karmic lessons
How Envy Drains Your Energy And Keeps You Stuck
As a clairvoyant and empath, I don’t just take people at face value. I sense what is happening beneath the surface. I can sense the presence of certain emotions, attachments and energetic cords in a person’s energy field, and how these affect relationships and quietly shape life path and soul growth over time.
Having done psychic readings for people all over the world for many years, I have repeatedly come to the same conclusion about relationships: most conflict is not really about what it appears to be on the surface. When viewed from an energetic and karmic perspective, deeper emotional currents are almost always at play, such as hurt, insecurity, betrayal, resentment or the need to restore balance.
One issue that I repeatedly encounter in these situations is envy.
Conflict can arise from many sources, but envy is one of the common energetic patterns I encounter, but is seldom talked about in everyday life. It often lies just beneath the surface of the tension between people, whether they are siblings, friends, or romantic partners.
First, it is important to distinguish between envy and jealousy, because they are not energetically the same. Jealousy is the fear that someone might take something away from you that you already have, while envy is the desire to have something someone else already has.
Spiritually speaking, the difference goes even deeper than that. Jealousy tends to stem from fear and attachment, often linked to past experiences of loss, rejection or insecurity. Envy, on the other hand, is rooted in comparison and a sense of lack or scarcity. It arises when someone feels disconnected from their own path, gifts or potential.
The Lessons Your Soul Came Here To Learn
There are moments in life when everything familiar begins to feel uncertain or different.
The roles we once identified with no longer fit, the goals we worked toward feel strangely hollow, and an unshakable question begins to surface: What is the deeper meaning of all this?
It is often in these quiet, uncomfortable spaces that we begin to sense there is more to our experiences than meets the eye.
What if your life is not random? What if even your most difficult chapters are not meaningless detours, but part of a deeper unfolding? What if the challenges we face are meant to be and part of something far more intentional? What if your life is unfolding as a kind of soul curriculum, designed for growth, awareness, and transformation?
To see your life as a soul curriculum is not to pretend that pain is pleasant or that every hardship is easy to understand. It is simply to consider that your experiences may be shaping you in ways the mind cannot always immediately grasp. It is to look at your life with greater reverence, greater curiosity, and greater compassion.
This is where a more soul-centered approach can offer support. Rather than looking only at surface problems, it invites you to explore the deeper meaning behind your experiences. It recognises that the mind, body, and spirit are deeply interconnected, and that when one area of life is out of balance, the others are often affected too.
‘Under-Doing’ For You And ‘Overdoing’ for Others?
Are you ‘under-doing’ for yourself, or perhaps ‘overdoing for others’ in order to gain approval and love? Many of us fall into this pattern without even realizing it.
When we are raised to be helpful, agreeable and accommodating, it can become second nature to say yes whenever someone asks something of us.
For some people it can take many years, sometimes even decades, to recognize that constantly putting others first may not always be the healthy or loving choice it appears to be.
Learning to set healthy boundaries is not something most of us are taught when we are young, especially if we have grown accustomed to keeping the peace by going along with what others want.
Many of us know what it feels like to be the person everyone relies on. When something needs to be done, we are the first person people think of. When someone needs help, they call us.
At first this can feel rewarding because we enjoy being supportive and dependable. Yet always being that ‘Yes’ person can quietly create an imbalance over time.
When we continually give our time, energy and attention to others without receiving the same in return, the natural flow of energy becomes disrupted. Healthy relationships usually involve a balanced exchange between people.
How Your Reading Can Transform Your Life
During a recent reading, a client asked me a question that many people may be wondering about: “If nothing in our future is set in stone, why have a psychic reading at all?”
It’s a fair question that opens the door to a deeper understanding of our life path and soul journey. An authentic reading is never about one fixed future. We play a significant role in shaping our own destinies.
Psychics read the energy of probable outcomes, as well as possibilities and choices yet to be made, and the energetic and spiritual influences surrounding a person’s life path. During a reading, I usually see multiple paths unfolding before someone, each of which is shaped by their current intentions, actions, and willingness to grow.
