Signs Your Partner Might Be Cheating

Is your partner cheating on you? Is your spouse having an affair? Should you believe their version of events? Is there a noticeable change in their behavior or routine? Do you sense a lack of trust or transparency in your relationship?

These types of suspicions can create a wall in relationships that is almost impossible to break down – especially if they turn out to be unfounded. When the fears are true, however, infidelity has the power to completely shatter trust and even destroy a family.

Over the years, I’ve done countless relationship readings for people from all walks of life, and one theme comes up again and again: infidelity.

In these readings, I have noticed certain patterns of behavior that consistently emerge when someone is hiding an affair. These signs aren’t just guesses or speculation-they are recurring clues that I’ve seen confirmed time and time again by the lived experience of my clients.

I don’t claim to have all the answers, but I’ve seen enough to know when something isn’t right. Whether it’s someone’s energy, their words, or the tears they shed when describing what they’ve noticed, these signs often speak louder than the lies people tell.

But knowing the truth is only part of the journey. Once you uncover it, you must be willing to act and not settle for disrespect or dishonesty.

If you’ve been feeling uncomfortable or insecure in your relationship, recognizing these signs early can help bring clarity to your situation and save you a lot of disappointment and heartache. Many of my clients who didn’t take it seriously at the time can vouch for this today.

It might sound ordinary for a woman to find out her husband’s cheating on her, but not if you’re the woman and it’s your husband ~ Melissa Bank

Here are the most common signs I’ve seen in my work that may indicate your significant other is cheating:

Phone Secrecy

One of the most glaringly obvious signs of potential infidelity is secrecy with a partner’s phone. Has your partner suddenly become very protective of their device? Look for behaviors such as:

– Quickly hiding the screen or putting the phone away when you enter the room.
– Taking the phone everywhere-even to the bathroom or shower.
– Setting up new passwords or fingerprint locks that you don’t know.
– Always keeping the phone on your person or in an inaccessible place.
– Laughing at texts or notifications but refusing to share what’s amusing.

While phone obsession is common today, excessive secrecy can be a red flag. It doesn’t confirm an affair, but it’s worth noting when paired with other behaviors.

One-Sided Communication

Healthy communication is essential in a relationship. If you notice these patterns, it may be a sign of emotional disconnect:

– Conversations feel one-sided, with you doing all the talking and them offering minimal responses.
– They seem distracted, focusing on their phone, food, or anything other than you during conversations.
– You have to repeat yourself several times to get an answer.
– They avoid eye contact or seem eager to end the interaction.

When someone is emotionally present, they maintain eye contact, laugh, and engage with empathy. A lack of these can be a sign that their attention is elsewhere.

Emotional Distance

Cheating doesn’t always begin with physical betrayal-it often begins with emotional disconnection. If your partner is growing distant, consider whether they are:

– Sharing fewer details about their day or life.
– Refusing to talk about feelings or problems in the relationship.
– Becoming less empathetic to your feelings or needs.
– An emotionally invested partner will actively work to keep you involved in their world. Sudden withdrawal may be a sign that they’re emotionally invested elsewhere.

Sexual Desire

A shift in intimacy can signal emotional or physical distance. It’s normal for sexual desire and frequency to fluctuate in long-term relationships, but avoidance is another matter. Ask yourself:

– Has your partner started making excuses to avoid intimacy, such as claiming they’re too tired or sick?
– Have they started wearing conservative sleepwear when they used to prefer something more revealing – or nothing at all?
– Do they go to bed at odd hours to avoid sleeping with you, such as retiring early or waiting until you’re already asleep?

Physical intimacy isn’t just about sex – it’s about connection. If hugs, kisses, or even simple gestures of affection like holding hands have disappeared, it may be a sign of trouble.

Unexplained Absence

Spending some time apart on a regular basis is healthy in a mature relationship, but increasing or frequently unexplained absences may signal a problem. Watch out if your partner:

– Encourages you to go out with friends more often, especially if they seem eager to have the house to themselves.
– Plans trips or events without including you, if they used to.
– Claims to be on a business trip or out with friends, but avoids phone calls or sends only short texts while away.
– Is unreachable during late hours when they’re away, even at times when you expect them to be available.

Frequent absences without transparency may indicate that they’re creating opportunities for dishonesty.

Defensive Behavior

Have you noticed your partner getting defensive about innocent questions? For example:

– Snap at you for asking about their day or whereabouts.
– Accusing you of being paranoid or suspicious when you raise legitimate concerns.
– Seeming guilty or uncomfortable in situations that previously felt normal, such as hugging you or accepting gifts.

Exaggerated defensiveness may be a way to divert attention from questionable behavior.

Frequent Arguments

Do arguments seem to occur more often and over trivial matters? A partner who is being unfaithful may:

– Create conflict to justify spending time apart or leaving the house.
– Accuse you of being controlling or jealous when you ask questions.
– Pick fights and then use them as excuses to avoid intimacy or communication.

