When Your Man Is Not Ready To Commit
I often hear how wonderful the guy is that she is dating… if only he would commit to taking their relationship to the next level!
If a woman is not satisfied with the way things are going and what she is getting from the relationship, should she continue to wait for him?
By patiently waiting for him against your better judgment, he only learns that he can get away with his lack of commitment, especially if he feels comfortable with what he is getting from the relationship. This way a pattern is formed.
So, how do you avoid wasting some of the best years of your life waiting on a guy that is never going to commit?
Well, right from the start you tell him what your looking for and what your expectations are. But handle it carefully, after all you don’t want to scare him away before things even get off the ground!
But do let him know how you feel about dating, long-term relationships, commitment, marriage, children, and whatever else may be important to you.
This will inform him, so that you have a better shot at being on the same page. If he starts to make excuses, or says that he is not interested in a long-term commitment, at least not right now, then accept his words as the truth.
If you are looking for long-term, committed relationship, then spend time with a guys who shares the same values and expectations. Watch his actions – they do speak louder than words! If he is ‘with you’ but continues to live his life like a single guy, that’s a red flag right there. Recognize his actions as a strong indication that he is not really into any relationship and may not be for a long time.
To say that one waits a lifetime for his soulmate to come around is a paradox. People eventually get sick of waiting, take a chance on someone, and by the art of commitment become soulmates, which takes a lifetime to perfect ~ Criss Jami
Always focus on and live your own life, pursuing your own interests. By doing this you will be more attractive to him, because he will see that you have your own friends and activities that you are involved with, which leaves some room for him to also have his own.
Having a healthy balance of time together and time apart, you may also find that his ‘commitment issues’ magically work themselves out. If he is not feeling that he has to give up a lot to be with you and make you happy, he will be more open to taking your relationships to the next level.
Give yourself a reasonable timeframe and stick with it. Life is about living not about waiting. Relationships are about love, never about control. You should not put your life on hold waiting for him to be ready for a commitment. The only time-table is the one that feels right for you, you decide if this is real or not, but it will be on your terms.
Set the standard! Stop expecting others to show you love, acceptance, commitment, & respect when you don’t even show that to yourself ~ Steve Maraboli
Note, this is not handing him an ultimatum. There is no point to that. Pushing for a commitment never works. You cannot make your partner do something if he doesn’t want to do it. And if you could, it will probably be a disaster. I am simply saying that you should be open, honest, and very clear about what your expectations and relationship needs are.
Meanwhile, listen to your gut. You do not want to settle for less than you deserve. If you do, it sends a message to him that you will take what you can get.
Keep Shining Bright In A Darkening World
There’s an old children’s song that says, “This little light of mine, I’m gonna let it shine.” Many of us sang it when we were young, never realizing how profound those simple words really are.
As we grow up, we begin to understand that the “light” inside us isn’t just a sweet metaphor. It’s our spirit, our energy, our vibration, our soul essence. It’s who we are at the core.
And in a world that often feels heavy with noise, comparison, and negativity, protecting that inner light and letting it shine anyway, becomes one of the most courageous things we can do.
Each of us carries a unique vibration. Some people move through life weighed down by fear, anger, jealousy, or pain: energies that keep them operating on lower frequencies. Others radiate higher vibrations: love, joy, compassion, and creativity.
You can feel the difference when folks like that enter a room. They don’t need to say a word. Their presence alone speaks volumes. Their light softens the atmosphere and uplifts everyone around them.
But here’s a hard truth that many bright souls learn the hard way: light attracts attention, and not all of it is good and kind.
Those who shine brightly are also unwelcome mirrors to some. Their energy reflects back to others what still needs healing. And for some, that reflection can be very uncomfortable. Continue reading
Why Manifestation (Sometimes) Doesn’t Work
For many years, manifestation has been a buzzword in the spiritual community. An array of manifestation gurus advise us every day to journal, set intentions, clear our chakras, consult our pendulums, visualize our wishes and goals as if they are already real, and maintain a “high vibe” energy.
In theory, this should bring our desires into manifested form. But wha tif we do all the right things…and still, nothing happens?
If you’ve ever felt deflated after months, even years of affirmations, vision boards, visualized meditations, crystal grids, and candle lighting rituals, you’re not alone. There are real reasons why manifestation doesn’t always work the way we expect.
Years ago, a young man called me for a reading, utterly discouraged. He’d been practicing the Law of Attraction for months with no results.
“I still don’t have a Porsche in my driveway,” he said flatly. “This manifestation thing just doesn’t work.”
So, I asked him, “What have you actually done to get the Porsche?”
He looked confused. “Well, I’ve visualized it. I’ve journaled about it. I imagine myself driving it every night before I fall asleep. But it’s still not there.”
I smiled and said, “That’s a great start. But what else have you done?”
Confused silence.
That’s when I explained: manifestation isn’t just about imagining or magic. It’s about alignment. You can affirm, wishlist and believe all you want, but if your daily choices, habits, and actions aren’t in harmony with your vision, the energy stalls.