It’s worth noting that not every reading shows multiple paths. Sometimes, there’s only one path. Sometimes, none appear at all! This is never a warning or a bad omen but rather a signal that someone may feel stuck and need guidance or clarity to move forward.
In this particular client’s case, the message was clear: if she remained passive, little would change. “The universe does not move unless you do,” I reminded her. Her heartache was real, but so was her ability to influence what came next. Three distinct paths of free will were revealed to her by spirit.
When her curiosity lit up, I knew she was ready to receive the message as a gift rather than as judgment. It offered her clarity in a moment of uncertainty.
Thorns Are Only There To Protect The Rose
Each time we turn to unnecessary conflict, things turn into chaos. It stirs up the aura around each person involved. The ripples of anger and hurt affects everyone involved.
This doesn’t mean we can’t ever stand up for ourselves, or disagree. In fact, statistics prove that couples who never argue most often don’t last in their relationships.
A good storm now and then can clear up things and allow us opportunity to express the things we have been suppressing.
But often we hold it in for too long, and then it blows up. When this happens, the drama is often worse than it needed to be. We say things we later regret. We are even surprised by some of the things we say when we get this upset! Where did that come from?
Then, as time goes on, we want to make amends. Yet, those words caused a hurt that never really leaves. Sometimes an apology is no longer enough.
I know that it is hard to do, but it is mostly for the best not to stir the pot when it is already too late. The wisest way to handle issues is to bring them up early on. Talk and work them out before they blow up.
Love is like a rose. Roses are so beautiful, with their sweet smell, the velvet petals, brilliant colors, and heady scent. It overwhelms the senses.
The Man Who Pushed Me Off A Cliff
Since I was a child, I have had fragmented memories of my past lives. These flashbacks are all parts of those lives and lessons that pertain to my soul growth and karma in this lifetime.
So far, all of my past life memories have had to do with someone I have interacted with here, in my current incarnation. In other words, I have met all of the people in my past life memories in this lifetime also.
One such memory of a past life, is of a man I was married to in Ireland. We were quite young. I would say no more than 20. We were poor and lived in a little cottage, near a cliff overlooking the ocean. It was a modest, but breathtakingly beautiful home and land. I also remember that I had long, curly red hair.
Sadly, my husband in that lifetime was physically and emotionally abusive. He was always worried that men would desire me and take me away from him.
But I had never been with any man but him. I didn’t want to be with my husband, but I certainly didn’t want another man to control and own me either.
He kept me prisoner in our home and refused to let me leave. My solace was the church. My soul’s water and food was the sunlight, and the sounds and smell of the ocean. My fantasies consisted of building a boat and heading out into the vastness, toward the sunset, letting the ocean’s waves carry me away to wherever she wished me to be. Interestingly, in my present life, nature has always been my sanctuary.
Maybe This Is How We Mend Our World
I have certainly been trespassed against over the years, as I suspect you may have too: maligned, misunderstood, abused, betrayed. Many of us have been hurt and wounded.
For many of us lifetimes of pain also seem to rise to the surface now, as if this era has come to collect on both the debts and the blessings.
Some of my wounds in this lifetime occurred at a young and tender age, when there seemed to be no healing granted; when the best I could do then was retreat and lick my wounds alone. There was no wise elder at my side, no sacred ceremony to mark the grief, no balm from the spirit realms. Just the aching silence of pain, and the quiet hope that one day, perhaps, I would understand why.
Since that time so long ago, I have also seen much vindication. This ability to witness what I have called “the coming around of the going around,” hasn’t been only in seeing karmic issues resolved for little slights, but for big wounds as well.
I’ve watched as Spirit, with its own perfect timing, allowed clarity and closure to emerge…sometimes years later, sometimes through unexpected channels. There is a strange and sacred justice to the Universe that rarely moves on our schedule, but always, always moves.
Justice. Yes, always in the end. But what of forgiveness?
It all shifted for me when I came to know the ‘big picture’ in the powerful prayer, “forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those that trespass against us.” These words are not just religious rote, but an energetic key to spiritual evolution. Continue reading