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How Life Taught Me To Seize Each Moment

Click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comIf your life is anything like mine, then it is a string of constant changes and random events. Welcome to my boat! And don’t worry about bringing any oars, we won’t be needing them.

When I married my husband, almost twenty years ago, we embarked together on a wild ride that is the military life. Holding hands and ready for a thrill, we signed up for an experience that has indeed been thrilling, and at times quite chilling. More than anything, it taught me very valuable life lessons. In fact, I find that many of my clients go through similar experiences, in a different form, of course, but they still arrive at the same realization.

Imagine for a second what happens when you go whitewater rafting and the power of moving water throws the boat off course. You automatically reach to grab on to something, to maintain your balance and, preferably, to remain safely in the boat. The same thought patterns geared towards survival are wired in our brain pathways for all circumstances in life.

As our plans and dreams get thrown up in the air, due to external circumstances, or sometimes, divinely orchestrated events, we subconsciously tighten up our grip, to make sure that we retain at least some kind of control over the circumstances, including, our safety and stability.

In my case, if we were told to move to the place that was not anywhere on the list of our moving preferences, I would immediately fast-forward in my mind to the next action step I should take, to bring this uncontrolled environment into something I could grasp.

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Free Yourself With The Power Of Forgiveness

click for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comHow can we possibly reconcile the feelings of anger and betrayal with a need to forgive? Are we compromising our integrity in doing so?

Forgiveness can seem like an impossibility… but it doesn’t have to be. It’s really one of the few things in life that really matters, whether it means forgiving ourselves, or someone else. It is said that allowing someone to continuously upset you, is to allow them to ‘live rent-free inside your mind.’

Others hurt us all the time. Holding on to this hurt for long periods of time can damage us physically and psychologically. And then there are those ‘little things’… like someone cutting you off in traffic, or forgetting an important date.

One thing forgiveness does not do, is make us forget the source of the pain. What it does is allow a reconciliation with what happened, and allows us to move on in a productive way. When you were a child, perhaps you got hurt with a hot stove burner or electrical outlet. You didn’t (hopefully) spend the rest of your life being angry at stoves or electrical outlets! This is basically how forgiveness also works. We can acknowledge that someone or something caused us to hurt, and be aware of how that happened, but still move past it and get on with our lives.

Holding on to anger and bitterness will color all your relationships, until you learn to forgive and let go. If, for example, you ended a toxic relationship and decided to start dating again, you might not be able to fully trust, because of the possibility of reliving that pain. A truly intimate relationship will never happen without forgiveness.

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The Secret Stepping Stone Towards Positivity

click here for a free psychic reading right now at PsychicAccess.comI used to have a sign on my desk at work that said, “No negativity!” I found that most of my co-workers responded well to this message. The majority of my interactions, even the challenging ones, were pleasant.

Naturally, there were inevitably a few contrary folks who would see my sign and say smugly, “Isn’t no negativity a negative message?” To which I would smile and respond, “Two negatives equal a positive.”

Sometimes, people would approach me and say, “I respect your sign, but I’m just not feeling positive today.” I would then do my best to be sympathetic. “It’s okay,” I would say, “I’m not asking you to be positive. I’m just asking for you to not be negative.” I would then try to remind them that most things are not simply black or white.

People typically only think in terms of positive and negative, and completely forget about the third option, namely neutral. There is no need to fake being happy when you are not. But there is also no need to choose the opposite reaction, by jumping into the arms of misery or gloom.

No matter how naturally positive or optimistic a person may be, there will always be times in everyone’s life, when they just aren’t feeling upbeat or enthusiastic. Telling them someone to “think positive” or “just smile” doesn’t really help in those moments. In fact, it can make a person even more upset or frustrated, because it seems like other people don’t realize the extent of their pain. It can also make a person feel depressed or guilty about even having natural human emotions.

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How To Block The Energy Of Negative People

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comIt seems that negativity and negative people are becoming more prevalent these days. Just a decade ago, I can remember people being afraid to be “publicly negative.” No one wanted to be seen as being negative, or as someone that brought others down.

I find myself avoiding large groups and big events, because I just don’t want negativity and lower vibrations impacting my happy life. But I do go to activities and fun events for the sake of my 3-year-old child, and often some of the moms, women who are forming impressionable minds, can’t seem to help themselves, but go to the negative! A few weeks ago, for example, I complimented a mom on her daughter’s excellent vocabulary and she told me no one had ever said anything like that to her before. She said people just tear each other down nowadays. How sad.

