Take Back Your Power!
Everyone has a story to tell about their love life. And some of have extremely abusive stories to tell. One common element that I have come across frequently in my work, is the fact that some people are treated with disrespect and emotional abuse, and yet they are still patiently waiting for the abuser to return to them!
When you ask them why, it is usually because they “still love” that person. Well, that is not love. It is simply an imagined need that has been created by the abuser, or by one’s lack of self-worth. It is a psychological illusion, not real.
If you are still waiting for someone to come back into your life, after they left you for someone else, you are making yourself the second choice. You are degrading your own true value and taking away from your self-worth.
During a workshop I presented on this subject, I asked the participants to write down why they felt they needed that other person in their life. In essence, all their responses ended up being about lack of self-esteem, self-respect and self-security.
The next step was to ask them how they would you feel if they saw someone treating their daughter, or son, in the same way they have been allowing the abusive partner to treat them? They all said they wouldn’t tolerate it. They would intervene and get that person out of their lives, or at least try. One of the delegates even went as far as to say, “I would lock her in the house and never let her out again.” Which might be a great idea under the circumstances, but obviously not realistic!
Choose Your Tribe Wisely
We need to face the fact that some people are unfriendly, heartless, and simply rude! I discovered recently why someone I know personally acts so unfeeling and uncaring towards others. She always seems so wrapped up in her own world and shows no regard for anyone else. This has brought about much dis-ease in her own family and she has also gone through numerous failed romantic relationships.
During a recent family gathering, I was observing her aura and noticed that she suffers tremendous guilt and envy of others. Meanwhile, she is always looking for acceptance and comfort from her many boyfriends, who only stick around until they find out how manipulative and vindictive she really is.
Spirit showed me that she truly hates herself and projects it onto others. She is just not happy and slowly drains the energy of those around her. They usually do not realize this until it is too late. I do wonder how those who orbit around this person can manage to stick around at all, as it seems dis-ease and drama just follows her everywhere she goes in life.
Before her sister’s funeral, she was even snapping and yelling at her youngest daughter for something as trivial as a puzzle piece accidentally dropped on the floor. I asked one of her other children how she grew up to be so loving and sweet, having been raised around that kind of negativity? She said the credit belonged to her grandparents, as well as a few other family members.
I refuse to be unkind to anyone. It is in my nature to be civil and courteous to everyone I meet. It is my motto to leave others feeling better than they were before I interacted with them. But many people, will not even smile, no matter what you say or do. Spirit says this is due to their ‘spark’ being blown out by their own bad life choices and negative thoughts. It’s a matter of free will.
My Lives Between Lives
Recently, I had the privilege of being a ‘case history’ client for a friend of mine, who had recently returned from completing a past life regression on life-between-lives. I have been fortunate enough to have had wonderful experiences with past life regression in the past, but the ‘in-between lives’ experience was something new for me, and I felt honored that she asked me to partake as one of her case studies for her course assignment.
During our session I was taken back into the past, and received imagery of previous lives. Glimpsing previous lifetimes was to help me see more clearly lessons learned, or not learned. My friend was a wonderful facilitator, as was the help received from my own master spirit guide.
In our session, I learned where my fear of fire originated from. To date, no past life reading I have received has ever touched on the origin of this fear. I have now discovered that my fear of fire relates to a more recent life, in what appeared to be approximately a century ago.
I was a male soldier in the Navy. My uniform was white, and my father, like in so many of my other past life regression experiences, played a significant role in this life also. He was a senior staff member on that ship. I also saw the Star of David during the regression, which suggests I was of Jewish faith in that life.
That particular life experience ended for my father and I when our ship caught fire. My uniform also caught fire! I recalled the flames, and then drowning.
The Art Of Receiving
Are you good a receiving? When you are given a compliment, how do you usually react? For many of us the typical reaction to a compliment is to offer it right back, or to immediately discount it. “Oh no, this old thing…” Seem familiar? Even if we manage to say thank you, words of denial or discounting often follow.
The same applies to being open to receiving help. Asking for, and accepting help from others, is often difficult for people. Especially women struggle with this, because many of us believe we are expected to do it all ourselves, and to also do it well!
Giving and receiving are two sides of the same coin. Yes, it is basically the same thing. You can’t have one without the other. It obviously does not feel good when you give something to someone, only to have it rejected, diminished or discounted. There is no reciprocal flow of energy when one is giving, but no one is receiving. Receiving is necessary for all of us!
