personal growth
Are You Holding On To The Wrong Person?
Many of the questions that callers ask me during readings have one thing in common: how another person is affecting the their health, happiness, and peace of mind.
Despite the differences in the details, the underlying story is often the same: the person’s inner light is dimmed because they have been giving too much power to another person’s choices, moods, or shortcomings.
Many people seem to be in the wrong relationships. They hold on, waiting for things to change and hoping for the best. They postpone plans, silence their own needs and preferences, and test the limits of their patience, believing that a breakthrough will come tomorrow.
However, that is usually not what happens. People do not change for another person, and if they do, it never lasts or works out in the long run. A change driven by the need to please someone else rarely survives the stress of real life. As soon as complications arise, old habits resurface. People can only change for themselves.
Spirit’s guidance on this is always very clear: hanging onto the wrong person — whether a friend, family member, spouse, partner, lover, or boss — prevents us from experiencing the best life has to offer.
When we’re busy monitoring someone else’s actions, we have less capacity for our own personal and spiritual growth. This prevents the amazing blessings waiting for us from coming in, not because the universe is ‘stingy,’ but because our time and attention are fully booked.
Why Love Feels More Confusing Than Ever
Dating these days can feel like a full-time job — or a rollercoaster with no seatbelt. We swipe, like, text, ghost, reconnect… and repeat. It’s a fast-moving loop that can leave even the most grounded person’s head spinning.
Romance in the modern world is a strange mix of digital ease and emotional complexity. On one hand, dating apps offer endless possibilities.
On the other, they often leave us with decision fatigue and shallow interactions. You are connecting with more people than ever, yet feeling lonelier than ever!
Add to that a swirl of AI algorithms, shifting social norms, and sky-high expectations, and suddenly, dating feels less like magic and more like math.
Real emotional intimacy can seem like a rare treasure buried under surface-level chats and half-hearted DMs.
Everyone wants real love — but many of us are scared to be vulnerable, hesitant to trust, and reluctant to settle.
Social media doesn’t help much either. It often paints an idealized picture of love, all curated insta selfies and perfect dates. But what we don’t get to see are the quiet struggles, the messy growth, and the courage it takes to stay present and open-hearted.
And yet, despite all this noise, our hearts keeps searching — for that spark, that meaninful connection, that sense of being seen by someone who truly gets you.
Tarot Forecast June 2025: Knight Of Wands
The fiery spirit of the Knight of Wands predicts dynamic momentum, courageous action, and bold personal growth this month.
Expect a high-voltage month of movement, passion, and a strong desire for change, both internal and external. There may be significant breakthroughs, unexpected turns, and opportunities that demand quick decisions.
Whether we are taking on new roles, making bold moves in love, or advancing in our creative or career pursuits, life will be fast-paced and filled with intense passion.
The challenge will be to channel this vigorous vibe as mindfully as possible. The key will be to temper the boldness with mindfulness for the next four weeks.
If you harness this energy mindfully — acting courageously, yet not recklessly — you’ll find yourself breaking new ground in many areas of life. Staying aligned with your purpose is essential.
Stay focused and grounded, and let your drive lead you toward empowered, intentional growth. The month ahead is fast and full of potential — embrace it with vision and heart.
The Knight of Wands is traditionally depicted riding a feisty horse while wearing armor adorned with salamanders and flame-like feathers, which are symbols of transformation, drive and passion. He holds a sprouting wand aloft to represent potential and growth through action. Continue reading
April Showers Bring May, And June Flowers!
The old saying, “April showers bring May flowers,” reminds us that difficult periods can lead to growth and beauty.
For many, April this year truly felt like an emotional downpour, both internally and externally. It was a time of letting go and confronting old wounds or patterns that no longer served a purpose.
While the skies may not have cleared overnight, we are now entering a new chapter. As we move through late May and look ahead to June, a powerful shift is underway—one that brings hope, clarity, and blooming potential.
April is dominated by Aries season and the intensity of its fiery energy. Ruled by Mars, Aries tends to stir things up, fueling restlessness, frustration, and even conflict. This year, many of us felt an even stronger inner drive than usual to move forward, yet we also encountered lingering emotional blocks or unusual external resistance. For many, it was a month of both internal and external battles where old stories resurfaced to be healed or released.
