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To Hate Is A Self-Destructive Choice

Click Here NOW for a FREE psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comWhen I was in middle school, around the age of 13 or so, I remember an older, more popular girl used to constantly bully me. I also remember coming home from school and telling my mother about it. I told my mother that I hated that girl, but she very sternly said, “Oh no, you don’t hate anyone!”

I defiantly replied, “Oh yes, I do!”

My mother then patiently replied, “Okay, well if you are going to insist on hating her, please go and do it somewhere else, young lady. I do not want to hear about it anymore!”

She never explained to me why she felt it was inappropriate for me to hate anyone. I didn’t figure this out until much later in my life.

My own daughter is now also a teenager and she sometimes comes home from school with similar complaints. A girl at school has been spreading false rumors about her. Just like I did all those years ago, my daughter also told me how she hated this girl. And I replied the same way my mother did, except I also explained that hate only breeds more hate.

To hate someone or something only hurts you, no one else. My daughter hating this person she feels has wronged her, will only cause her to hurt herself more with negative emotion, every time she thinks about this person. Every time she tells a friend or family member about this girl, she will be refueling her own negative fire. Thus, she will only end up hurting herself more.

The other girl does not feel every occasion my daughter is upset, or reliving the hurtful situation that occurred. In reality, my daughter is punishing herself every time she thinks about how this person wronged her. This is what we all tend to do, when we find ourselves in similar or hurtful situations.

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Taking Time Out On Life’s Park Bench

Click Here now FOR a FREE psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comRecently, I had the wonderful experience of meeting a mature gentleman who was sitting in the park on a bench. As I approached the bench, I noticed he was smiling and writing on a manila notepad. I sat down on the next bench to enjoy the sounds of the wind, and the birds, and the barking of a dog playing nearby with a little boy.

The gentleman introduced himself and we began talking. I asked him what he was so furiously writing about in his notepad?

“Life,” he said and smiled.

I obviously had a puzzled look on my face and he laughed. I asked what was so funny? He answered with a puzzling question.

“Well, what does the word ‘life’ mean to you?”

We then began a very pleasant philosophical conversation about metaphysics. I confided that I was in fact a psychic and we talked about energy, manifesting, meditation, and psychic phenomena.

At one point he asked me how I handle crossroads or major decisions in my life? Now it was my turn to laugh. He cocked his head and seemed curious as to my reaction.

“Well, we all deal with life changes and crossroads differently,” I said, “but since you are writing about ‘life’ on your notepad, I suspect you’re busy making a list of all the pros and cons of the dilemma or life choice you’re currently facing?”

“Yes,” he admitted. “That’s exactly what I’m doing.”

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The Self-Healing Miracle Of Letting Go

Click Here now FOR a FREE psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comIn the mid-90s, I had the opportunity to attend The Sedona Method Technique Teacher Training course in Arizona. The experience pierced the core of my being and changed my life forever.

Initially, I was reluctant to go, because I was living in Michigan at the time with my husband and two young daughters. My youngest was around a year old and our older daughter was only five. We had not been living in Michigan very long as we had only recently moved there, and I was terribly worried about leaving them for two weeks!

Nevertheless, I convinced myself to go, because my husband had gone to a previous workshop and raved about how it transformed his life. I sensed it would be good tool to incorporate into my psychic readings and metaphysical work.

When I arrived at the workshop there were attendees from all over the world, including psychiatrists, psychologists, and even scientists. To be honest, I felt a little awkward being thrown in with a bunch of ‘genius nerds’ with various fancy post-graduate degrees. It was a bit intimidating to feel that many of them probably had a much better understanding and formal education on human behavior than I did. However, that did not prevent me from also learning this wonderful technique.

The Sedona Method is based on the concept of Emotional Intelligence (EQ). It is different from intellectual intelligence, because it refers to our ability to recognize and regulate our own emotions, and how skilled we are at using social awareness to find solutions to daily challenges and life problems.

The Sedona Method therefore teaches one how to improve your EQ. In the same way we can go to the gym to strengthen a muscle, or do brain training puzzles to improve our memory, we can also train and develop our emotional intelligence.

Our natural impulse when something makes us sad, angry, or fearful, is to resist and fight back, or shut down emotionally to it. Emotional intelligence requires that we take a step back, take a breath, and release the urge to go with a kneejerk reaction of firing back or shutting down.

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Tune Into The Guidance Of Your Emotions

Click Here now FOR a FREE psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comI believe our emotions are an additional ‘sense’ we use as a means of interpreting our life experiences, in the same way the normal five senses enable us to perceive and understand the world around us. Our ‘emotional sense’ help us make decisions about our preferences all the time.

For example, I love chocolate. My sense of taste tells me that chocolate is for me! It’s a very clear and obvious signal from my taste buds to my brain. We receive and process stimuli all the time and our senses help us to ‘make sense’ of that input.

Your emotions are also giving you information about your preferences and if we listen and pay attention, we can gain a lot of guidance from it. Our emotions don’t just come from nowhere. They arise in direct response to stimuli or input, just like our senses do.

