emotions
What To Do When He Disappears Into His Cave
He tells you he loves you, wants to be with you all the time, and can’t get enough of you. He calls and texts you constantly, and you feel like you’ve found the perfect relationship. You love the way he makes you feel. He must be “the one.”
Then, suddenly, he’s gone. No calls, no texts, no dates, nothing. Ghosted.
And you’re left wondering: What happened? Where did he go? Was it something I said, or did?
Well, no. He just retreated into his “cave.” It is where your man goes to think, breathe, and figure out what’s going on in his head.
This is the mysterious and often frustrating time-out that men often take when they realize things are moving too fast, or when they start to feel deeply attached.
For us women, especially those who are spiritually aware and emotionally intuitive, this sudden withdrawal can be very confusing and even painful.
Women tend to thrive on connection and open communication, and we naturally want to nurture and support others. So, when the man we care about suddenly becomes distant, it can trigger our deepest fears of abandonment or rejection.
But here’s what you need to understand: his retreat is not about you.
Navigating The Sacred Journey Of Grief
As a psychic medium, I have spent decades bearing witness to the immense and complex journey of grief.
Over the years, I’ve learned that grief has many faces and forms. It is not only about death and dying. It can arise from various types of loss, such as the loss of a pet, the end of a relationship, a change in life path, the loss of a job, or moving away from a beloved home.
My clients often tell me, “My heart has a hole in it,” or “It feels like my heart has been torn apart.”
These aren’t just metaphors. Grief can feel so intense that it seems like a physical injury — like a ‘heart attack’ of the soul. Grief reverberates through our heart, mind, body, and spirit, leaving no part of us untouched.
One of the most important truths I’ve learned is that grief is deeply personal. No two people experience it in the same way. There is no “normal” way to grieve or a fixed timeline.
Some people begin to feel a little lighter after a few weeks or months, while for others, the sorrow lingers for years or even decades. And that’s okay.
Grieving means you loved deeply, cared sincerely, and connected profoundly. It is not just about saying goodbye, but also about building a new relationship with their absence — one that carries forward the love in a different way.
Trust Your Gut First, Your Heart Second
How do you know that what you are doing is for your highest good? How do you know if what you want out of life is based on your own desires, or if it has been placed there to be achieved by the Universe?
Everyone has a higher purpose in this lifetime and yet many never seek it out or achieve it because the ego starts to become more prominent in their lives instead of their higher self.
When you were born, a deep-seeded life calling was placed within you. As children, we were able to tap into it, always knowing that we wanted to be a fireman, a policeman, a doctor, an astronaut, an artist, a lawyer, a dancer, a scientist, or a princess. Some of us just wanted to help others, even at a very young age. We would be kind, caring, and giving to other people, whether they were children, adults, or seniors.
Unfortunately, this energy has been buried over time by the society and culture we live in – whether it be teachers, parents or mentors.
Has anyone ever laughed at you when you told them what you wanted to do or be? Did someone say, “Go back and think about that, because that will never happen”? Each of us has a different story as to why we do or do not achieve our passion and purpose in life.
Today is the day to decide, “I will achieve my dreams as long as they come from spirit and are for my highest good.
Clearing Toxic Energy From Your Home
When I do a reading for a client, I not only read their energy, but I also tune into the energy of their loved ones, co-workers, friends, home and work environments, and community. Often, it quickly becomes apparent that the client’s home environment is toxic, stagnant, or energetically polluted, deeply affecting their health, well-being, and spiritual harmony.
In these cases, clients often report a mix of physical and emotional symptoms commonly seen with energy pollution, which may include fatigue, irritability, anxiety, depression, oversleeping or insomnia, cravings for sugar, caffeine, or alcohol.
Sometimes there are also spiritual, supernatural, or paranormal issues in the home. These may include a persistent feeling of “being watched” or an unexplained heaviness or unusual temperature variations in certain areas of their home.
Clients may also describe disturbing dreams and nighmares, an inability to connect with their intuition, or a sense of spiritual detachment. Some even mention hearing unexplained noises or experiencing a frequent loss of items in the home that later turn up in strange or unexpected places.
