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The Four Levels Of Relationship Connection
Every so often, we meet someone who lights us up in an undeniably powerful way. These connections are rare, but when they happen, we sense their potential to become a significant part of our lives.
But that initial spark can sometimes give way to doubt, especially in romantic relationships. As we get to know someone more intimately, we may wonder if the connection we felt initially was meaningful or just a passing fancy?
So, what’s really going on here? What are these dynamics trying to reveal? How can we assess these bonds more practically to determine if we want to be with someone long term?
At the heart of it, there are four fundamental levels on which we connect with others. When deciding whether to invest our energy in a relationship, we must consider all four levels.
A connection based on only one dimension often feels incomplete or out of sync. Typically, we need at least two levels of alignment to feel a genuine bond.
Three levels create a profound sense of harmony. When all four levels are in sync, the connection can feel magical. The connection can feel nothing short of magical.
Exploring our relationships through this lens empowers us to make more conscious choices. We gain clarity about what matters to us and how we experience connection. This approach also helps us cultivate gratitude for the unique ways others connect with us and appreciate the different flavors of intimacy that each level brings.
A Psychic Reading Brings Order To Chaos
In a typical lifetime the sun will pass over us twenty-five thousand times. If you were to walk just one mile due west each and every day of your life (if such a journey by land were possible) your life would end at the place it began.
Just one mile every day, at a most comfortable stroll, you will have experienced more than anyone, and lived the dreams of most. Instead of merely waiting and watching the sun and time pass by.
If we walk slowly through life, but with purpose, we will see more, travel farther on less energy, and allow others more time to get out of our way. But occasionally, we will meet immovable objects in our path, and a decision on which way to turn must then be made.
Having a precise destiny in mind is challenging in itself, so making the right decisions along the way is essential to ensure our safe arrival at our intended destination.
In my own journey, I remind myself to smile demurely at those skeptical of what I do, even if their cynicism always surprises me, as we all foresee the future all the time.
For example, watching a carefree child at play, unaware in the midst of their joy of the likelihood, the inevitability of a fall sometimes becomes apparent and very clear to those with experience looking on.
The fact that some of us are able to see more, and in more detail, and further into the future, should therefore not be so impossible to conceive – as disconcerting or uncomfortable as this may be to the doubter.
Align Your Mind With The Life You Desire
We attract into our life what we expect. When parents, friends, peers, and most importantly, your own self-talk tell you that you are not good enough, smart enough, or attractive enough, and you choose to believe it, then it becomes your reality.
Repeating these messages to your subconscious mind reinforces this belief until it ultimately manifests as reality in your life. The subconscious mind accepts everything it hears as true. It does not distinguish between what is objectively true and what has merely been repeated often enough.
Self-talk, whether supportive or filled with doubt, is internalized in the same way. The subconscious mind is like an eager child: receptive to all input, particularly messages received consistently and frequently. It listens and learns without judgment, simply absorbing and accepting.
This is why it can be so challenging to differentiate between genuine inner truth and a false belief formed from repeated external messages, such as television content, stories shared by others, or even our own inner dialogue.
For example, you might fall asleep while watching a joyful, lighthearted program. Then, a horrific war documentary comes on. Even though you are no longer consciously watching, your subconscious mind continues to absorb the information. Those unsettling images and emotions may then weave their way into your dreams, shaping new fears and anxieties despite their origin in fiction or someone else’s story.
The Transformative Power Of Finding Your Faith
Faith is deeply personal and means different things to different people. It can take many forms, such as spiritual faith in a higher power, personal faith in one’s abilities, or faith in the people and principles that shape our lives.
For some, faith is a guiding force that offers comfort and meaning. For others, it’s a leap into the unknown, choosing hope over doubt. It can be rooted in a religious tradition, philosophical principle, esoteric teaching, or the simple belief that tomorrow holds possibilities unseen today.
Whatever our beliefs, faith is an intense and often unshakable certainty in those beliefs despite the absence of proof. To me, faith is a powerful, transformative force. When embraced, it offers immeasurable strength in the face of life’s challenges.
When I was young, I struggled to grasp the concept of faith. I never doubted the existence of a creator. I never doubted an afterlife or the presence of spirits in our lives. Perhaps this was due to my innate sensitivity to energies and spiritual disposition. I moved through life guided by intuition.
