Posts Tagged ‘break-up’
Some of my most treasured moments have been the conversations I’ve had with folks from my grandparents’ generation. I especially like to ask elderly couples what their secret is to a long-lasting marriage, or relationship.
Their answers always put a smile on my face. Usually they would say that they slowly got to know each other, to see if they had the same values and decide if they were compatible.
Sadly, much has changed over the years. These days people no longer seem willing to put in the work and commitment it takes to build a strong foundation for a healthy, enduring relationship. Instead, we rush into romantic connections without thinking and seldom questioning the other person or their motives. Read the rest of this entry »
Pain is a door. It can be used as a tool to help you free yourself from pain and oppression that is stored deeply in your subconscious mind from your childhood and past experiences. The misconception is that we are to try to do everything we can to get out of feeling the pain. On the contrary, if we embrace our pain with the intention of looking at it, we can see our ego self.
The pain that has been stored for a long while, often causes the actions, reactions and trouble we find ourselves in. Pain helps make you alert if you are willing to look at it this way, if you will embrace it as a teacher. But, we usually want what we want and that usually translates into pain avoidance, which makes pain go away, only to come back another day. And the pain will continue to come back another day, until you are ready to use it as a tool to set yourself free. Read the rest of this entry »
A trusted friend of mine has a funny saying that I find hilariously true. “Love is like the dew,” he says, “it can fall on any piece of poo in the yard.” He’s right you know. You meet this person, you are inexplicably drawn to him. Then you get to know him better. You begin to share your feelings for each other, your views of the world, maybe even your plans for the future.
Then suddenly you also see his shadow side. “What is so wrong with that,” you may ask. I asked that too, but then, as an empath and professional clairvoyant, I have come to understand how just those simple things can send a promising relationship into a tail-spin.
Why would loving someone and sharing your feelings with them be so damaging? It should be easy instead. You meet someone you have very strong feelings for, and he has feelings for you too. It should be wonderful and fulfilling, but in actuality it sometimes turns into something terrifying and destructive. Read the rest of this entry »
At least once a day, sometimes more, I have this sort of conversation during a psychic reading: “I just don’t know what to do about our relationship. I love him so much. He just doesn’t seem to feel the same way. He seems distant. Does he really love me?”
Then, before I can even take my cleansing breath to answer…wait for it…comes the customary follow-up question: “Or is there another man in my future?”
So, she loves, loves, loves this man. She can’t even breathe for the amount of love she has bubbling up inside her. Yet, at the first sign of trouble, or even a little break in communication, she is already looking for the next guy to take his place in the revolving door of her love life. Read the rest of this entry »
Accepting divorce as a reality is an important step in the healing process. One must mourn the loss of what could have been, but you don’t want to get stuck in the past, because it won’t change anything.
Acceptance is the most difficult step that one must take in releasing the past and begin a new chapter of life. Acceptance involves things like blame, resentment, and regret. We have the option to let go of negative emotions, which will give us the freedom to move forward.
So, now you are divorced, do you choose to stay bitter and hurt? No, you work through it and regain your strength, so that you can find yourself again. I know this is easier said than done, but nothing in this life is accomplished without some effort. You have one life to live, and you get to decide how you want to live it. Read the rest of this entry »
Toxic relationships can have a detrimental effect on our health. Some of us stay in toxic relationships for all kinds of reasons. We try and rationalize in our minds the reasons why we should not end it.
Some people think having a family with someone, or owning property together, is reason enough to stay in an unhealthy relationship. Some feel they have invested so much time and energy into the relationship, that it would be a waste to walk out. Others stay for religious reasons.
So, too many people keep living in relationships that are unhealthy and detrimental to their well-being. But what I have learned over the years, as professional psychic and spiritual advisor, is simply this: if the love is no longer there, it wasn’t meant to last; that period of soul growth is complete and it is time to move on. Read the rest of this entry »
When a customer asks for a reading about future love prospects, they will often ask how they could possibly meet this person. “How can this possibly happen”, they ask, when they really don’t go anywhere, not to mention that their internet dating attempts have been futile.
I don’t feel that there are coincidences in the way in which people meet. Our frequencies attract to us the ‘other’ who will bring us our next life lesson. At least this is my overall feeling.
This force of nature holds a magnetism unlike any other feeling, and it can throw any logical perception of another person (who is the attention of our desires) right out of the window. It’s a real pity how a toxic relationship can divert someone off course from their true spiritual purpose, which, for many of us is, to find the love of self. Read the rest of this entry »
He tells you that he loves you, always wants to be with you, and can’t seem to get enough of you. He calls and texts you all the time, and you’re feeling this is it… the perfect relationship! You love the way he makes you feel. He must be ‘the one.’ Then all of a sudden he’s gone…
He is not contacting you anymore. No calls, no texts, no dates, no nothing. What happened? Where did he go? Well he went into his ‘cave.’ That is where men go when they realize they have moved to fast, or when they feel that they are getting too attached.
Men retreat into their cave to take a break and think about what comes next. They will stay in there until they find solutions. The timing always varies for each individual guy. Read the rest of this entry »