Taurus season followed, overlapping the end of April and the first few weeks of May. Its slower, earthbound rhythm helped us begin to stabilize — but not without first confronting the emotional residue left behind.
Taurus energy urged us to get grounded, reconnect with our values, and take things one step at a time. This helped to soothe some of the turbulence, but it also highlighted areas of life in which we have been too rigid, stuck, or overly attached to our comfort zones.
Embracing The Shadow Within
When I first began to intentionally and consciously walk a spiritual path, I remember doing so because it just felt so right. Every step I took toward ‘enlightenment’ in this lifetime seemed to bring more brightness into my life, and so many more blessings.
In those early days I was really rolling! I was expecting this to be an easy ride – all joy and light and love. It was wonderful.
What I hadn’t expected was the inevitable emergence of my shadow through as a result of all my spiritual work. And it was not something I was going to be comfortable with – admitting I had places of darkness within me, unloved aspects of myself, disowned pieces of my soul which had been abandoned and in such pain.
Through a series of, what seemed like, unfortunate events, I was given opportunities to face my shadow side. Challenges in relationships with friends and loved ones arose. I couldn’t understand it at first, and felt very alone and misunderstood. I was shifting the blame for this onto the people around me, instead of going inward.
Going inward, into the light, was totally okay, but going inward into the darkness was terrifying. My ego-self raised every defense to keep me from going there. Eventually, I could avoid it no longer.
My life at this point had endured tremendous change in the course of only a few years- so much so, that the entire landscape of my existence and the people in it were now different. While many of the changes were positive, the magnitude of the differences between my ‘old life’ and my ‘new life’ forced me into robust self-reflection.
We Can’t Always Rescue The Ones We Love
A topic that often comes up in psychic readings is the client’s concern for someone they love – a child, significant other, sibling, close friend, or even a co-worker.
The problem? Usually the person has chosen a path that is confusing, destructive, or even life-threatening: substance abuse, toxic relationships, unwise career moves, or a lifestyle that just doesn’t make sense to the onlooker.
If you’re nodding your head right now about someone in your own family or circle of friends, you’re not alone. We’ve all been there – watching someone we love make free will choices that, from our perspective, can only lead to pain, loss, or utter disaster.
Maybe they have moved in with someone who is controlling and abusive, or they dropped out of college to move across the country and get married to someone they hardly know. Or maybe they are determined to put their life savings into a shady Ponzi scheme. Maybe they keep repeating choices and patterns that seem so clearly wrong for them.
Maybe you’ve seen the red flags from day one, and your heart is already aching with a kind of spiritual déjà vu…because you know what’s coming. And yet…you feel powerless to stop it.
This is where spiritual teachings can offer both comfort and perspective. According to many wisdom traditions, it’s often the most painful, confusing, or seemingly misguided paths that lead to the greatest soul growth. Sometimes a person must walk through fire or descend into darkness to find their light. And as difficult as that is to witness, it may very well be part of their soul plan.
How Psychic Readings Can Improve Your Intuitive Wisdom
Have you ever had a clear inner knowing — a gut feeling you couldn’t quite explain — but you just knew it was real and true? Maybe it was a hunch about a person, a sudden feeling to take a different path, or a gut reaction that turned out to be right on the money.
That quiet inner whisper was your intuition speaking, and it’s far more powerful and accurate than many people give it credit for. The good news is that this innate knowing isn’t just for the gifted few. Everyone has intuitive wisdom. It is a powerful compass that we all possess, and it grows stronger with use.
One very powerful way to develop your intuitive awareness is to work with a skilled psychic counselor to exercise your intuitive muscles, deepen your confidence, and expand your energetic awareness.
Think of a trusted psychic as a tuning fork for your soul. When they access insights that are just beyond your conscious reach — whether from energetic currents, symbols, impressions, or timelines-they create a resonant field that awakens and confirms what you may have already felt but couldn’t quite articulate.
That moment of “Yes! That rings so true!” is your inner knowing being recognized and validated. It’s not about the psychic telling you something new; it’s about reminding you of what your soul already knows.
In this way, psychic readings are not passive experiences. They’re deeply participatory. You’re not just a receiver of insight — you actively engage with your intuitive awareness. Over time, this engagement helps you recognize patterns: how your body responds to truth, how subtle feelings point you in the right direction, and how your dreams, synchronicities, and inner nudges have greater meaning than you may have realized.