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Ignoring The Signs In Matters Of The Heart
Many years ago, while consoling my best friend after a major breakup, it came to me that she was doing everything possible to continue holding on to what Spirit was removing from her life.
Sitting next to her, as she held on to her laptop hoping to find her lover’s name amidst emails, was like witnessing a tragedy. It was a heartbreak that most of us will experience at some point in our lives, either directly or indirectly.
After a year-long courtship, the ‘man of her dreams’ suddenly began to distance himself without any explanation. The calls became less, the frequent text messages disappeared, and there were no longer any plans on the calendar for their usual weekend outings.
I offered my friend a shoulder to cry on, and searched my mind for the appropriate, most comforting words to speak, but I could feel her gradually pulling away. All that mattered to her at that moment was establishing a deeper connection with her missing-in-action lover.
My friend resisted my recommendation to slow down, to find her center, and most of all… to let go. Instead, she suddenly bolted from her chair, threw on her coat and scarf, and fled the scene.
Several hours later, I received a frantic call from her. While parked outside of her boyfriend’s apartment, she saw him leave with his arm around another woman. Apparently, it was very clear from their mutual displays of affection, that he was in love with someone else.
Months went by, with my friend still holding on to the false hope that her love would someday return. Meanwhile, several very nice men attempted to get her attention, but she turned down each and every one. She even received a lucrative job offer, that came with a coveted geographical relocation, but she refused it. She turned her back on this amazing opportunity for fear of moving too far away from her ex.
Your Soulmate is Not Someone Else’s Partner
Many people go through life looking for their soulmate or twin flame, while they may have already found them. To me a soulmate is simply someone you have a past life connection to and your souls cross paths again in this lifetime. It does not mean they are meant to be with you forever. It does not mean that you are meant to be lovers, partners or any other connection other than, you have been together in some capacity in a past life.
Sometimes clients who consult me about their love life are enamored with another person’s spouse or partner, and are so sure that this person is meant to be with them, instead of the person they are with. But the truth is, the Universe, Source, God, will never send you someone else’s partner to be your life mate.
I hear so often, “But I love him!” Or “We are so good together and she does not love her husband.” But these are merely empty words, or wishful thinking. Chances are you are only being used by that other person. They will tell you exactly what you want to hear. “Oh yes, my spouse and I have drifted apart.” Or, ‘My spouse treats me very badly.” Or the best one, “I’m only staying there until the kids are out of school.” These are simply lines to justify the pursuit of an affair.
Choose Wisely To Save Your Relationship
Toxic relationships can have a detrimental effect on our health. Some of us stay in toxic relationships for all kinds of reasons. We try and rationalize in our minds the reasons why we should not end it.
Some people think having a family with someone, or owning property together, is reason enough to stay in an unhealthy relationship. Some feel they have invested so much time and energy into the relationship, that it would be a waste to walk out. Others stay for religious reasons.
So, too many people keep living in relationships that are unhealthy and detrimental to their well-being. But what I have learned over the years, as professional psychic and spiritual advisor, is simply this: if the love is no longer there, it wasn’t meant to last; that period of soul growth is complete and it is time to move on. Continue reading
The Smart Woman’s Heart
Women by nature tend to be very giving. We love to love, and give, and nurture. We simply don’t know when to stop sometimes, and too often end up on an emotional limb by ourselves, wondering what happened. How did I get here?
The ‘smart woman’s heart’ is a concept I’ve been working on to try and ensure women stay on the right path when it comes to giving their precious heart away. It is my way to ease the pain that some of my clients go through when ending a relationship, or when they are unsure about where they stand in the relationship.
The goal of the smart woman’s heart is for her not to go so far out on that emotional limb. For her not to have to wonder where she stands. For her heart not to be broken, but to be free to love fully. Continue reading
Daydream Love And Abundance Into Your Life
Have you come to a point in your life where you know that you no longer intend to settle for the way things are in your life? Or are you ready to consider that, perhaps, you actually allowed yourself to accept a less than ideal relationship, or situation? Then, as we head towards a new year, maybe it’s high time for ‘out with the old, and in with the new.’
So often my customers say, “It’s just my luck, I should have known I’d be used again.” Or they believe they will always attract the unavailable ones, the cheaters, or those with addiction problems. When a person’s subconscious is being fed statements such as these, they are taken on board as gospel by our subconscious mind. If we have programmed our subconscious to accept such dialogue, it is what it expects, not just now, but in the future too. Continue reading
Sexuality Is An Integral Part Of Our Spirituality
I have been teaching White Tantric Yoga for 15 years. It is based on the Kama Sutra, or the Kama Sutra is based on White Tantric Yoga. I incorporate these teachings in my partner workshops and find it to be a great way to lure men into the class! These teachings are not pornographic or about teaching wild sexual positions. It is actually the opposite. It is in fact designed to remove those things from our lives that disconnect our sexuality from our spirituality, such as porn, perversion, control, violence and infidelity. Continue reading
Why People Cheat On Their Mates – Part 4
In the second post and third post in this blog series I have shared with you two different clients experiences with cheating in their marriage.
There are about as many different reasons why people cheat on their mates as there are for why their partners choose to stay with them!
One thing I have found to be true for the different types of couples that deal with cheating in their relationships. People who stay with their cheating mates are less happier and less healthier than those who decide to be proactive and take action – be it divorce, separation or break up. These brave souls chin up and decide not to deal with those that do not respect them enough to remain true. Continue reading