It is okay to say no. As a matter of fact, it is imperative to learn to say no, and stick with it. We observe that many of you try to be all things to all people. You run yourselves ragged, physically and emotionally, trying to please other people.
You put others ahead of yourselves and then become frustrated and angry when you have no time left for your own personal lives. This is exhausting, stressful and becomes completely unrealistic over time.
The challenge in setting healthy personal boundaries often arises when it becomes difficult to prioritize your own needs and desires against the expectations of others. Since when do these people rule your roost? Since when are their expectations more valid or important than your own peace of mind, ideas or schedules? Why do you give them such power over your dreams, goals, ambitions and life? Read the rest of this entry »
A few hours ago, my nieces’ father passed away. He was only 59 years of age and had been battling colon cancer which metastasized to his spine. His fight started several years ago and had run the gamut from surgeries, chemotherapy and radiation to clinical trials at one of the world’s most well-respected cancer hospitals. Toward the end of his time on this plane, he was sent home to live as comfortably as possible for his remaining days.
The following words of comfort are general guidance from Spirit, the gist of which I have passed along to my nieces:
“It is natural to grieve for loved ones when they pass into the Spirit world, even if you know that they will be without pain or discomfort from this time forward. In the case of a parent who has died, there can be an empty feeling of having been left alone to fend for oneself in the world, regardless of the fact that the adult child might have been a caregiver for the parent during a long decline or illness. Read the rest of this entry »
Ah, forgiveness! Such a misunderstood word. Many people assume that, although it sounds noble to forgive someone, forgiveness is often impossible. They feel that certain sins are so severe that the transgressor doesn’t deserve any forgiveness at all.
Also, there is a pervasive feeling that if you forgive someone, you are somehow excusing their infractions. Do not be confused. Whether you are forgiving someone who has hurt your feelings, stolen from you or caused you bodily harm, the reasoning is the same.
You are not letting the transgressor off the hook, or turning a blind eye to the wrong that was done to you. You are not condoning said transgression or justifying it in any way. Nor are you giving the wrong-doer a free pass to re-offend, or making an exception for him or her. Read the rest of this entry »
Charity does begin at home. Whether you think of charity as alms for the impoverished, or kindness to strangers, or perhaps non-judgment in times of questionable behavior by others, it is still imperative to look within first. Before you can be truly charitable to others, it is important to be kind to yourself first. Ultimately, you cannot give to others freely and easily that which you do not give to yourself.
You are a loving and giving being. However, sometimes you are your own worst critic and have nothing but fault to find when you come up short regarding lofty expectations of yourself.
Sometimes you have set this bar so high that you are incapable of reaching the goals within your estimated timeline. Sometimes life intervenes in your best laid plans and deadlines are missed. Sometimes you self-sabotage from fear of success, or failure. Each of these instances can cause undue stress, which is not only harmful to you, but also to the people in your circle. Read the rest of this entry »
Life is challenging. With the overwhelming ups and downs that everyone faces over a lifetime, sometimes it seems possible to feel euphoric one moment, and devastated the very next. But can one’s attitude really make a difference?
If you choose, it can be an admirable goal to attempt to mitigate the emotional roller-coaster ride of life to the best of your ability. There will be times of great happiness and deep sorrow, however, if you can stay the course for the majority of the time, it is much easier to cope with stressful day-to-day issues.
You have met people who seem hard-wired to see the sunny side of the street. Others focus mainly on doom and gloom. They let their current circumstances define their future. Don’t be one of those self-limiting people, who brings everyone down because they are miserable. Read the rest of this entry »
Spirit is everywhere and our Guides are supporting us as we meander through this path we call life. Learn more as one of my Guides elaborates on trust:
“Although we are omnipresent, we do not intervene in your day-to-day life. You are on your own special journey and we must not interfere. We are available, however, to guide, guard and protect you when you need us most.
Remember, though, that you have chosen the people, places and events that you wish to experience while on the earth plane. We watch with interest as you navigate the twists and turns that you have orchestrated. Read the rest of this entry »
Continued from Supported By Spirit – Part 3.
At last, after another three months of recuperation, I was discharged from the nursing home. After more than five weeks in two hospitals located a thousand kilometers apart, followed by 90 days in convalescent care, I had no idea that the really hard work was just about to begin.
I was sent to see different surgeons for each of the injuries; shoulder, wrist, knee and foot. The severe whiplash was discovered by my chiropractor and she worked diligently for months to realign my neck and spine.
Soon, the plan was decided. Four days per week, I went to physiotherapy via taxi. It took three painful hours to get ready to go out each day and then I spent two hours in the gym, working as hard as I could to re-build muscle and regain my strength. Read the rest of this entry »
My injuries were so severe that I needed ongoing support as I healed. I was sent from the second hospital to a long-term convalescent care facility, located within a nursing home in another city, in order to recuperate for an additional three months.
On my first day in the nursing home, a wonderful woman came into my room with a message from spirit. She was a member of the cleaning staff and she asked me point-blank why I thought I was there. When she saw my confusion, she answered her own question by telling me that I looked like a workaholic to her so she felt that my accident had been sent to slow me down. Read the rest of this entry »