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Dealing With A Narcissistic Partner

click here for a free psychic reading right now at PsychicAccess.comWe all know at least one narcissist. It’s that toxic person in your life who seems charming and likable at first, but is actually extremely self-centered, has an inflated ego, shows no empathy or remorse, and can even become abusive. But what if that person is your partner, or someone you love?

Narcissists want to control. They want others to see them as important, superior and in charge. To a narcissist, someone who suffers from compromised self-esteem, is easy prey, which is why many people who have a narcissistic partner find it difficult to break it off.

Abuse is not always physical. It also takes the form of verbal insults, emotional manipulation or gaslighting, withholding affection, and unequal sharing of duties. All of these forms of abuse feed into a narcissist’s egotism. Narcissists typically try to rope their partners into joining into these negative, harmful relationship patterns.

So, what do you do when you find yourself attached to an abusive narcissist? At first, it’s easy to try and explain away their abusive behavior by citing times when they shows affection, brought gifts, or offered kindness and emotional support. They are good at pretending, but don’t be fooled.

Setting up healthy and definitive boundaries is the first and best defense. Know that you have the right to say no at any time! Falling for gaslighting, emotional manipulation and blackmail is an easy trap, and most narcissists are masters at these psychological games. If you’re unsure of yourself, role-play with a trusted friend or counselor, or read up on the subject. Like most difficult things in life, it takes practice.

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Astrological Polarity

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comOpposites attract. Why? Because they aren’t really opposites, they are different sides of the same coin.

For example, narcissists tend to attract empaths, and vice versa, because they both have boundary issues. Narcissists don’t give enough, if any at all, attention to other people’s boundaries. Empaths frequently don’t give enough attention to creating and maintaining their own boundaries.

Hopes and fears are the same. Often people hope they will find a partner, because they are afraid of being alone. Just like people hope they find a good job, because they are afraid of going broke. It is important to examine your fears, so you can shift focus onto your hopes.

The Universe constantly seeks balance. For this reason, many things are really composed of two opposing things, including a person’s astrological sign. Yes, each zodiac sign has a polarity, or opposite sign. These polarities balance each other and help give insight to a person’s motivations.

Many people are aware of their Sun Sign, some know their Moon Sign, and some know their Rising Sign. But not many people know their opposite signs. These signs are, however, equally important to help us discover ways to achieve more balance in our life.

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How To Deal With Ghosts In Your Home

click here for a free psychic reading right now at PsychicAccess.comDo you suspect your home may be haunted? If so, don’t panic! The majority of hauntings are generally harmless. However, it is nevertheless imperative that you be able to recognize when spirits are around you, and to know how to engage correctly with them at all times. If you suspect that you are dealing with something more ominous, then it may be advisable to find professional help from paranormal experts in your area. But in most cases there is usually nothing to fear. The following guidelines may useful to you when dealing with typical ghosts in your home

Spirit Spotting

Spirits are often experienced by humans as orbs, flashing lights, shadows, blurs or mists. Complete, full-bodied apparitions, as are often portrayed in the movies, tend to be more rare and less frequently encountered. Yet, this is what most people expect to see, which impairs their very awareness to recognize spiritual contact when it actually happens.

Interestingly, paranormal research suggests that ghosts tend to be more active during the night, rather than the daytime, possibly because there is less electronic disturbance being emitted from household appliances at this time. In fact, electricity is a crucial factor in tracking down ghosts, as a lot of professional paranormal investigators use Electromagnetic Field (EMF) meters to measure spirit activity.

When an electromagnetic current changes or moves, it creates an EMF, and as ghosts are understood to be a form of energy, this energy current interferes with the EMF fields that surround them whenever they move, thus allowing any detecting equipment to ascertain both the spirit’s presence and whereabouts. How exciting is that?

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Self-Care Life Hacks For Empaths

click here for a free psychic reading right now at PsychicAccess.comAs we go about our everyday life, enjoying or loathing our experiences, we are always surrounded by an entire realm of energetic interactions. These subtle energies are not easily palpable, and cannot be perceived by the regular senses.

For example, many people have experienced a fleeting feeling that some presence was in a room with them, when no one was actually present. Similarly, most people, even when blindfolded, can sense a person standing next to them. Or sometimes, when we buy a home or car, for example, we become aware that something ‘feels off’ about it, but we just cannot quite put our finger on it.

