Posts Tagged ‘sex’
From the darkest places comes the brightest of light…” When I first read this statement on a piece of community art, on display at a Yoga festival, I was astounded. I stood still, with my Yoga mat strung over my shoulder, my water bottle in hand, and a plethora of memories racing through my mind.
That moment instantly brought back my traumatic, abusive childhood, and destructive youth. I had come from some very dark places, until I ended up morbidly obese, depressed and suicidal at 30 years of age. I had to change my life and slowly I began to choose what I sensed was good for me. Read the rest of this entry »
I have heard disturbing stories of metaphysical gurus and spiritual teachers sexually exploiting their followers or people under their care. This raises questions around the ethics of being in a helping profession, and also how to be on the receiving end of such help or support. Is the spiritual community paying enough attention to red flags and boundaries?
When do we set boundaries? One does not want to be too paranoid, however waiting too long might send the wrong message, like “your behavior is okay.” We want the help, but sometimes the price we are asked to pay is not so clear. I shall explore the intricacies, the dance, of this aspect of a helping relationship through the narrative below. Read the rest of this entry »
I have been teaching White Tantric Yoga for 15 years. The premise of White Tantric Yoga, is to unite two people together. It is also designed to connect each person the to the Divine, as well as to connect each individual’s sexuality to their spirituality.
Our sexuality is linked to the second chakra. The color is orange. It is located just below the navel point. It is also connected to our creativity. If you are a dancer, an artist, a musician, or a poet, this is where that vibrant creative energy comes from. If there is any sexual trauma in this area, it can block creative energy, block the ability to connect your sexuality and your spirituality, created physical issues with the sex organs and can create depression and anxiety. Read the rest of this entry »
I have been teaching White Tantric Yoga for 15 years. It is based on the Kama Sutra, or the Kama Sutra is based on White Tantric Yoga. I incorporate these teachings in my partner workshops and find it to be a great way to lure men into the class! These teachings are not pornographic or about teaching wild sexual positions. It is actually the opposite. It is in fact designed to remove those things from our lives that disconnect our sexuality from our spirituality, such as porn, perversion, control, violence and infidelity. Read the rest of this entry »
The editor asked me what type of horoscope I thought the newspaper needed, given that the male readership ratio was so much smaller compared to that of women. I told her that we needed to do a horoscope for males and females of each sign. We needed to break down the walls between men and women, because the newspaper’s advice column seemed to suggest neither sex had a clue about what was going on in the others’ head.
My plan was to write the horoscopes combining elements of Astrology and Numerology, but the meat and potatoes, the predictions within each horoscope itself, would come from me using a different Tarot deck each week. I did an overview for the week ahead, one for males and one for females, in which lot of the astrological elements were taken into account. This was followed by a male and female horoscope for every sign of the Zodiac. Read the rest of this entry »
I recently heard someone say that meditation makes them feel “depressed.” Really? Not dealing with issues is what makes us depressed, not meditation!
Suppressing our old hurts or fears can cause depression. What we do, typically, is to layer “fun”, mindless entertainment and other frivolous distractions on top of the stinking swamp of our unhealed wounds – be they soul wounds or childhood wounds, or anything in between. This is like using air freshener, rather than take out the garbage.
The pursuit of “fun” is the modern drug of choice. We self-medicate by shopping on credit, forcing ourselves into insane “adventures”, attending endless social events, indulging in sexual excess, overeating, abusing drugs and alcohol, or participating in yet another spiritual workshop, seminar or retreat that promises to be the ultimate solution to our life. We indulge in these hedonistic pursuits to keep our oozing emotional wounds in check. Read the rest of this entry »
Passion, we all have it. A desire so deep within us for something or someone we just about glow when we talk about, or think about it, or them. It is a drive to succeed, a desire to love or be loved. You have to have it. You need passion in your body and soul to feel fulfilled and happy. You need it to feel alive.
Many of us have voids in our lives, holes – an emptiness that we cannot seem to fill. But we really have a need to fill them, and fill them we do. We fill them with things that make us feel fuller, but not better. Some of us drink too much, eat too much, over spend, use drugs or fill up every second of our day with stuff to do. Stuff that is often so passionless; things that we are mindlessly doing to help contain the emptiness we feel.
Sometimes our relationship with our significant other has lost its appeal. It is no longer exciting. We sometimes have jobs that we go to everyday that bore us. It is no longer challenging or maybe it has become too challenging. Sometimes our lives have just become boring and mundane. We have our daily routines that we can do blindfolded, or asleep. Read the rest of this entry »
We are all ultimately looking for love and acceptance. It sounds so simplistic, but the reality can be far more complex. Confusing sexual attraction with love is more common that you think. At times it’s not confusion at all, but a complete identification that this sexual draw means you’ve found “the one”. If that connection is only there in the bedroom, where does that leave you in the real world?
Connected energy versus sexual energy are two separate things. Yes, together they can make for fantastic relationships, but more commonly, the connection we feel is only a bond with someone over sexual attraction. Sadly, that fizzles out quickly if there is no foundation of friendship, kinship, or spiritual connection. Eventually, we wake up one morning looking at the other person thinking, “I don’t know you and I don’t even like you. It’s over.” Read the rest of this entry »