I am currently five months pregnant. I keep having other moms asking me how I am feeling, which is very nice. However, when I say I feel great, they seem surprised, even sometimes put off. They ask, “You don’t have any unpleasant symptoms?” Well, yes. Of course, I do. I’m pregnant! But whatever the symptom is, mild though it may be, it is still a gift to me – a pleasant reminder that I am so incredibly lucky. Even when I got morning sickness, I remember thinking during it, it’s okay, it’s okay, it will be over soon. You’re lucky. This means you’re pregnant!

Actually, I am up writing this blog at 3:00am, because I have pregnancy insomnia. Right now, I am up, because I am pregnant. It’s okay. I’ll sleep properly again in another five years, when both of my kids are older. Meanwhile, I’m getting a lot done that I can’t do during the day.

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Digging Into The Primal Depths

click for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comAs human beings, we are voraciously indulgent, pleasure-seeking creatures. We are instinctively driven by deeply embedded erotic, sensual needs that demand our attention. By neglecting or denying its ‘sense of urgency,’ a physical and mental ‘mortal combat’ ensues. We are stimulated by the thrilling edge of unknown horizons in forbidden sensuality. Ah! How we yearn for the ecstatic privilege to contact or engage the gregarious primal roar, and then release its euphoric orgasmic sigh of creation.

It is in those times alone that we are reconciled with the ramified, non-negotiable urge to devote all we have, are and ever will be to that which cannot be expressed, or even uttered in human words. During that inexpressible eternal moment, pain and pleasure are suspended forevermore.

How often are we aware enough to recognize and incorporate the electricity of immediate wonder into our lives, in the instant it occurs? On the other hand, can we ever be cognizant enough to embrace the disguised blessings hidden deeply within pain?

Our motives are never pure! If at any minute we deceive ourselves into believing they are, we suffer immeasurably through undisclosed discontent and unparalleled dissatisfaction. From that point on, we begin to build walls around us for protection. We misinterpret our own self-inflicted paranoia as a mal-aligned intent coming from another. We judge, criticize and condemn the smallest matters. We’re continuously on edge, refusing to see how insidious our demands are. The malicious face of pretense will catch us when we are the least bit aware. Most especially, when we honestly believe we are the ones without guile.

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The Secret To Being Sexually Attractive

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comHuman beings are driven by a sanctified sexual instinct. We thrive on pleasure, and work hard to avoid pain. But, being  open enough to allow the sublimely sacred, sexually-originated, artistically-inherent flowing energy to merge without resistance is another story altogether.

Our DNA implanted thrill devices, instilled in us before birth, activate as soon as we are born. We arrive needing to connect, receive warmth and to belong; to be held and caressed. Soft, tender words sooth us; caring for our needs are hopefully immediate and remain paramount all the days of our lives.

As complicated and complex as it may seem, in order to satisfy our deeply infused, divine artistic creative yearnings, we generate experiences that are needful, vitally life-sustaining. Some are quite painful, to be sure, but none are unwarranted and unnecessary.

And, though we may spend a lifetime, trying to unravel layers, upon layers, upon layers of meaning hidden in intimacy – which disguise so cleverly our basic internal needs – the impelling desire to connect remains. This connection is projected and received as attractiveness. We all are generated by the impetus to attract.

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When A Relationship Ends

click here for a free psychic reading at PsychicAccess.comWhen a relationship ends, no matter which partner ended it, a certain amount of healing and forgiveness is always needed. But people deal with break-ups differently and everyone handles it in their own, unique way. There is no right or wrong way. Some people seem to move on more quickly, while for others it can take months, or even years.

In truth, when a relationship ends it has usually been over for some time already. Some people take years to end a relationship, and often they have already grieved the relationship for quite some time.

It is all too easy to sit in judgment of your former partner, or place the blame solely on the other person. You may have been a really good partner in your own eyes, but what was your part in the puzzle of the relationship? One must look at all sides of the story to truly understand why the relationship did not work.

So, although a break-up is uncomfortable and painful, usually accompanied by lots of tears due to self-examination, your own part in any relationship failure must be examined for your own personal growth.

It’s hard to take a look at yourself and be brutally honest on all levels. For example, you may feel that your gave the relationship 110% percent. Well, truth be told, if you really were the only one giving your all to keep the relationship going, then you most likely also became resentful without even realizing it. Your own needs were probably not being met in the relationship. You started to lose yourself and became only the mirror of the other person.

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