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Communication Is Key To Long-Term Love
It is so important to always keep the lines of communication open. Without it our relationships will not grow. I cannot stress enough how essential this is. It is the foundation, as it allows us to share our interests, to organize our lives and to make the best decisions.
Working together is the way we talk and listen to each other, not at each other.
Always be clear about what you want, and need to say, so that your partner hears it accurately and understands you, and does not get any mixed signals. Share positive feelings, tell them how much they are appreciated and admired, and how important they are to you.
Listening is also very important. A good listener can encourage their partner to feel comfortable enough to keep the lines of communication open. When together, always keep eye contact, show that you are interested and concerned.
Some people find it difficult to express their emotions, especially after being hurt in prior relationships. They have a trust issue that can take some time to overcome, because it is often the things that we cannot talk about that hurt the most.
Relationships are ever-changing. They go through a life cycle: first the honeymoon, then children, the mid-life crisis and finally the empty nest syndrome. Then the period of getting reacquainted follows, or the death of a spouse, or the ending of the relationship.
Not A People Person, Or Pleaser, And That’s Okay!
I have had clients tell me that they feel something is wrong with them, because they don’t like to be around people. They prefer solitude.
Others feel disconnected when around people, or it makes them feel smothered. People make them feel drained, or they feel out of their element.
If you are someone that does not like to be around people, or feels a sense of disconnect when in large groups, or even just engaging with others, fear not! I have some very good news to share with you.
It is my hope and prayer that this information will help you to stop being so hard on yourself when it comes to your social preferences. You do not need to feel guilty for not wanting to slap on a “happy face” and pretend to be someone you are not.
There is nothing wrong with you in my opinion. There is a simple reason why you don’t enjoy being around other people so much. The reason is that you have been to this planet many times before and basically you have “been here done this,” as it were.
Okay, so you don’t feel like being around your fellow humans. What to do? Tell yourself this, “it is okay that I don’t want to engage with others.” Then tell yourself, “I love myself just the way I am and now see the beauty in me that I never did.
But instead of judging myself, or thinking there is something wrong with me, from this day forward I promise to allow myself to embrace the freedom of placing myself where I feel comfortable, and free, and at peace.” Continue reading
Embracing Growth Challenges In Your Relationship
At some point in a romantic relationship, we all face challenges that test our connection with our partner or spouse. People disagree, make mistakes, and experience conflict. It’s human nature.
However, it is important to realize that most problems in a developing relationship are often not inherently negative or catastrophic. Instead, they present valuable opportunities for personal growth, healing, and self-discovery.
If you believe that your happiness in a relationship depends on finding the perfect partner, it’s time for a new perspective. The key to a happy relationship is to remove personal barriers one at a time. By doing so, you can fully immerse yourself in love and become a magnet for attracting the right partner into your life.
Consider the following five common issues that many new couples face and how you can learn from them to foster a stronger, more fulfilling connection with your significant other.
The Happiness Myth
Some people go into a new relationship expecting their partner to bring them the complete state of happiness, joy, and fulfillment they have always sought. But others cannot make us happy, joyful, or fulfilled because achieving this is always an inside job. It starts with us.
When Will I Find My Soulmate?
The questions I get most often in psychic readings is about finding true love and meeting soulmates. Why am I still single? When will I meet the love of my life? Will I be married? To be honest, I asked myself the same kind of question for decades.
When I got divorced at the age of 28, I had no idea that I would be single until the age of 52. Yes, I had several failed relationships during those years, and even when I connected with someone who I was certain was my life partner, things always seemed to fall apart.
However, many years later, when I did meet my soulmate, it was incredible! Truth be told, I would go through it all again to end up in the relationship of my dreams, no matter how long it took.
Of course, I would have done many things differently over those two and a half decades, instead of wasting my time searching and lamenting the fear that I would always be alone.
That fear, along with a few other factors, was actually what held me hostage for years. It is the first thing that should be addressed when one is searching for your soulmate.
Many people told me over the years, that I would meet the man of my dreams when I wasn’t looking. My response to that was always, “Well, it will have to be a burglar then, because the only time I am not looking is when I am asleep!” If this is how it seems for you, then this is the first thing that needs to change. Your soulmate will find you. Period. And it will happen when you are not looking. Double period!
Are You Desperately Seeking Your Soulmate?
As a psychic reader, I often deal with questions about love and relationships. Many clients ask about meeting their soulmate, twin flame, or special life partner.
A dear client once told me how desperate she was to find her soulmate. She said she wouldn’t be happy until she met him, as she believed he would complete her.
But Spirit did not respond with a simplistic prediction or quick fix. The message was clear and direct: she would never find a man to complete her. Instead, she would have to find happiness and fulfillment from within. Only after she accomplished this would she be able to find lasting happiness in a relationship.
I gave her some things she could do to help her and I was later thrilled to get an email from her telling me how thankful she was. She was looking to all the wrong things and people to give her the happiness she so desired.
She then asked me the right question and I was so happy she remembered! How could she connect with her true beloved?
I remote viewed and explained where I saw him and felt it was someone from her past and how she could find him by simply not looking, and we discussed many different things about this person.
She never realized it, until I finally mentioned to her, that this was her best friend that she had been in touch with for many years. They had had their ups and downs, but as I explained, even the best of marriages are like roller-coaster rides. It is not the easy connections that we gain the greatest amount of soul growth from. Instead, the relationships that aren’t easy are the ones that you become wiser from and gain the most wisdom from.
Spiritual Strategies For A Loving Relationship
Over the years I have worked with many clients who either want to improve an existing relationship or manifest a new relationship.
In my readings, I have seen that most of us carry patterns, energy blocks, or emotional knots that quietly affect our love lives. Many people describe the same inner cycle: a longing for deeper connection followed by fear, self-doubt, and frustration.
Depending on the needs to the particular individual or couple, I often recommend a few simple yet powerful practices that can shift the romantic energy field and open the heart.
These practices are gentle and effective, working not just on the emotional level but on the spiritual and energetic levels as well. They help clients reconnect with their inner wisdom and realign with love.
We tend to overthink our love lives. We analyze our relationships from every angle, hoping to find the answers in logic.
But love is not a puzzle to be solved. It is a frequency to be attuned to. And when we work with spiritual tools, we allow ourselves to rise above the clutter of thought and enter a state of clarity and openness.
I have found that the following practices, when done consistently, create a soft and supportive foundation for emotional healing and soulful connection. They do not require dramatic effort or complex rituals. They are simple shifts in intention and awareness that can lead to powerful outcomes.
What To Do When He Disappears Into His Cave
He tells you he loves you, wants to be with you all the time, and can’t get enough of you. He calls and texts you constantly, and you feel like you’ve found the perfect relationship. You love the way he makes you feel. He must be “the one.”
Then, suddenly, he’s gone. No calls, no texts, no dates, nothing. Ghosted.
And you’re left wondering: What happened? Where did he go? Was it something I said, or did?
Well, no. He just retreated into his “cave.” It is where your man goes to think, breathe, and figure out what’s going on in his head.
This is the mysterious and often frustrating time-out that men often take when they realize things are moving too fast, or when they start to feel deeply attached.
For us women, especially those who are spiritually aware and emotionally intuitive, this sudden withdrawal can be very confusing and even painful.
Women tend to thrive on connection and open communication, and we naturally want to nurture and support others. So, when the man we care about suddenly becomes distant, it can trigger our deepest fears of abandonment or rejection.
But here’s what you need to understand: his retreat is not about you.