Love & Relationships
The Fallacy Of Being Perfect
People who go around trying to be perfect, or aim to “live up to their maximum potential” seldom seem to be happy. Neither do they appear to be living fulfilling lives. Their constant striving to achieve or maintain perfectionism seems to take the joy out of their lives.
Spirit inspired this chain of thought in me as I remembered three psychic readings that I did recently. The theme of perfectionism and potential had a profound effect on all three of my clients’ lives and or their loved ones. With their permission I am briefly sharing their stories here.
The first client called me upset, because she felt she had ruined their holiday stressing about wanting to make everything perfect. Not only did she take the fun out of it for herself, but for everyone else involved.
I connected with Spirit and received this message for her: “Doing special things like making Easter eggs and cooking Thanksgiving dinner should be enjoyable. Some people will like it, and some people won’t. Next week no one will remember. Learn to enjoy these activities more, and just go with ebb and flow. Spirit then also offer tools she can use to help her relax. Continue reading
Let Spirit Put Ego In Its Place
I recently had a conversation with a lovely, learned lady who was quite beside herself, because her husband of ten years simply got up and walked out on her… with no explanation whatsoever! She was understandably beside herself with shock and grief. I asked her what kind of relationship she felt they had and she assured me it was a very loving one. I find it almost impossible to believe that a loving, caring partner would all of a sudden just turn his back with all they had shared together and walk out the door, in what appeared to be a cold and callous man.
I then asked her why she felt they had such a good situation between them and she said it was because she loved him so much. She did all she could to keep him happy and satisfied. Well, now we were obviously getting somewhere. On further probing I found this man had been emotionally detached, and certainly oblivious to her needs. How can this, by any definition, be a warm and loving relationship?
Her ego most assuredly suffered a blow, but I do wonder where spirit was in all of this. It would make no sense to me if spirit accepted such a one-sided relationship that was completely devoid of any care or kindness.
My suspicion is that she had convinced herself that this ‘relationship’ had to maintain itself, or she would not be an ‘acceptable’ woman if she did not have a prominent male in her life, even under these trying conditions. There we go, when ego runs the show a myriad of pains can certainly appear on the horizon! Continue reading
What Makes A Man Fall In Love
What makes a man fall in love? Could it be the timing? Is it certain qualities that he is looking for? Or is it just basic chemistry? I believe it is the total package that you bring to the table – the way you make him feel and the happiness that you give him when your around him.
Men bond with women when they feel successful in making them happy. He is looking for a woman with a smile, someone he feels connected to. He wants to feel attraction and passion. He wants to feel accepted and appreciated by her. When he feels that he knows he can make you happy, he will want to be with you.
A man will also fall in love with you when he feels that you’re giving him signals that you are truly looking for lasting love. It is okay to be a little vulnerable around a man, letting him see who you are. Men want to feel that you believe he is worthy of love.
Men also want to fall in love with someone who is ready to share and be receptive to them. Sometimes men are not as confident as they would like to be, so the more open and confident you are will make it easier for him to respond to what you are looking for in a relationship.
When he spends time with you and sees that you are a kind person, affectionate, fun and easy-going, he will begin to realize exactly what you mean to him. Then he won’t want to be away from you. Continue reading
Crossing Over Into Unconditional Love
Is my mom okay? Is my dad still in pain? Is my friend trying to speak to me? Is my grandmother proud or ashamed of me? Does my husband forgive me?
These are just a few of the many questions that I am asked by bereaved family members and friend, when they lose someone dear to them.
Firstly, it is important to understand that we are all spirit with a temporary physical body. And we have free will in how we choose to live our lives. Some of us choose to be kind and giving, while some are abusive and filled with anger. It is not our place to judge each other, simply to know that free will was a gift given to us before we came into this current physical body.
When I am asked these questions, the initial part of the answer is always going to be the same. The person that you lost simply left their physical body behind; their spirit never faltered. When someone crosses over, no matter who, or how, the moment of crossing is always met with pure love. Their angel reaches out a hand and when they touch the light shows them that there is nothing to be afraid of. They instantly know that the place where they are returning to is a place of light and harmony. It is a place of pure, unconditional love. Hate disappears, hurt or pain disappears. There is no shame, not disrespect. And there is only unconditional love for those that remain here on earth waiting for our turn to join them. Continue reading
The Life Lesson Of Unconditional Love
I was talking to a friend one day about wedding vows. She is an articulate academic, and a really deep thinker when it comes to the breaking down of words and their more profound meaning. I asked her whether she honestly saw what was coming when her pastor recited the wedding vows ‘in sickness and in health’ and ‘for better or worse’ on the day of her wedding.
“No, I did not,” she replied. “I could never have imagined the turn our path together would take. And there were well-meaning people who warned me of what might lie ahead, and asked me if I knew what I was letting myself in for. But I loved him so much that I didn’t want to know. Besides, how would I have experienced those harsh, and lonely life lessons of living with a secret drinker if I had gone with my head instead of my heart. Not to mention the role played by ‘nature’s trap’… my hormones!” Continue reading
Freedom
Imagine yourself in a cage. Imagine that confinement, the boredom, the hopelessness, the feeling of being trapped or smothered. Restricted and confined. Now imagine you have magical powers and abilities. You hold the key to this cage and you use that key now.
Unlock the door, open the window. Remove the chains that are binding you. Release any feelings of being stuck, trapped, overwhelmed. Create a space in your life that allows you the freedom to be who you are.
You are a bird. Imagine stepping out of that cage and flying freely. Soaring in the sky.
Feel the love, the expansiveness, the unending infinite possibilities that are before you. Love is what you’ve come here to experience. Love is your Divine life mission. Continue reading
Grieving Through Loss
Most of us have had to deal with loss of some sort in our lives. It could be a death: the loss of a pet, a friend, a sibling, a parent, a lover, or even a child. Intense feelings of sadness, anger or uncertainty may occur when we divorce, lose friendships or even leave jobs. You might even find yourself distressed over missed opportunities in your life.
Pretty much any time our idea of security and normalcy in our lives gets shaken up, we might find ourselves in a state of grief. For many, grief is often seen as a bad thing. A time of sorrow, sadness, anger, resentment, helplessness, weakness and frustration.
Some will face loss with utter avoidance – trying to push the grief aside, while boldly and courageously moving forward, trying to be strong. However, I’ve come to realize grief is not only normal, it’s necessary. If we ignore our grief, it often causes many problems in our lives and more importantly, in our relationships. Without acknowledging our loss, and allowing ourselves to grieve, we can never begin to heal. Continue reading