The reason for this is that a energetically polluted environment tends to amplify negative spiritual attachments or attract energies that feed on the chaos. Such clients often express difficulty maintaining protective spiritual practices, such as meditation or grounding, and feel that their energy feeling drained or blocked.
The Sacred Invitation Of A Spring Renewal
With the first delicate buds unfurling and the air perfumed with the invigorating scent of nature’s reawakening, Spring has officially arrived. This sacred season carries with it the powerful energies of change, whispering to us of transformation, renewal and new beginnings.
But as exhilarating as change can be, it often comes with uncertainty, excitement, and sometimes even fear. We find ourselves at a crossroads between the comfort of the known and the vast potential of what lies ahead.
During the winter months, we instinctively retreated inward — both physically, as we sought warmth from the cold, and spiritually, as we turned our awareness inward to reflect, heal, and dream. Without even realizing it, we entered the sacred cave of our inner wisdom and nurtured the seeds of our soul’s deepest desires.
Now, as the earth awakens and the air becomes warmer, so does the essence of our being, ready to give birth to something new and profound.
Although you may not fully understand what is unfolding within you, your soul is always aware. It has been preparing you for this moment, nurturing the visions and intentions that you have been quietly cultivating in the silence of winter.
Sometimes new beginnings manifest as external changes — a career change, a move to a new home, or new relationships. Other times they unfold as inner changes — an awakening of self-love, a renewed sense of purpose, or a deepened spiritual connection.
Protect Yourself From Toxic Emotional Influences
A client I read for once told me that he chose to be a loner because people always wanted something from him. “People either want money from me or they want to bend my ear with their problems,” he said. This statement struck a deep chord with me.
Over the years, I have noticed a significant increase in clients asking how to protect their energy. I find more people are becoming aware of how they are spiritually affected by others, especially those who bring negativity into their home or work environment.
I have had callers tell me how they come home from work exhausted – not from work, but from a toxic work environment. Even a simple telephone conversation can be draining if the person on the other end is met with an outpouring of worry, complaint, or anger. I dare not even mention the many toxic energy pitfalls of today’s dating scene!
I firmly believe that the influence of toxic energy on our systems is vastly underestimated in our daily lives. Our endocrine and nervous systems are particularly affected by our thoughts, actions, and interactions with others. A lack of emotional balance and a concern to avoid unnecessary toxic energy has undoubtedly become a priority.
Years ago in South Africa, I consulted a brilliant homeopath for what turned out to be an overactive thyroid. He diagnosed my condition using reflexology and his medical intuition. After the diagnosis, he said to me: “I’m going to give you some muti (a Zulu word for traditional medicine used in southern Africa). But until you sort out your emotional situation, it’s probably not going to make much difference.”
An Unforgettable Valentine’s Day With Venus In Pisces
Valentine’s Day always has an air of magic about it, but this year it has an extra layer of fateful intensity. The stuff of fairy tales and romance novels!
With Venus, the planet of love and beauty, currently transiting dreamy and ethereal Pisces, love takes on a soulful, almost otherworldly quality.
The energies of love and romance are heightened under this transit, making every interaction feel much deeper, more meaningful, more destiny and fate. Our love lives are infused with an unprecedented sense of compassion, emotional depth, and spiritual connection.
Romantic intuition is heightened during this time, and connections feel more like destiny than chance. The energy of attraction shifts from the physical to the ethereal, making love feel transcendent, poetic, and deeply moving.
Whether you’re in a relationship or meeting someone new, expect emotions and passion to run deep. Every new interaction will be special, every glance charged with meaning, and every intimate moment may feel like divine orchestration.
If you find yourself unexpectedly drawn to someone this Valentine’s Day, or in the coming weeks, trust that it’s not just coincidence. Venus in Pisces is busy weaving a tapestry of soul connections, heightened intuition, and chemistry that transcends the ordinary. This transit is a time when love is more than an experience — it is transcendental.
A word of caution, though. With the passion of Venus and dreamy nature of Pisces, it’s also important to stay grounded during this transit. The enchantment of Venus in Pisces can lead to unrealistic expectations or longing for unattainable love. If you find yourself caught up in a romantic fantasy or longing for an unavailable person, take a step back and get back in touch with reality.