waiting for an opportunity given to you by others. Your life is an adventure, and it is your choice how much you will succeed with it. Some people are not more successful than others because they are lucky or more deserving. Success is defined by the individual. It is a choice.
In the four decades I have doing psychic readings, I have come across many success stories. I remember, for example, the lady who was happily married to a building contractor until the birth of their son, when the husband suddenly passed away. She raised her child as a single mother, and later also took care of her grandchildren. Her life was good, except for the absence of a loving life partner.
Every time I read for her over the years, there was always a man who showed up in the cards. It was a man she already knew, who travels a lot, is very knowledgeable about culture, and lives near her. I encouraged her to be patient, the love of her life would show up when the time was right.But she hated to be alone and refused to wait. She was determined to figure out who this mysterious man was.
The Magic Formula Of Self-Care And Gratitude
Where am I going next? What’s in my future? This is a question we all ask ourselves from time to time. This is especially true at the moment, during these stressful times.
When our world is going through changes, it can be difficult to stay centered and remain confident about the future. It can also affect how we feel, and reduce our motivation.
The first thing you can do to change this downward spiral in your thought process and emotional well-being, is to remind yourself that you are the master of your own destiny. What you choose to think and do today, creates your future self – both in your internal and external world. Just knowing this already gives one a greater a sense of direction and inner peace.
The next step is to make more of an effort with your self-care and daily gratitude. Self-care is a kindness we give to ourselves, and only when we are nourished we can also give to others. It is so easy to do, but we often forget.
There are many helpful self-care practices to center, ground and cleanse your energy. Just pick one and get started. How about a lovely scented bath, with Himalayan sea salt? Let it wash away some of your cares. The salt has a cleansing and restorative effect on our energy. Continue reading
Open-Minded Curiosity Is The Key To A Happy, Healthy Life
A client asked the other day how I keep my immunity up during these challenging times, and if there is anything special one can do to stay mentally healthy. My answer was simple. You simply need to keep an open mind, and have passion for life.
Working with spirit has taught me over the years to live my life wholeheartedly, with daily gratitude, and with an open mind and a healthy curiosity. I am always eager to learn and experience new things. We are not meant to be constantly stuck in a rut, nor spend our lives in mediocre stagnation.
Just the other day, a friend told me that she thought I am the most imaginative and adventurous person she has ever met. I am always so optimistic and upbeat, she said, and she gets energy from me just by spending time with me.
She has also witnessed how positive things happen in my life through my spiritual practices. For example, I use certain crystals, visualizations and affirmations to bring about real change in my life – not only for myself, but also for others.
The more we are open-minded to explore new horizons, and learn new things, the more we allow positive, creative new energies to enter our reality, empowering us to achieve things that we otherwise wouldn’t – especially when we just sit around doing nothing.
Forgiveness Brings Lightness To The Heart
Forgiveness can be one of the most difficult challenges we face in life, especially for those of us who have been horribly wronged. But the angels say that we cannot move forward with anger or hatred in our heart. Only when we can truly forgive and let go of our past, will we reap the rewards of the future. Blessings come once we let go of the things that are holding us back.
When you struggle with forgiveness, it helps to remind yourself that God, the Divine, Source, Spirit, the Universe, always forgives us, no matter what we do. And our angels never leave our side. They do shake their heads at times, but they are right there through each life choice and every step we take, no matter what.
When we are in a place of unforgiveness, we must choose to look at life in a different way. What good is it to hold onto anger and resentment towards someone who has wronged you? It is usually not affecting them in any way, and it is also not serving you. All it really does is hold you back from moving forward and living your best life.
Your past, both the good and bad, provided you with life lessons, and if you truly consider what you have been through, and the growth and wisdom gained from those experiences, you will appreciate the lessons learned, and never repeat them. Life lessons empower us to move forward in a healthy way and not repeat the mistakes of the past.
Accept The Past In Order To Move Forward
Accepting the past, and letting it go, is often one of the most challenging issues that come up in the readings I do for clients. When things are not always going as they expect it to go in their lives, it is usually because the client is still stuck in the past, and unable to move forward.
The human body was made to walk forward, just like trains, boats and planes are designed to propel themselves forward. The human mind and spirit is designed to do the same. We are meant to move forward, learning, growing, expanding and evolving into the future.
The human body has eyes in the front of the skull, not in the back. We are meant to look forward, not backwards. The human body can walk backwards, if it absolutely has to, but it’s designed to be bi-regular in a forward direction.
But, if you are holding on to the past, or not willing to see it as being in the past, your subconscious mind and your soul remains in limbo. The greatest thing about the past is that we can learn from it, and observe what and how it affects us in the now. We also have the unique opportunity to change our outlook or approach to the present, based on the lessons of the past.
The greatest gift the human mind has is the ability to shift our perceptions, learn from our life experiences, and expand our horizons. We are able to examine how every past experience or circumstance affects our journey in the present, and we can also choose how we will perceive and acknowledge it as we move forward on our path.
Harmonizing The Energy Flow Of Money
When I was younger, I never thought of money as being spiritual or metaphysical in any way. I never considered the possibility that our financial prosperity, or lack thereof, may be somehow connected to our thoughts, feelings and beliefs about it. Even after studying business, and working as an accountant for many years, I never saw the correlation. It wasn’t until I began to explore the spiritual aspect of my life, that I became aware of this link.
I became the sole income provider in my home, after my divorce. At this time, I began to look more deeply into my beliefs and associations with money. If you personally relate to my experience during those difficult days, you will also understand what it feels like to be totally overwhelmed when you are experiencing many new obstacles in your life to financial security and cash flow.
Fortunately, there has always been a logical and practical part of myself that kicks in when I’m faced with big challenges and difficult choices, especially around financial decisions. This instinctive part of me is a natural default from my years as an accountant and mortgage finance consultant.
When my inner accountant comes out, I look at the logical side of things and rationally reason my decisions. Then, on other occasions, the spiritually aware, intuitive part of me knows that if I am overly stressed and worried about money, I block my own energy flow from the Source of all things abundant. I have often also seen that my creative process and artwork doesn’t flow freely when I become too worried about finances – I just paint ‘mud.’
So, how do we find balance between our logical, human need for material security, and the intuitive, spiritual aspect of our soul that finds it easy to trust the unknown? How do we find that balance?
Embrace Change In Your Life
As a professional psychic advisor, one encounters a wide variety of people in various stages of life transition and change. And some deal better with these changes, than others.
Some people, for example, refuse to accept that nothing ever stays the same. People evolve. Spouses fall out of love. Children grow up. Circumstances change. Life goes on. Constantly looking back on an unpleasant past, or desperately holding on to the past, is not the way to live one’s life in the now.
To make the most of life’s challenges and opportunities, we must deal with present realities. Clinging to the past, or obsessing over the future, only causes immense stress to everybody involved. If we go around in circles, repeating the past, we will also not be able to conquer the future.
Some people also tend to be easily disappointed when others do not always cater to their needs and wishes. Then there are those who insist on always being right, while doing a lot of wrong themselves. This kind of selfishness does not make things right either.
As a psychic reader, I can explain the actions and reactions of people in your life. I can also offer you different perspectives and guide you towards potential solutions in dealing with others, as well as changing situations. But, I cannot change people or circumstances for you. I can also not turn back time.
If you feel stuck and you are repeating cycles, I can help you to break the pattern and give you the insight of change. Embrace change. Don’t try to change others, or change the world. The only way this works is if you adapt yourself to the whatever changes may be happening in your life.