I have also heard emotions described as an internal guidance system, or our inner compass, which helps us decide what we want to create more of, and less of, in our life. We sometimes get confused though, because just like the other senses, we have different preferences.

For example, some people love coconut desserts, but I detest then. Not thanks, keep your coconut out of my chocolate! The thing is, I’m not confused about the fact that I don’t like coconut. I also don’t feel I have to change my preference because other people love coconut. And I also don’t force myself to eat it, just to make other people happy.

When one of our five physical senses tells us something we tend to listen, because it’s visceral. We feel it undeniably in the body. Emotions are no different!

When you are heartbroken, do you not feel it in your chest as a physical pain? When you are embarrassed, do your cheeks or ears not become flushed? Or how about when someone you love hugs you so warm and deliciously, all your muscles just ‘melt’ into that person? These are all physical responses the accompany our emotions.

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Connecting With Your Dragon Guides

Click Here NOW for a FREE psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comDid you know you have dragon guides? Yes, we all do! Perhaps you have even more than one. Thousands of years ago dragons did exist in our world, even though today we see them as ‘fantasy’ creatures. Within every myth, legend and fairytale, there’s always some truth.

Just like everything else that we have ignorantly failed to understand throughout the course of human history, we were fearful and afraid of dragons. So, we took a ‘defensive’ approach by destroying them, instead of living in peace with them.

Dragons are highly intelligent creatures, much like the dolphins of today. They are also highly intuitive, and if we had chosen to work with them in the correct way while they were still here in our world, they could have been greatly beneficial to our lives. Instead, we extinguished them out of fear.

They came from another dimension to be with us on the Earth plane – most likely from the 5th dimension or beyond. By ‘dimension’ I mean a more intelligent and civilized plane of existence, where all creatures are more aware and considerate of the other beings around them.

I believe the dragons came here thousands of years ago to help us evolve and teach us to be more respectful of nature. But, after centuries of trying to co-exist with our violent, destructive species, they gave up and went back home to their higher dimension realm.

But you see, because they are so smart, they found another way to continue communicating with those of us who are open and willing to learn from them and today we can telepathically connect with them. Dragons are guides that come to us as spirit animals throughout our lives, depending upon what we are going through at that moment in time.

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Starting Over…Now What?

Click Here NOW for a FREE psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comThere is a time in our life for most of us when we have no choice but to start over. Many of us will have to start over after a relationship or marriage ends, a loved one or pet is lost, a friendship turns sour, or a career hits a dead end. And in these challenging moments you may well ask yourself, what do I do now?

As a psychic reader, working with many people over the years, I have seen some common mistakes people make in these times of their lives. The main misconception, I have found, is that many people believe their mistakes and failures are something negative or shameful.

The truth is every ending and new beginning is a learning experience. It is an opportunity to grow, if you approach them calmly with honesty. It is never a good idea in these situations to let your emotions get in the way.

Next time you face the challenges of a new beginning, try the following exercise. Before you start, get a notepad and pen. Next, take note of the ‘rules’ for this exercise.

1. You have to be willing to admit your part or role in what has happened.

2. You have to be completely honest with yourself, even if it hurts.

3. You have to approach this exercise from a third person perspective, so you can observe everything more clearly andobjectively.

4. This is not a blame game, or a pity party. There are no losers here, only winners.

Now, draw a vertical line on the page to create two columns. In one column write down all the negatives concerning what has happened, and in other all the positives. Be totally honest. Look at the situation as a bystander, and do your best to take all emotion out of it.

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Take Advantage Of Today’s New Moon Energy

Click Here FOR a FREE psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comAlong with the Full Moon, the New Moon is one of the most defining phases of the lunar cycle, because the Sun, Moon and Earth are all in perfect alignment during this phase. This month’s New Moon occurs today, in the mid-morning hours, while the Dark Moon happened last night. Both phases are potent to utilize intentionally.

The lunar phases are known to affect the ocean tides and all water on the Earth. Similarly, in Astrology, the Moon represents everything associated with the water element, such as our mood, emotions and dreams. The Moon in our natal chart also shapes the blueprint of our inherent skills, gifts, talents, and psychic abilities.

Since ancient times, the lunar cycle has been utilized as a tool for conscious creating, manifesting and spiritual practice. In the case of the New Moon, the Moon find itself directly between the Earth and the Sun. It reaches a point when it becomes totally ‘dark,’ with no sunlight illuminating it at all. The Moon then emerges again as a tiny sliver of light, known as the New Moon.

The transition into the New Moon actually presents us with two powerful points of lunar energy to work with – both the Dark Moon’s total blackout, and New Moon’s re-illumination.

The Dark Moon is a short but powerful time for soul-searching. It is the deep ‘cocoon phase,’ before the shell of rebirth cracks open. It represents a moment of release of that which is no longer serving us. The Dark Moon is the ideal time to enter into stillness, re-evaluate goals, and plant new seeds of desire. The darkness is a potent point of creativity. Pay close attention to any dreams or visions you may had in the past 24 hours. It is worth being very intentional at this time of the month.

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