Do Our Loved Ones Become Our Spirit Guides?
While doing mediumship readings, I often have people ask me if their loved ones who have crossed over are now their spirit guides. The answer is, no. While our loved ones, who have crossed over, do watch over us, and communicate with us through dreams and other means, they are not our spirit guides.
Becoming a spirit guide requires many life times of experience, schooling and training. Our loved ones can give us energy, love and light, but they are not allowed to interfere with our destiny in any way.
So, what is the difference between spirit guides and loved ones who have crossed over?
Spirit guides are with us before we choose our life. They help us decide what goals we have and what we want to emphasize and work on in the next life. They remind us of the lessons in life we struggle with every life.
Our guides also remind us of the lessons we have avoided signing up for in our past lives. Have you taken on disability? Poverty? Wealth? Abuse? Fame? What adversities have you overcome and which ones will you need to take on?
Often we feel we are being punished by these adversities when on earth, when in reality, we decide to take them on and gain the strength, compassion, empathy and wisdom they teach us.
Every soul will need to take on the mirror images of every human experience. Poverty and wealth. Sickness and health. Justice and injustice. Power and powerlessness. Freedom and restraint. These aren’t punishments.
Psychic Tools And A Book Of Raffle Tickets
Psychics and mediums are always learning. Often, our clients become some of our greatest teachers, reflecting spiritual truths and new insights back to us in unexpected ways.
One of the most enriching aspects of my spiritual journey has been participating in a small mediumship development group. We regularly meet to hone our mediumistic skills under the guidance of our wonderful mentor, who brings a touch of playfulness to our sessions.
At our most recent meeting, she introduced a fascinating psychic exercise using a book of raffle tickets. Each of us were asked to tear out a ticket identical in color to preserve anonymity and place it in a container.
Then we each drew a ticket at random to be paired with someone. The idea was to tune into the energy of the person whose ticket we had drawn and offer a psychic reading based solely on that energetic connection. Though similar to psychometry, the process felt slightly different and refreshingly new.
The reading I received from the person who picked my ticket turned out to be quite accurate. They picked up on discomfort in my foot, which made me laugh because I had been dealing with an ingrown toenail that morning. It was a small detail, but striking in its specificity.
When it was my turn to give a reading, I felt guided to look at the numbers on the ticket I had drawn. I added the four digits together to calculate the seeker’s Life Path number. I was surprised by how much insight flowed through from there. It seemed to resonate deeply with the person I was reading for.
How Your Reading Can Transform Your Life
During a recent reading, a client asked me a question that many people may be wondering about: “If nothing in our future is set in stone, why have a psychic reading at all?”
It’s a fair question that opens the door to a deeper understanding of our life path and soul journey. An authentic reading is never about one fixed future. We play a significant role in shaping our own destinies.
Psychics read the energy of probable outcomes, as well as possibilities and choices yet to be made, and the energetic and spiritual influences surrounding a person’s life path. During a reading, I usually see multiple paths unfolding before someone, each of which is shaped by their current intentions, actions, and willingness to grow.
It’s worth noting that not every reading shows multiple paths. Sometimes, there’s only one path. Sometimes, none appear at all! This is never a warning or a bad omen but rather a signal that someone may feel stuck and need guidance or clarity to move forward.
In this particular client’s case, the message was clear: if she remained passive, little would change. “The universe does not move unless you do,” I reminded her. Her heartache was real, but so was her ability to influence what came next. Three distinct paths of free will were revealed to her by spirit.
When her curiosity lit up, I knew she was ready to receive the message as a gift rather than as judgment. It offered her clarity in a moment of uncertainty.
Spirit Is Always With You
How do you connect with your inner guidance? You soul essence? Ponder this question for a moment. Then shut your eyes, breathe deeply three times… and ponder this question again.
Spirit is always present within you. It does not take a time out to go get a coffee, or have a nap. Spirit simply is a part of you that never dies.
When you close your eyes and simply breathe, you will feel lighter. That is spirit trying to be more prominent than the ego.