Astrology Forecast November 3 – 9, 2025
Planetary shifts take center stage this week, bringing a series of energetic transitions that feel like musical chairs in the cosmos.
With Mars and Venus both changing signs, Uranus shifting back into Taurus, a Full Moon midweek, and Mercury preparing to reverse course, it’s a week to stay flexible, grounded, and open to evolving perspectives. Each day carries its own tone and lesson, so take it one phase at a time.
We begin the week with the Moon in Aries today, firing up motivation and a strong desire to take initiative. This is a bold, action-oriented start to November.
The day invites courage, independence, and a willingness to lead rather than follow. While the energy is electric, it also asks for balance between confidence and impulsiveness.
In the morning*, the Moon in Aries quintile Pluto in Aquarius deepens our focus and brings a subtle but powerful drive for transformation. You may feel an urge to take control of something that’s been out of alignment, or to clear emotional clutter.
Pluto helps you see beneath the surface, revealing hidden motives, yours or others’. Use this insight wisely and apply it toward progress, not power struggles.
As the day unfolds, the Aries Moon sesquiquadrate Mars in Scorpio stirs competitive instincts. There’s potential for irritation or short temper if things don’t move fast enough. Channel this fiery tension into constructive effort rather than confrontation. Physical activity, brisk walks, or hands-on tasks help release pressure and refocus energy.
Protect Yourself From Toxic Noise And Psychic Junk
How often do you consider the health of your auric space or personal energy field, which is constantly being bombarded with so much negative energy these days. Are you doing enough to protect yourself?
First and foremost, you need to have healthy boundaries. Each of us needs and deserves to have a safe place, a sense of self-worth, and protection from others. Think about what happens to a beach that is battered constantly by waves. It will wear down and eventually disappear. If you don’t have boundaries, your very identity will be like those grains of sand.
Learning to connect back to the Earth and nature is essential to our well-being. This can be as simple as walking without shoes in a natural space, or by keeping plants in your living space. When we are separate from our natural selves, we lose perhaps the most important part of our soul.
By walking in nature, you are literally reconnecting. Like a lightning bolt discharging energy when it strikes solid ground, you are releasing all the negative energies that accumulate in your body. Take a friend, or walk your dog if you have one.
If these energies, and their associated negative effects, are like frantic little animals in the cage of our bodies, we need to find ways to calm them. Centering rituals using meditation, candles, crystals, or whatever individual tradition you may follow, need to be part of your day, just like meals and baths.
Tarot Forecast November 2025: Ten Of Swords
The card that came in for this month is the Ten of Swords, a card that can look harsh at first, but carries a powerful message of closure, truth, and rebirth. This isn’t about endings for their own sake; it’s about release. Something has run its course, and it’s time to stop holding on.
The Ten of Swords invites us to be honest with ourselves, to stop pretending that what’s broken can still be fixed the old way.
This month’s theme is surrendering what’s no longer serving us. The Ten of Swords clears the clutter, both inner and outer. It shines a light on what’s been draining us, and while it can feel uncomfortable at first, it also brings freedom.
There’s a certain peace that comes with finally letting go. What’s ending now makes room for healing, insight, and new beginnings.
November’s energy is quiet but meaningful. It’s not dramatic or loud, it’s the deep exhale after a long effort. It asks us to slow down, listen, and trust that the cycle closing now is paving the way for something better.
The Ten of Swords doesn’t sugarcoat reality, but it always carries the promise of dawn. Its message is simple: you’ve come through the hardest part, and even if you can’t see it yet, light is returning.
By the end of this month, you may feel a sense of emotional relief or clarity that wasn’t there before. The Ten of Swords helps us clear old patterns, step away from what’s over, and prepare for the next chapter. It’s not the end, it’s the turning point between endings and renewal.
A Cuddly Message From Grandma At Halloween
All of us have lost, or will in time lose someone very dear to us. Like it or not, all of us also have to ponder the concept of life after death at some point in our life. Some of us have very strong beliefs on the subject, one way or the other. We either believe in the afterlife, or we do not.
For me the answer is simple and easy. I strongly believe, because of both my personal and professional experiences. For example, I have been visited many times by my grandparents, and I have communicated with many loved ones in spirit in my daily work, when I do readings for my clients.
My grandma often communicates with me in the dream state. She tends to show up when I least expect it, usually to give me a guiding message or to warn me about something. She always has been a worrier, in this life and the next! Right up to the very day she departed this life, she was telling us what to do to keep safe, and she was always giving us good advice. She is very wise.
I was asking her just the other day to give me a sign that she was around, and sure enough, she did. But this time she did not show up in a dream. She spoke to me…through a teddy bear! Yes, indeed.
It is one of those plush toys that makes a cute kissing sound and says, “I love you very much,” when you squeeze it. I was in the tub and this little teddy bear was right next to me, on top of a shelf. After drawing the bath, I was leaning back in the soothing, warm water, letting out a sigh of relief that a long day was over. Next thing you know, this teddy bear goes off on its own, making the kissing sounds and saying I love you, over and over. I knew right away that it was grandma making contact.
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