spiritual guidance
From Victim To Survivor To Soul Evolution
The process of healing begins with psychological healing, which can then be carried forward to become transformational and contribute to your soul evolution. The original traumatic event or circumstances are experienced as a wound, as it should be. The pain of the occurrence is meant to be a lesson.
To shut this down by being stoic, or to minimize what happened to you, or your family, or your race, or to sugarcoat the experience with so called ‘positive thinking’ are the actions of a victim in denial. To feel the pain, to go through it and come out the other side is the journey of a warrior. This is where you start.
You set up this lesson before you ever incarnated. As a soul, working with your sacred group, and with guidance, you pre-determined these circumstances to create an amazing opportunity to forward your evolution as a soul. Accept what happened, which means don’t fight it, don’t deny it, go through the experience, feel it. Let it affect you, shape you, change you, challenge you.
Victim Stage
If you have a legal battle ahead of you for something such as rape, you will have to stay in victim (or victim survivor) mode as that is what the legal system demands. In fact, you will have to emphasize damage done to you in order to win your case. Even when one must call the police to come to a situation, law enforcement officers counsel people to say, for example, “I think I saw a gun.” This is done in order to get the police out in a timely manner and get it on record. Law enforcement is so overwhelmed that they have to prioritize which calls to respond to. Sadly the same is true for the courts. Emphasizing the danger you are in, or the harm you suffered, is a necessary strategy for legal battles, however, it is no way to continue living your life once the battle is done.
Your Daily Life Is Speaking To You
Did you know that in addition to consulting psychics, astrologers, the Tarot and other well-known forms of divination, your very own mundane, everyday life is also a form of divination in and of itself? Every day, your reality is in constant communication with you – validating you, cautioning you, foreshadowing what is to come, and reflecting what has been.
Most of us are familiar with omens and signs – black cats, owls, lucky crickets. But beyond these superstitions, which often have a strong meaning of their own, your reality is highly personalized to you. It is constantly speaking a unique prophecy in a unique language, which applies only to you!
Here are three powerful ways that the universe singularly speaks to you in you in your daily life:
Synchronicities
Carl Jung wrote extensively about the phenomenon of synchronicity, and if you ever get a chance, check out some of his writing. Synchronicity could perhaps be described as ‘coincidence,’ but that would be a mistake. Synchronicity occurs where reality demonstrates patterns and repetitions.
If you continuously hear a reference to the same philosophical notion, the same song, the same number, individual, and so on, in such a way that begins to defy the odds of mere coincidence, then you are experiencing synchronicity.
Forget Self-Love
If you are wounded or unhealed; if you grew up in a dysfunctional family; if you grew up in an environment of poverty, violence, racism, or sexual assault… forget self-love! Seriously. Where on Earth would you have learned the skills for giving yourself some healthy self-love? You will be shooting in the dark trying to do something that you have never seen modeled for you, and never really experienced.
‘Self-love’ has become an overrated marketing slogan to sell self-improvement products and services. Start instead with self-care. This will be difficult enough. If you have children, think back on how complex it was figuring out how to care for your first born. The same concept applies to owning your first pet as an adult. No matter how much you prepared, you were never truly prepared. You made mistakes and you learned from them.
You also discovered that sometimes caring for your child meant doing things that the child did not like, or even hated. Your child would cry, fight, throw a tantrum, while you tried to keep him away from the hot stove, or from putting something harmful in her mouth.
Learning self-care is similar to raising a child or caring for a puppy. However, you will be the child and Spirit will be the parent. You will make mistakes and you will resist, because some of the things you currently think are acts of self-care are actually harmful to you. Continue reading