In such cases we are perceiving energy with our so-called ‘sixth sense.’ We cannot physically see, smell, hear, taste or feel the energy, but we ‘sense’ it intuitively. It is also known as clairsentience or extra-sensory perception, which is perception beyond the five normal senses.

Every person perceives energy in this way, however, some people are naturally more sensitive to it. The spiritual or metaphysical community uses different terms for such individuals, including psychic, intuitive, sensitive or empath. The empath is a sensitive person who specifically has a higher level of awareness of other people’s feelings and emotions.

Empaths are often judged from a young age as being ‘too sensitive or ‘overly emotional’ by family members or care-givers. Sadly, this often promotes the false belief that emotional sensitivity is somehow a ‘weakness,’ or the opposite of inner strength, self-confidence, or even intelligence.

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Extend Yourself The Grace Of Forgiveness

click here for a free psychic reading a PsychicAccess.comIf you are an empath you may believe that forgiveness should be easy for you, or at least easier than it is for others. But I’ve spoken to many empaths and highly sensitive people over the years who all struggle with forgiveness.

One of the main issues with forgiveness for the empath is that we feel another’s emotions intensely, literally as our own. This muddies the waters considerably, because it tends to blur boundaries. Blurred boundaries can often lead to a closed mouth for an empath. Why? Because it is difficult for us, especially in childhood or in romantic relationships, to know where we end and another begins.

It is easy for others to manipulate appropriate boundaries with an empath, or to erase them altogether. All the empath knows is that there is pain, sadness, a sense of frustration, or anger.  If you are an empath, then the question becomes are you angry with them, or yourself? Should you have been able to foresee the catastrophe happening, the relationship ending, job imploding, and so on. This leads to self-doubt and the rehashing of incidents that occurred years ago…with no resolution.

In the meantime, every time an empath thinks about the situation, past or present, we feel it…and the cycle continues.

Yes, you are empathic, intuitive, even psychic, but that does not make you immune to being human, neither does it make you all-knowing or all-seeing, especially when it comes to your own life, childhood or relationships.

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Spirit Says You Can’t Please Everyone

click for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comI have learned that people-pleasing is something that one simply cannot do. People must learn to do it for themselves. We cannot please everyone all of the time, and some people will never be satisfied anyway, no matter how much time, energy and love we offer them. They are simply not ever going to be happy, no matter what. Period.

I can think of various situations where one might feel the need to coddle and people-please those we love and care for, but in the end it will only bring us self dis-ease and stress.

For example, the child who tries to please and be there and do everything for the parent. Why is this a bad idea? Well, the parent may give up if their child tries to do everything for them. Especially if they are older and trying to find themselves and re-establish their own life, after taking care of everyone else their whole life.

Sometimes we can smother an ageing parent with kindness, by trying to do too much for them. When we do this, it makes them second guess their ability to do things for themselves. It may even cause them to worry, have anxiety, or become fearful of living.

It is good to be there for one’s elderly parents, however there is a line that can be crossed if we try and do too much and make them feel like they cannot do certain things anymore. Sure, if their driver’s license has been taken from them, for example, and they cannot see well anymore, then obviously driving them places makes sense. But, if they are still able to function normally, then let them!

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How To Boost Your Confidence

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comSometimes I wish that confidence was for sale! Feeling confident can make all the difference, for example, when you are anxious about accepting a social invitation, without the need for spending hours of internal dialogue trying to convince yourself it will be okay for you to attend. Confidence also means being able to easily decide what to wear for the big night out, and so on.

Indeed, I have marveled at other people’s ability to do such things with ease. However, these very same people are no different than you or me. It is just that they have mastered their mindset with regards being confident, and so can you! Here’s how:

Maintain Healthy Boundaries

Have you noticed certain people in your life encroaching on your space and time? If so, it may be time to implement some polite, yet firm boundaries. By doing so, you should find that this really builds your confidence in both professional and personal relationships, and you no longer feel drained or undermined by specific individuals you have to share some of your time and space with.

Practice Self-Awareness

We hear a lot these days about being more self-aware, but just what is meant by this? Well, it simply means having the ability to recognize when you are falling into a pattern of self-sabotage. Let’s say, for example, you are due to meet a person who continually makes significant demands on you, but you find great difficulty in saying no to them. By learning the art of becoming more self-aware, you can plan, in advance, how to remain strong and firm with this particular individual, so that your relationship with them becomes far healthier.

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