Receiving is an art and it requires being conscious, sensitive and self-aware. First we must pay attention to our dysfunctional patterns of receiving (and not receiving), and then we must consciously work on becoming a more active and aware receiver.
This can be achieved in three simple steps. First, make an effort to listen, hear and acknowledge the gifts, compliments or help being offered. Second, taking it in fully, embrace it with your being and heart center. Finally, allow yourself to move into the state of gratitude for what has been given.
Developing The Gift Of Mediumship
To work as a psychic medium is a wonderful and gratifying profession that should be more widely respected by society. Anyone seeking to work as a medium should understand that mediumship is, and will always be, a spiritually enlightening experience and privilege. Mediumship brings peace of mind and joy to the heart.
Those who seek spirit communication vary greatly in needs, hopes and beliefs. Many people accept spirit contact wholeheartedly. Most often these are people who have had profound experiences, or have lived with their beliefs most of their life, often from families of believers.
Many people who consult psychic mediums want to know about the future. Will they find happiness? A mediumship reading can be very healing for them, making their lives less stressful and overwhelming.
Many also seek to repair relationships with loved ones who have passed to spirit, often to be forgiven, or to forgive. Healing the past allows people to move forward, and to recognize their own love. Mediumship enables us to release grief with afterlife validations, reassurance and resolution of unfinished issues. Some people just need confirmation of what they already know, or suspect. They seek the truth.
The medium or channeler is not only a healer. The medium also receives healing through the love of spirit and the work that they perform. This is a byproduct of the process. Mediumship is a healing modality, and as you give, so you receive.
The God-Force Within
One of the most empowering verses in The Bible is John 10:30, where Jesus says, “I and my Father are one.” It reminds us that the God-Force resides in all of us. Many of us have lost our inherent remembrance of the God-Force we carry within. As a result we find ourselves being bounced around by every unwelcome event or circumstance cycle in our lives.
Forgetting the power of God within us, we have become vulnerable to constant fear and worry. Many of us find ourselves enveloped in an ocean of anxiety, feeling we have little control over the events of our lives.
The change that we must make in order to effect a positive change, is that we must become receptive to the voice of God within. We should make the time every day, even if it is just for a few minutes, for some form of spiritual practice. We must meditate, pray, listen to our own inner voice. This enables the Higher Self to makes us more aware of our inner guiding Light-Force, or God-Force.
Spiritually conscious living empowers us to focus our life direction, by gaining control over our thoughts and emotions, and by becoming personally responsible for our karmic choices and actions. The soul or spiritual self is a strong, vibrant source of Love and Light. As we grow more confident in our innate spiritual power, we regain control of our life and become of greater service to others.
Daily spiritual practices, such as meditation, builds a personal relationship with our Higher Self, God, Source, Spirit, Universe, the Divine. It strengthens our spiritual powers. We learn to let go of any negative thought patterns, feelings and lifestyle habits, and by doing this we are growing into being a more positive and loving presence in this world.
The Universal Law Of Karma
Karma is a universal spiritual law, the same way that gravity is a law of nature or physics. The Law of Karma basically states that ‘as you sow, shall you reap.’ Karma is therefore the spiritual principle of ‘cause and effect.’ For every action there is an equal reaction, or ripple effect.
Karma is also what keeps everything in the Universe in balance. The Chinese symbol of Yin and Yang perfectly illustrates this process of ‘karmic balancing.’ It shows how all the positive and negative forces in the universe balance each other out, because karma equalizes the energy that flows through everything.
Every single action that we take in life is therefore like a spiritual seed we plant. Some of the seeds will sprout quickly, while others may take lifetimes to come to fruition. However long it may take, one thing is for sure, in time every seed we sow will germinate… and we will eventually have to face the result of all our actions and choices.
Karma is therefore an endless chain of actions and reactions, which binds every soul to their good and bad deeds. The soul, born into a physical body, is constantly acting to bring about the results of activity from one life to the next. We choose to act in a certain way, and then become involved with the reactions or consequences of each chosen action.
After giving up one physical body, we eventually enter into another, and we mostly forget everything about that previous life. In this way the soul reaps the results of his actions, from lifetime to lifetime. Everything that happens in our lives is nothing but the reaction of past activities.