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Your Sacred Center Of Self-Love
We all thrive on being loved. This is natural, of course, if you look back at humanity in history on an evolutionary level. Ancient people came together in tribes, families, and groups, to cultivate a place of safety, security, nurturance, and love.
If you were different or stood out in any way, or even left the tribe, you were literally putting your own life at risk. This topic can be viewed from so many arenas, including psychological, spiritual, scientific, and psychic.
I often wonder how and when did we start defining ourselves by how others felt about us, and why did we believe that other’s thoughts about us were true? At what point in time did we allow others to define us? It’s as though we as humanity went into a deep trance.
We all know the phrase, “Love thyself first”. When did we forget this vital piece of information?
There are many ways we can come back in touch with this essential truth, but for the most part, our society does not support a lifestyle that would naturally lead us back to our sacred center of self-love.
How often do you take a moment to look in the mirror, or tell yourself, “I love you?” Most of us feel silly doing this, but it is very healing.
Have you ever met an older person who behaves in ways that are foolish or who just doesn’t give a hoot what anyone else thinks? My paternal grandfather used to throw dinner rolls across the table at me in fancy restaurants. While my parents and other family seated at the table would roll their eyes at my Grampy, I used to laugh hysterically!
Align Your Mind With The Life You Desire
We attract into our life what we expect. When parents, friends, peers, and most importantly, your own self-talk tell you that you are not good enough, smart enough, or attractive enough, and you choose to believe it, then it becomes your reality.
Repeating these messages to your subconscious mind reinforces this belief until it ultimately manifests as reality in your life. The subconscious mind accepts everything it hears as true. It does not distinguish between what is objectively true and what has merely been repeated often enough.
Self-talk, whether supportive or filled with doubt, is internalized in the same way. The subconscious mind is like an eager child: receptive to all input, particularly messages received consistently and frequently. It listens and learns without judgment, simply absorbing and accepting.
This is why it can be so challenging to differentiate between genuine inner truth and a false belief formed from repeated external messages, such as television content, stories shared by others, or even our own inner dialogue.
For example, you might fall asleep while watching a joyful, lighthearted program. Then, a horrific war documentary comes on. Even though you are no longer consciously watching, your subconscious mind continues to absorb the information. Those unsettling images and emotions may then weave their way into your dreams, shaping new fears and anxieties despite their origin in fiction or someone else’s story.
Why Positive Affirmations Really Work
You often hear spiritual people talk about using affirmations to improve their lives. Maybe you’ve seen quotes online or heard advice like, “Just repeat positive affirmations every day and watch your life change!”
But have you ever wondered what it really means? It sounds simple enough — but how can repeating a few positive statements really make such a big difference, especially when it comes to something as big (and sometimes complicated) as love and romance?
Let’s start at the beginning: What exactly are affirmations? Simply put, affirmations are short, powerful statements that you intentionally repeat to yourself, usually to create a positive shift in your thinking and mindset.
Affirmations are best phrased in the present tense — as if what you want is already true — to help “install” these intentions or beliefs in your subconscious mind and thus shift your energy. For example, “I am worthy of love,” “I am confident and magnetic,” or “I attract healthy, supportive relationships.”
At first, saying affirmations may feel a little strange or even wrong — especially if your current inner dialogue is filled with self-doubt or fear. But with consistent practice, something amazing begins to happen. You’re not just saying empty words-you’re literally rewiring your brain and shifting your energy to match what you want.
But how does it work? How can repeating just a few words every day change the way you attract love or make that special someone finally notice you? Let’s explore both the scientific and the magical, metaphysical aspects of affirmations and uncover why they work and how you can use them to seriously level up your love life!
What The Mind Believes, The Body Perceives
Self-talk and inner dialogue play a crucial role in our overall well-being – body, mind and spirit. The way we think and talk to ourselves shapes our reality, affecting not only our emotions and moods, but also our physical health.
For example, if we wake up and immediately think, “I feel terrible. I’m still exhausted. I don’t want to face the day,” our body will respond in kind. We’ll move sluggishly, feel each ache more intensely, and reinforce a state of fatigue.
Negative self-talk can even affect digestion, metabolism, and immune function because the body takes its cues from the mind. When we repeatedly tell ourselves that we lack energy, the body responds by slowing down.
