Is Your Partner Cheating?

Is your partner cheating on you? Is your spouse seeing someone else? These thoughts can be life-changing in a relationship. It can create a wall that is very difficult to tear down, especially if it is not the truth of the situation. Yet, if true, it can also destroy a family.

There are several signs to watch for in every relationship that will bring the truth of the situation to you. However, you must be willing to act after knowing the truth, and not just sit there and be disrespected.

Phone Secrets

Does the cell phone get hidden when you walk into a room, after they have been fervently texting on it? Does it go in their pocket, or under a cushion? Does it go into the bathroom with them? Is it always by the bed, in a place that you could never access it? Is it password or fingerprint protected so you cannot see anything in it?  Has it become a third appendage attached to the person at all times? Are they chuckling, however won’t show you what they find so amusing?

It might sound ordinary for a woman to find out her husband’s cheating on her, but not if you’re the woman and it’s your husband ~ Melissa Bank

Many people are overly attached to their smart phones these days, however when the phone must go everywhere with them – even when they go to take a shower – they are hiding something. Does this mean they are having an affair? Not necessarily, however it is one of the signs to watch for.

Sexual Desire

Over time, every couple has moments when the sexual part of their partnership drops off. That is normal. However if your partner does everything within their power to avoid having sexual contact with you, pay attention. Do they go to bed earlier and pretend they are asleep? Have they suddenly started wearing pyjamas, when previously they only slept in something skimpy, or nothing at all? Are they going to bed hours after you’re asleep and getting up before you?

Yes, the sexual aspects of relationships tapers off over time for many couples, however the cuddling, the hugs, the kiss good morning and the kiss goodbye when they go to work is not about sex. It is about love. Have those disappeared too?

Is your partner making excuses not to be intimate with you? “I’m too tired; I don’t feel well.” I have even heard someone say, “It’s the medication I’m taking.”  There are many signs here.  Listen with your gut when you try to have that romantic moment with your partner and they push you away, or give you an excuse. What is your gut telling you?

One-Sided Conversations

This one is very telling. At times, outside issues, like work or stress, will cause a partner not to be in the moment with you. However, you should be able to coax them to talk to you about what is going on, whether it be family, work, school, or friends.

When you are sitting at the table eating dinner, are you having a one-sided conversation? Is your partner listening or focusing on their plate of food, never looking at you?  When you are asking questions, do you have to ask multiple times before receiving a response? Is your partner emotionally there in the moment with you or are they just shoveling the food in, so they can leave the table as quickly as possible, and go be somewhere else in avoidance of you?

When the two of you are talking, is your partner looking you in the eyes, paying attention to every word, laughing, being compassionate, contributing to the conversation, or do you feel like you are talking to yourself? Eye contact is a great sign that your partner is with you in that moment and is still interested in the conversation about everything in your and their life.

The truly scary thing about undiscovered lies is that they have a greater capacity to diminish us than exposed ones. They erode our strength, our self-esteem, our very foundation ~ Cheryl Hughes

Time Apart

Is your partner urging you to go away with your friends more often? Is your partner urging you to go somewhere without them more often? Do they want you gone for a period of time for no apparent reason?

On the flip side of that, is your partner telling you they have to go somewhere for business for a few day, or a group of friends is going on a vacation together and when you were always invited to go in the past, you are not invited any longer. When they do go away, you call their cell, they don’t answer, but only text you back and it is a brief message? When you try their hotel room, no one answers the phone and it’s close to midnight?

These are just a few of the signs that your partner could be cheating on you. One of these thing on its own means ‘be aware.’ However, if you are seeing several of these signs, know that there is definitely something going on.

Gut Feeling

Lastly, and most important of all, is to trust your gut. Your gut will tell you something is wrong, or something is right.  Your gut is your angels, your spirit guides and your intuition speaking to you. It is the ‘knowing’ part of you.

What is your gut saying?  Your heart is the emotional core so you have to leave it out of the picture, and your mind is the analytical core, so take it out of the picture too. Listen to what your intuition is telling you. Be in tune with it; it will always give you 100% truth of any situation in your life.

Each person has a warning sign that is inside of them. However, you must also be careful that you don’t confuse the baggage of your past (not their past) with your suspicions. If your last partner cheated on you, if you are a jealous person, don’t project that on the person you love, or you can and will create the situation you are accusing them of.

Be discerning here. It is important that you always know whether you are projecting your insecurities on someone else, or if the insecurities are coming from this other person’s actions. Pay attention to yourself first and foremost.