Spirit never causes stress, discomfort, unease or negativity. Spirit is pure 100% unconditional love, and every person has this inside of them.
However, as you move forward in life, ego will always try to override spirit, whether in decision-making or choices that are important (or simple).
Ego can create discomfort, doubt, fear and the wrong type of attitude to live a spirit-filled, love-filled life.
How do you change these patterns? At least once a day, simply sit, breathe slowly, eyes closed, hands on lap. No parts of your body should be crossed, i.e. legs, arms or hands.
Now feel the essence of your true spirit flowing in your body and around your soul. Feel the essence of goodness that comes to you from this energy. Spirit will never make you feel down or negative. It will always be uplifting or at least instill a sense of calm or peace inside of you…even if only for the moment.
Feng Shui Your Home For A Happier, Peaceful Life
I am very much into how our thoughts and feelings help create our future. However, it needs to be asked what external factors affect those thoughts and feelings in the first place, such as our environment, for example. Therefore, the ‘Queen of Clutter’ (that being myself) would like to discuss how Feng Shui could help you attract better fortune into your life. Feng Shui is an ancient art from China, which involves balancing energies in any particular place. Here is how you can do it.
Begin With The Bagua
A bagua map (also called pakua) consists of nine squares, each one symbolizing an essential part of a balanced life. This map can be used in any room in your house, as a guide to finding the right area for positioning things.
You see, particular spots in any given room and particular objects contain the best energy possible, and a Bagua map will help you pinpoint these spots. All you need do is align the bottom part of your bagua map with the entrance to your room, and arrange things in their proper place thereafter.]
Get To Know Your Map
Should you be serious about using Feng Shui effectively, then understanding the bagua and what each section of it represents, is vital to your future success with this science. Quite simply, there is no other way than by taking your time and applying due consideration to the process of learning. In doing so, you should reap immense rewards, achieving a balanced and happier environment, and therefore a happier more balanced you.
Astrology Forecast February 2 – 8, 2026
The week begins under a glowing Leo Moon, and there is an undeniable sense that something important is waking up inside you.
Today feels bold, expressive, and full of personal momentum. With the Moon in Leo, emotions want to be seen and acknowledged. This is a day where confidence builds naturally when you follow your heart and take pride in what you are doing, even in small tasks.
In the morning*, the Moon in Leo forms a trine to Chiron in Aries. This is a healing and empowering influence that helps you reconnect with courage you may have forgotten you had. Emotional honesty feels easier, and there is real strength in admitting where you have grown from past challenges.
If you have felt unsure about stepping forward lately, this aspect gently reminds you that healing does not require perfection. It simply requires authenticity.
This is an excellent time to encourage yourself or someone else, especially when it comes to personal goals, leadership, or creative expression.
As the day moves into the afternoon, energy remains high, but there is also a desire to make things happen quickly. Leo energy can feel impatient when it is inspired, so be mindful of overcommitting or pushing too hard. Confidence works best today when paired with intention rather than impulse.
Tarot Forecast February 2026: Ten Of Cups
This month the Ten of Cups predicts a palpable shift in emotional energy. After the introspection, clearing, and emotional truth-telling that often marks the beginning of the year, this month may feel like a deep, long-awaited exhale. There is a sense that something inside us finally settles.
The energy of the Ten of Cups does not arrive with intensity or urgency. Instead, it arrives quietly reminding us what it feels like to be emotionally safe, supported, and at peace.
The overall vibration for February 2026 is warm, reassuring, and deeply nourishing. This is not the excitement of new beginnings or the adrenaline of dramatic change. It is the quiet joy that comes from realizing the storm has truly passed.
This month our hearts no longer feels guarded. We are less reactive, less defensive, and far more present in our lives.
Emotional harmony becomes the baseline rather than a fleeting moment, and joy no longer feels like something we have to chase or justify. It simply exists.
The Ten of Cups represents emotional fulfillment, shared happiness, and the sense of being “at home” within ourselves and with others.
Throughout this month, we must remind ourselves that contentment is not dependent on perfection. Life may not be flawless, but it feels good enough. This realization alone is profoundly healing.
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