Posts Tagged ‘mourning’
A very good friend passed away recently. She left behind five children, and each of them was questioning why they didn’t do more to help their mom prolong her life, despite the fact that this very loving soul was in pain most of the time and had an extremely lonely existence.
She no longer had what one might call a ‘good quality of life.’ But they have taken it upon themselves to hold one another responsible to keep her on this plane, when it was becoming increasingly clear she was so very prepared to leave.
We discussed the situation at length and some of the siblings were finally convinced their mother’s time of passing had very little to do with them. If they had no bearing as to when she entered the planet, why on earth would they have a say as to when she could leave? Read the rest of this entry »
Accepting divorce as a reality is an important step in the healing process. One must mourn the loss of what could have been, but you don’t want to get stuck in the past, because it won’t change anything.
Acceptance is the most difficult step that one must take in releasing the past and begin a new chapter of life. Acceptance involves things like blame, resentment, and regret. We have the option to let go of negative emotions, which will give us the freedom to move forward.
So, now you are divorced, do you choose to stay bitter and hurt? No, you work through it and regain your strength, so that you can find yourself again. I know this is easier said than done, but nothing in this life is accomplished without some effort. You have one life to live, and you get to decide how you want to live it. Read the rest of this entry »
Every one of us deals with loss at some point in our lives. A family member, a friend, even our beloved pets. We may be angry or depressed long after the loss occurs, and ask ourselves why it happened. As we work through the stages of grief, keeping a sense of spirituality is essential.
It’s natural to ask our higher power for answers. We have to keep the lines of communication open. In doing so, we work through our grief and learn more about ourselves. This is called “soulwork,” or “soul-searching.” It should not be confused with connecting to our loved ones on the other side, though this may be part of the journey. Expressing grief is the most important thing we can do. Read the rest of this entry »
Gifted clients sometimes call me to ask how to develop their psychic abilities. My answer is always the same, connect with like-minded people so that you can openly share, learn and practice.
Where to find these people is usually the next question. Well, you found me for starters! Something bigger than all of us directed you to me. More will follow. At times it is not necessary for you to seek. As the saying goes, when the student is ready the teacher will appear…
Driving has always been my escape. Cranking up the music, opening the windows, becoming one with my car. It is where I do my best thinking. Unconsciously, I am aware of my surroundings. I’ve always been a safe driver. But consciously my mind is sometimes in high gear. When I’m on the road I unwind, develop ideas, mull over dramas, laugh at the ridiculous, and most importantly, enjoy my own company. Read the rest of this entry »
On Friday, February 6, 2015, at 7:07pm my friend and colleague Sally Jacobsen (aka Salome Shaman) took her final breath. She was surrounded by her five children and, despite the many tears, it was a peaceful passing. Later there were close to 100 people at her funeral and the messages given were powerful and unforgettable.
Before I met Sally, she had already made a name for herself in our local Pagan community. She was talked about in almost reverent whispers: “Have you ever met her? Isn’t she the one who helped the police find that missing girl? You should take a class from her, she really knows her stuff.”
When I finally met her, I remember thinking that there was an almost regal bearing to the way she held herself: her posture was completely correct, her make-up flawless, not a hair out of place. It felt like she knew what was being said, but didn’t care. She knew who and what she was, confident in everything about herself, and in what she did. Read the rest of this entry »
I believe if you lose anything in life, grief or grieving allows you to let go and mourn that particular loss. Grief is a process of letting go and coping with a profound loss of a person, relationship, job, circumstance, home, and so forth.
The first major encounter with someone’s death, that I felt profoundly affected me, was my best friend. We grew up together and spent almost every weekend with each other. I met her when I was eight years old and had the privilege and honor of knowing her throughout the rest of my life.
She was my rock at times, especially when my own teen years going into young adulthood were the most turbulent times I had ever known. She was there for me. I never thought it would be possible to lose her like I did, and so unexpectedly. Read the rest of this entry »