Posts Tagged ‘break-up’
Stop and place your hand on your heart and allow the pain to rise to the surface almost as if you are drawing the pain from your body, from your physical space with your hand. Feel the energy in your hand get hotter and hotter, more intense as you draw the pain up, and out.
Imagine a beautiful beam of light coming from your hand, holding one hand over your heart and holding your other hand upward to the heavens. As you pull the pain from your heart, from your body, allow this beautiful light from heaven to move into your other hand. Now imagine this light from heaven coursing through your veins moving into your heart to heal that open wound, that open space that has been created as the pain begins to leave your body. Read the rest of this entry »
Love is not easy. Whether it be loving yourself, loving another, loving your neighbor, your country. Yet, love is also not difficult to indulge yourself in. At any age we can love, we simply need to choose it over everything else.
Do you remember as a child how easily we loved our friends, our parents, siblings, and pets. I had a cousin who was absolutely in love with her little Red Wagon, that classic toy cart produced by the American company Radio Flyer. She would load this metal contraption with her pillows and blankets, climb in, and hug it. She animated an inanimate object, and projected emotion and much love into her red wagon. She loved her wagon and brought it to life. Silly? Not really. People love their cars, clothes, purses, shoes, and ego-driven identities… so, why not love a red toy wagon? Read the rest of this entry »
As we wander through life we encounter many roadblocks, many stumbling blocks and many disappointments. There are many questions that arise as we walk our path. At times it feels like the entire world is against us.
This is simply an illusion that we create in our humanness. Spirit does not want you to fail in your life. Spirit does not want you to be unhappy. Spirit does not want you to live a pauper’s life. However, so many people blame God, Spirit, the Universe, or other people for the situations they are in and cannot get past.
It is time to sit down, take a look at all that has happened to you and discover two things about each situation: why did it happen and what was the lesson you learned from it? As you look at the examples of pain, suffering or disappointment in your life, what do you see?
For example, you have been with the love of your life for many years, married, children and one day you wake up and that partner has left you for another person. What could you have done to prevent this? What could you have done differently? Why were you not enough? You were in love, totally and unconditionally, and you thought they felt the same way about you. Why did they do this to you? Read the rest of this entry »
Does he miss me? I hear this all the time. In my psychic work advising on love and relationships, it breaks my heart, because I know what it feels like to ‘not be missed’. “I wish he would miss,” me is a heart-breaking statement if ever I heard one. My heart goes out to anyone who has ever wanted to be missed.
It’s sweet when someone is in love with a righteous lover who has been a good person, with few flaws and much to recommend them. Yet, sometimes that lover leaves, or a relationship explodes. But how do you keep from letting the hurt or feelings of loss drive you crazy?
First of all, it’s not healthy to let anything drive you crazy. It should go without saying that going crazy isn’t on your bucket list, right? Read the rest of this entry »
About 10 years ago, a friend of mine went to see a psychic in Cuba. It was a completely spontaneous decision made on the spot. She walked into the dusty old store and sat down. The old woman who was doing the reading handed her an old deck of Tarot cards. They were so worn that the figures on the cards were unrecognizable.
The old woman handed her the deck and said in broken English, “Hold them to your heart and place them face down when you are done.” My friend did as she was instructed.
The old lady studied the Tarot spread for a moment and said, “Heartache is making your body sick… broken….from a man that couldn’t love you. He had the broken disease and he gave it to you.” She closed her eyes and shook her head not looking up, “He left you for another.” Shaking her crooked finger back and forth she pointed at my friend, paused, and with piercing black eyes firmly said, “Leave it behind you and you will heal. Keep it in your heart and it will kill you.” Read the rest of this entry »
The aftermath of a break-up doesn’t have to be a catastrophic upheaval in one’s life. What follows are some basic suggestions that will help you process and transition through a relationship dissolution more harmoniously.
Understand the framework of the process you will be likely to undergo, namely denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Feel your feelings. This is probably the most important thing a person can remember to do. We may fear that the pain will never end, but there really is a beginning, a middle and an end to the process of grieving.
We usually try to avoid pain, and what we avoid will surface in other ways. Also, remember that we bring people into our lives to bring up the areas in which we need to work, so after you have had a good cry, spend some quiet time reflecting on what you have learned from this experience. Read the rest of this entry »
Finding true love is hard. Literally. At times it feels like you have hit a cement wall, but it happens, and it hurts. The pain of love that once was, and is now unrequited, is not something one would wish on your worst enemies.
You may have loved with the hope and possibility of your love being returned, but instead you loved someone who just didn’t feel the same way. Or, you loved someone deeply, who also loved you in return, and then for some unknown reason, they turned off the switch.
When this happens, you are hurt in ways that are unimaginable and extremely bewildering. This person loved you and you loved them. Maybe they met someone new? Maybe their love was never real? Whatever the case, you’re left in excruciating pain. Read the rest of this entry »