psychic medium
Apologies From The Other Side
Departed loved ones have come through to me many times over the years with a message of apology for how they treated me, or one of my clients. There is typically a common thread in these spirit messages: they didn’t know better at the time, but they do now, and they now see things differently. With the apology usually also comes great regret and remorse, acknowledging the pain they caused us.
For anyone who has been on the receiving end of abuse, I have come to believe that there is also a lesson in this. For me, the lesson has been learning to love myself. I was a people-pleaser for most of my life, and to some extent this is probably still the case, but there is a lesson in this too, in learning about self-love and learning to put my own needs first. My experience has been instrumental in enabling me to identify with others, and, in turn, I have become more able to help others the best I can.
I love the teachings of the spirit guide Emmanuel, as channeled by the late Pat Rhodegast. Emmanuel says, “If we were not meant to have done something, we would not have, but that it was all appropriate at the time.” I seem to recall his teachings stating that this does not mean that we should condone the harsh treatment of others.
As adults, we have more choices, but when family and loved ones treat us harshly, we often hope that things would get better, or that perhaps they were just having a bad day. I personally would do just about anything to please them, desperate to get their approval. Others often commented on and in hindsight they were right, but I would continue to hope.
Let Your Animals Speak For Themselves
Owning a pet is one of the greatest blessings in life. I am an animal lover through and through, especially dogs. Currently my family owns five Pomeranians, a Pitbull, and a Shih Tzu. Yes, a total of seven well-cared for and much loved dogs, each with its own quirky personality and unique needs. There is not a day goes by that one of them does not do something wacky to make me laugh. Owning dogs truly is a joy!
Recently one of my aging Pomeranians, 15 years old to be exact, became blind. At first she was scared of everything and required a lot of extra care. I debated whether it might be time to make the hard decision to let her go and be at peace?
Being a psychic medium, I know from personal experience that leaving this plane of existence is not the end for humans, and neither is it for animals. And sometimes letting go of a beloved pet is the best thing for the animal, especially when keeping them here only prolongs their suffering. I could never allow a beloved dog to suffer. So, I went back and forth with this difficult decision for weeks, asking what would be best for her. Was I being selfish in keep her here? Was she suffering needlessly?
As you probably know, when one is very close to a situation and your emotions are raw, we get caught up in the situation that is immediately in front of us, and we struggle to see things objectively. In these situations it also does not help to have any psychic abilities! I was simply too close to the situation. I couldn’t see clearly what was best for my pet.
The Psychic Diet
There are various diets, nutrition programs and recommended eating habits for keeping the mind, body and soul functioning at optimum levels. Healthy nutrition is especially crucial in maintaining our spiritual wellness and psychic intuition. It is vital for psychics, mediums, empaths and energy healers to find an optimal diet that works best for them, because quality metaphysical and psychic work can only be achieved when it is supported by a healthy lifestyle and proper nutrition.
Eating whole foods, drinking plenty of water, and minimal consumption of alcohol, are all good for our psychic attunement, especially for people with intuitive gifts, such as mediums. Eating clean, wholesome food will improve one’s psychic connection.
Some experts believe that a psychic diet should restrict meat consumption, although I do not feel that this is absolutely necessary. Some empaths and energy healers, for example, report taking on the feelings of the animals they consume. A decision to follow a vegetarian or vegan diet is a personal one, and other health concerns, such as anemia or micronutrient shortages must be considered for the individual.
Psychics who do include meat in their diet, should ideally choose organic, free range meats. Some believe it best to stick to only chicken or fish. Fruits and vegetables, on the other hand, are considered to be beneficial for all. It’s best to eat organic or locally grown produce whenever possible.
Setting Boundaries With Spirit
A good friend called me recently about experiences her daughter was having seeing spirits and shadow people in their house. They attempted to clear the energy by smudging the home with sage, but her daughter was still seeing these entities. My friend had remembered a story I told her about my early experiences with spirit realm and thought maybe I could help.
When I really began opening my connection to spirit I was in my 20s. Often, just as I was falling asleep, or was dozing, spirits would come and start ‘talking’ to me. In my experience, once one starts communicating, others will follow, as they seem to get excited about being able to connect directly with someone in the physical realm who can actually hear or see them. Needless to say, after not too long, I found this to be somewhat disruptive in my life.
One particular afternoon, as I was dozing off for a nap, a friendly spirit came to call and was telling me about her former life. But after a short time, another spirit arrived, who felt very negative and unpleasant. He seemed to be drawing on my energy and draining it. Although I did not sense him having any evil intention towards me, his negativity startled me. At this time I still had very little experience of consciously connecting to and communicating with spirit, and no real guidance from a teacher or mentor.
After a short time of his negative interference, and pushing deeper in to my energy, I said, “You need to stop right now and go away! And do not come back!” Well, he was gone in an instant and I had a nice peaceful nap for the first time in weeks.
The Ghost Who Warned Me
I moved into my first haunted house in 2005. I have communicated with beings from the other side since I was a child, but actually moving into a home where there was a spirit attachment, was a very different experience for me. I have also been in haunted houses before, but this time I was not able to just browse and leave – I was stuck in that house for a few months.
I was moving in with a family member, whom I knew had a lot of emotional issues, but who was also very sweet and wanting guidance and help from me. He was very attached to the house we were looking at renting. I told him right off the bat, “It’s haunted. Are you sure you want to move into a haunted house?” He asked me how I knew it was haunted, even though he knows I am psychic medium. I told him I could sense the presence. It wasn’t dark. It was male and it was associated directly with the house.
Despite all this, we moved in.
The night we moved in, I felt a presence hovering over me when I was sleeping… or should I say trying to sleep. The ghost said telepathically, “You brought darkness into my house. You need to get rid of it, or leave. I will help you get rid of it.” I was quite confused. I responded, “I am a light being. I’ve never caused harm to anyone. Why do you think I brought darkness here?” I did not get an answer.
Do Loved Ones Become Our Spirit Guides?
While doing mediumship readings, I often have people ask me if their loved ones who have crossed over are now their spirit guides. The answer is, no. While our loved ones, who have crossed over, do watch over us, and communicate with us through dreams and other means, they are not our spirit guides.
Becoming a spirit guide requires many life times of experience, schooling and training. Our loved ones can give us energy, love and light, but they are not allowed to interfere with our destiny in any way.
So, what is the difference between spirit guides and loved ones who have crossed over? Spirit guides are with us before we choose our life. They help us decide what goals we have and what we want to emphasize and work on in the next life. They remind us of the lessons in life we struggle with every life.
The Permission To Grieve
If you’ve recently experienced a deep loss, my soul reaches out to yours today. I extend my condolences and healing energy in your time of grief. I don’t just say it because it sounds like a nice thing to say as a medium. I say it because I truly mean it.
This October I suffered one of the worst losses of my life. My mother passed, rather unexpectedly. She was only 60 years old. I knew my mom hadn’t been feeling well for a few weeks, but she tried to assure me she only had “the flu.”
My mom knew I was a psychic medium, and that it was hard to get anything past me. She wasn’t exactly lying. She had no formal diagnosis to tell her what was causing her illness, but I am fairly certain that she knew it was something much more sinister than a simple bout of the flu.
Sometimes our intuitive gifts can also feel like a curse, because my gut knew exactly what was wrong, but I didn’t want to even say the word out loud. I just told her she needed to go to the doctor. She agreed, changed the subject and left it at that. This discussion happened three weeks before her passing.