Yet despite my spiritual grounding, my faith was tested repeatedly, especially through experiences of trauma and loss.
I wrestled with questions of purpose and fairness. I couldn’t accept the idea of a cruel or indifferent creator who randomly punished or rewarded people.
Embracing The Shadow Within
When I first began to intentionally and consciously walk a spiritual path, I remember doing so because it just felt so right. Every step I took toward ‘enlightenment’ in this lifetime seemed to bring more brightness into my life, and so many more blessings.
In those early days I was really rolling! I was expecting this to be an easy ride – all joy and light and love. It was wonderful.
What I hadn’t expected was the inevitable emergence of my shadow through as a result of all my spiritual work. And it was not something I was going to be comfortable with – admitting I had places of darkness within me, unloved aspects of myself, disowned pieces of my soul which had been abandoned and in such pain.
Through a series of, what seemed like, unfortunate events, I was given opportunities to face my shadow side. Challenges in relationships with friends and loved ones arose. I couldn’t understand it at first, and felt very alone and misunderstood. I was shifting the blame for this onto the people around me, instead of going inward.
Going inward, into the light, was totally okay, but going inward into the darkness was terrifying. My ego-self raised every defense to keep me from going there. Eventually, I could avoid it no longer.
My life at this point had endured tremendous change in the course of only a few years- so much so, that the entire landscape of my existence and the people in it were now different. While many of the changes were positive, the magnitude of the differences between my ‘old life’ and my ‘new life’ forced me into robust self-reflection.
How To Manifest Your Life Partner
Is it really possible to manifest your life partner, your soul mate, your person, your match? Yes, absolutely, if you do it the right way. But there’s also a wrong way to do it.
Manifesting love isn’t about chasing someone or endlessly swiping through dating apps — it’s about aligning with the kind of relationship your heart desires. It’s about becoming a magnet for the right person, not just any person.
Whether you’re looking for a soul mate, a spouse, a life partner, or just a deeply fulfilling connection, the magic starts within you.
Many people get discouraged when love doesn’t come their way. They think it must mean there’s something wrong with them, or that love just isn’t in the cards. But often it’s not about luck or timing — it’s about energy, belief and intention. For example, if you’re still holding on to old heartbreaks, self-doubt or fear, you may be unconsciously blocking the very thing you want to invite in.
The good news? You can change that. You can shift your vibration. You can clear out the old energy and make room for someone new — someone who sees you, values you, and truly wants to walk beside you. Manifesting love isn’t just about asking God, Source, the Universe to send you someone – it’s about declaring what you deserve and then aligning your actions and beliefs with that inner truth.
Over the years, I have helped many of my psychic reading clients on their journey to find love. So, if you’re ready to welcome love — not just any love, but the right kind — these next steps will guide you to successfully bringing in your beloved.
Finding Peace and Joy In The ‘No-thingness’
Like Neo in the movie The Matrix (1999) our minds occasionally slip into luminous moments of complete stillness and clarity — tiny mental pauses where all thinking stops just long enough for us to glimpse the truth of all existence.
In these fleeting spaces between our thoughts, it becomes clear that the comings and goings of life are just that… temporary ‘blips’ of experience that arise and pass through our awareness.
I have come to know these moments as realizations of ‘no-thingness.’
In these brief pauses, something quietly opens up within us. We notice the obvious — what has always been there — hidden behind the busy waking mind and its constant commentary. Our awareness shifts from being consumed by temporary events to seeing what’s always there: the background, the container, the eternal.
These silent mental breaks reveal something much deeper and greater than our own existence and awareness.
There’s a word for this in ancient Sanskrit: svabhāva. It means one’s true nature — the essence of who we are beneath the roles, stories, and conditioning. The term is used in many yogic and Vedantic texts to describe the innate reality or unconditioned self beyond our human ego and thoughts.
Our true authentic self is not something we become. It’s something we remember. When we glimpse the silence between thoughts, we’re not discovering something new — we’re reconnecting with our original divine self. Not the self that reacts and worries, but the self that simply is. Svabhāva is the part of us that doesn’t come and go. It’s the constant presence behind every changing moment. It is the essence of living a truly conscious life.