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How To Trust Your Spiritual Teacher
If you have a spiritual teacher, how do you know you can trust her? Weren’t you told to trust yourself first? Wait, how do you know you can trust your therapist, or even your doctor? Especially with all the sexual assault cases coming to light these days, it is scary to think that someone who is supposed to be your protector, care-giver, or mentor will use that position to manipulate you into a situation that is abusive, sometime violently abusive. Thinking about this can be horrifying, but so is not thinking about it.
What about the idea ‘trust yourself’? The problem with just trusting yourself is that if you grew up in an alcoholic, drug-abusing, violent family, or in some of the more subtle dysfunctional family dynamics, such as having a narcissistic or wounded parent, your radar for self-care is damaged. You do not yet have the skills to discern what is healthy for you. Your brain and nervous system is literally wired for dysfunction as your default normal setting. This means you will choose the dysfunction you know, because it is all you know. You will seek out an alcoholic lover; or you will find jobs with narcissistic bosses, for example.
Know The Man, Know The Woman
You have finally met the partner of your dreams. Things are going well. You have been consistently dating for a few months. Your new lover is meeting all your criteria and needs. Your beloved is attentive, communicative, dedicated, steadily employed, loving, and overall everything that you could want in a person.
You have fantasized and visualized ad infinitum that this person is coming into your life and finally, you have found them! You no longer have to endure the dating scene or online window shopping, ghosting and pain. Life is good!
Then my phone rings. The client on the other end of the phone wants to know where things are going with their significant other. “What does the future hold for us?” they ask, “Please tell me what you see.” I then tell them what I feel, see and hear. But I begin by getting to the truth that they are concealing.
Retrograde Release
Astrological retrogrades offer a much-needed cleaning of your space, specifically mental and emotional. It is almost like doing a spring cleaning in your home, when you go through your things and purge that which you are no longer using. During a retrograde you may also go through and do a ‘deep cleaning’… scrubbing and scouring so everything is fresh and new again.
This is what retrogrades offer you. It is an opportunity for a deep soul reflection. Truly turning within and determining what is working, and what is not in your life.
After a retrograde cleansing the energy begins to flow more easily again, as you loosen your grip and practice holding and releasing gently. It is a time to let go of old energy attachments and holding things with greater ease and grace, instead of digging your claws in, while remaining fearful of losing it.
Needing The Love Of A Spiritual Teacher
The love of a spiritual teacher is not human love and this is often misunderstood in our Western culture. Many people are drawn to spirituality because they are profoundly lonely. For those looking for the love of a teacher, you can count on that loneliness to be a profoundly unconscious desire to be connected to the Self and to Spirit.
On a dangerous note, this is how cult leaders thrive, by preying on those who don’t realize they are seeking spiritual love, and by offering a manipulative human love. Human love can never fill the gaping hole, and because cult leaders tend to be sociopaths, it can take years for cult followers to wake up. By then there will be a great deal of damage control needed in order to heal.
Choose Your Life Partner Wisely
Many people are looking for that soulmate who will truly be a life-long partner. But because they are so desperate to find that special person, they sometimes align with those that do not necessarily have all the qualities that are important in a healthy, fulfilling relationship. This is unfortunately not how you find your ‘forever.’
In the old days divorce was not even something someone considered once they got married. Neither did couples live together, unless they were married. It was frowned upon when a baby was born out of wedlock. If someone did get pregnant, there was usually a quick wedding, and that was that.
Inviting Others To Open Up More
There are times in life we come across people who are very closed off, or emotionally shut down. I’m sure you can think of someone in your life whom you would like to become closer with, or just to have a more open communication with them. Fortunately, there are ways to use your own energy in order to help others around you open up more.
Each of us has our own energy field, also known as the aura. This energy is shared with others as we move through life, and it affects those around you, whether or not there is a conscious awareness of it, or not. And certain energy we put out into the universe can actually push people away, when really we desire to be closer to them.
Are You A Lightworker?
Lightworker. No matter where you are on your spiritual journey, you’ve probably heard this term. Maybe you have an understanding and maybe you don’t. I’d like to give you one, because if you are reading this, then you are most likely also a lightworker.
A lightworker is simply someone who has awakened to their light within, their divinity. And they are choosing to live from that space and radiate that light out, like a beacon, for others to see, so that they may awaken themselves. A lightworker isn’t fighting against anything, they are allowing love and light to pour into them, through them, and out of them.
Why do we want to awaken? Simply put, so that we can make the most out of our short time here on earth. There are many belief systems out there, and I honor them all, but they all simply lead back to the same place. Source. All that we do, all the we believe, all that we experience is to reconnect us to the Source within. And as varied as we are as humans, there are as many paths to get there.