Unnecessary tension can be a tactic to distract from their own guilt or to shift blame onto you.

Appearance Changes

Sudden and unexplained changes in grooming habits, style or fashion choices can be an obvious sign of infidelity. Have you noticed any of the following recent changes:

– A newfound interest in fashion or wearing cologne/perfume daily when they didn’t before.
– Spending more time on grooming, such as shaving or styling their hair.
– Going to the gym or embarking on a weight loss journey without including you in their motivation.

While self-improvement is great, when coupled with secrecy or other signs, these changes may indicate that they’re trying to impress someone new.

Financial Secrecy

Cheating often comes at a cost-dinners, gifts, or hotel stays. If your partner’s financial habits have changed, take note:

– Withdraw cash frequently and don’t explain why.
– Hiding bank statements or becoming secretive about joint finances.
– Unexplained charges on credit cards for restaurants, travel, or unusual purchases.

A lack of financial transparency can be a red flag, especially when combined with other suspicious behavior.

Gut Feeling

Finally, and most importantly, trust your gut! Your intuition will tell you that something is wrong or something is right. Your guides and angels are speaking to you. Your gut is the “inner knowing” part of you. What is your gut saying?

Your heart is your emotional core, so you have to take it out of the picture, and your mind is the analytical core, so take it out of the picture as well. Listen to what your inner guidance is telling you. Be in tune with it; it will always give you 100% truth about any situation in your life.

However, you must also be careful not to confuse the baggage of your past (not their past) with your suspicions. If your last partner cheated on you or if you’re by nature a very jealous person, don’t project it onto the person you love, or you may just create the situation you’re accusing them of.

Be discerning here. It is important that you always know if you are projecting your insecurities onto someone else, or if the insecurities are coming from that other person’s actions. Take care of yourself first and foremost.

Seeing one or two of these signs doesn’t necessarily mean your partner is cheating – life’s stresses, changes, or health issues can also affect behavior. However, if you notice several red flags and feel uneasy, it’s time to address the situation.

Honest communication should always be the first step. Express your concerns calmly and without accusation. If your partner is honest and committed, he or she will work with you to rebuild trust and address any issues.

However, if your fears are confirmed, remember that staying in a relationship where you’re disrespected is not healthy for anyone involved. Knowing the truth is painful, but it’s the first step toward healing and finding the respect and love you deserve.

The truly scary thing about undiscovered lies is that they have a greater capacity to diminish us than exposed ones. They erode our strength, our self-esteem, our very foundation ~ Cheryl Hughes

How A Psychic Reading Can Help

When you suspect your partner is cheating, the emotional toll can become overwhelming. Questions swirl in your mind: Am I thinking too much? Is this my insecurity, or is something deeper going on? This uncertainty can leave you feeling stuck, anxious, and unsure of what to do next.

A psychic reading can be a powerful tool to help you gain clarity and move forward with confidence. A skilled psychic can tap into the energy surrounding your relationship and tune into your partner’s behaviors, intentions, and emotions, helping you to uncover patterns or truths that may not be immediately obvious. A reading will give you insight into the dynamics of your relationship and a clearer perspective on whether your suspicions are based in reality or unfounded fears.

In addition to uncovering potential dishonesty, a psychic reading can also help you understand your own emotions and the deeper reasons behind your feelings. Sometimes our intuition picks up on things before our conscious mind can process them. A psychic can help you learn to trust your hunches while offering guidance on how to approach difficult conversations with your partner.

In addition, an experienced psychic can provide a sense of emotional support during this challenging time by creating a safe, nonjudgmental space for you to express your concerns, validate your feelings, and provide tools for healing and self-empowerment. Whether the reading confirms your fears or helps you release unfounded doubts, the process can be a catalyst for decisive action-whether that means rebuilding trust, setting boundaries, or walking away from a relationship that no longer serves you.

Ultimately, a psychic reading isn’t about creating fear or distrust-it’s about bringing clarity to a situation that may feel murky and helping you make decisions that are aligned with your highest good.

About The Author: Sheri Sheri is an international psychic and angel reader who provides clear answers on finance, career, relationships, manifesting your dreams, and working-out the kinks of life. Since 2004, Sheri is the owner on an International Spiritual Healing Centre where she runs her Reiki practice - either working on clients or teaching them the levels of Usui Reiki. She utilizes her office space for readings that are conducted via mail, phone, chat or live. Since 2008, she's honed her gifts on various psychic service websites, where she's provided telephone, chat or email readings. She also works on a spiritual network for people who have suffered horrific loss, applying her own first-hand experiences with such tragedies. Sheri's work has been described as honest, compassionate and life-transforming and she would like to see all of her clients soar free to a higher level of spirituality and growth, and exponentially change the world to the best it can be. You can get a psychic reading from Sheri at PsychicAccess.com.