However, when we consciously shift our thoughts to a more positive perspective, we cultivate an inner environment that supports healing, resilience, and vitality.
The same principle applies to how we perceive ourselves physically. If we stand in front of the mirror and focus on perceived flaws, our posture and energy will reflect that self-criticism. We may unconsciously choose clothing that reinforces our negative self-image and move through the day with slumped shoulders and diminished confidence. Our bodies reflect the beliefs we hold about ourselves.
Conversely, when we practice self-talk that is uplifting and empowering, our body responds accordingly. By consciously choosing to carry ourselves with confidence, even if it feels unnatural at first, we initiate a shift in both our emotional and physical states.
Open Yourself To The Miracles That Await You
We are all hoping for positive developments in our lives. It is only natural that we want our circumstances to improve! And yet, we often block the very things we most want from manifesting in our lives!
There can be many reasons and causes for this. To put ourselves in the best possible position to attract the results we want, it’s important to be intentional about how we approach our lives and the choices before us.
Manifesting positive results in our lives is much more than simply wishing for better circumstances or passively hoping that things will get better. It is an active and committed process — one that requires self-awareness, alignment, and openness.
Every thought we think, every belief we hold, and every action we take contributes to the reality we create. The process of manifestation is not just about wanting something; it is about aligning ourselves to receive it.
Our mindset and energetic state play a crucial role in shaping our experiences. If we are not in the right vibrational alignment, even the most extraordinary opportunities may go unnoticed or unaccepted. We may unconsciously reject the very things we desire because of limiting beliefs, fear, or self-doubt. This is why mindset and energy alignment are essential — they act as a bridge between our intentions and the reality we wish to create.
When we consciously align with the flow of abundance, we become magnetic to blessings and miracles. The key is to embrace possibility, release resistance, and move forward with trust. In doing so, we create an inner environment where manifestation can flourish, and we position ourselves to receive the highest and best results that life has to offer.
Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life!
We’ve all had those days when all we do is tear ourselves down. In moments of self-judgment and negativity, we tell ourselves that we’re not good-looking enough, rich enough, smart enough, young enough, thin enough, talented enough… the list goes on.
While occasional self-criticism is normal, for many it becomes a lifelong habit of self-torture — an internal dialogue of negativity that shapes their reality.
Negative thinking and judgmental self-talk have profound effects on both mental and physical health. Chronic self-criticism fuels anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem, often leading to feelings of hopelessness and inaction. On a physical level, this mindset increases stress and weakens the immune system, making us more susceptible to disease.
But beyond psychology and biology, this pattern also has metaphysical implications — it acts as a self-fulfilling prophecy. The more we tell ourselves that we are unworthy, incapable, or unlucky, the more these beliefs take root in our energy field. Over time, they manifest as actual experiences in our daily lives, reinforcing the very negativity we wish to escape.
The good news? Just as negative thoughts shape our reality, so do positive thoughts. When we shift our mental energy toward uplifting, empowering, and constructive thoughts, we raise our energetic vibration. Over time, this inner shift produces tangible results — our confidence grows, new opportunities arise, and life begins to feel more fulfilling.
Overcoming Your Self-Limiting Beliefs
You’ve probably heard this before. I talk about it all the time. But this concept has had such an impact on my life that I just have to keep sharing it!
You are not your thoughts or your emotions. You are the soul or spirit that has the ability to observe and experience your thoughts and feelings.
When I came to this realization, I had been working for years on my tendency to be very critical of my inner dialogue. But it was only when I looked at it from a spiritual perspective that I realized how hard I had been on myself.
Our minds are constantly full of inner chatter that, left unattended, can become a toxic breeding ground for fear, self-judgment, and limiting belief patterns. Once I realized that as a spiritual being I was separate from my thoughts and feelings, I began to observe them more objectively.
As a natural consequence, I found myself asking some very compelling questions. What was I believing about these thoughts? What kind of emotions do these thoughts evoke? This kind of self-reflection opens up a conversation with your heart, your soul, your higher self.
Your mind is designed to keep you safe. Too often this means keeping you within your comfort zones and self-limiting beliefs. Your heart and soul, on the other hand, want you to grow and expand. The higher self wants you to learn, play, explore and experience as much as possible in this lifetime.