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Successful Relationships Need Moments Of Solitude
I can’t tell you how many times I get calls from clients asking me to see why they are having communication issues with their husbands, wives, boyfriends and girlfriends. All kinds of miscommunication problems arise in love and romantic relationships, so I will go in and aim to pinpoint what it is that is causing them grief.
First, I always look to see if their other half is cheating. I also check to see if there is what I call a “love cord connection”, just to make sure there is soul growth to be had within the connection. I also see what issues they have to work on in this incarnation, because if there is a love cord connection odds are they have had many past lifetimes with the person. Continue reading
Let It Be, Let it Go…
I know a few friends who feel they have to control everything. They are seldom happy. Always frazzled. They seem to have this constant air of uptightness and anxiousness about them.
Do you know anyone like this? Often times, when doing readings for people who have control issues, there is a song that usually comes to mind for me: Let It Be by John Lennon and The Beatles. It is a wonderful song that talks about letting things just be and go where they are supposed to.
I have found that people that feel they have to have everything a certain way, who try to dominate how things are going to be, have so much unnecessary distress in their lives. People who instead just go with the flow, and allow life happen as it will, generally are more serene and often even seem to be in a state of bliss. Continue reading
Nobody Deserves To Be Happy!
Many self-help gurus will espouse the virtues, the sheer righteousness if you will, of deserving to be happy. You deserve to be happy? What does this truly even mean? (meant to be read in a most sarcastic tone of voice with a slight touch of incredulity thrown in for good measure).
I take umbrage, I cry foul to this so called deservedness. What makes you so special? For that matter, what makes me so special? None of us deserve to be happy any more so than the next guy or girl.
People, living breathing people, are being subjected to atrocities all over our planet in ways that some of us cannot even bear to think about, because we’d never sleep cozy in our beds at night if we did. Aren’t these people deserving of this ‘happiness’ also? They often times don’t experience it, because of someone else’s pursuit of happiness. Continue reading
Take The Heavenly Solitude Challenge! – Part Two
The benefits of solitude are many and can make a profound change in your life for the better. You can live a life full of happiness, clarity and fullness. When you do not make time for quietness and the wonderful inner stillness that solitude brings, life can get quite chaotic. It can make you nervous, anxious and prone to worry, and all the other negative emotions that can inundate our lives.
In my previous blog I encouraged you to take my solitude challenge. If you have not started yet, now is the time to do so! If you have started adding some moments of solitude into your daily routine, you should have experienced the effect of it by now. Some of the benefits you may have experienced may include any, or all of the following: Continue reading
Recipe For Attracting Zen Love
I have spoken with many people who really want someone special to come into their lives, but it never seems to happen for them. They wonder why they can’t connect with anyone, why they can never find true love.
I have witnessed many times that the basis of this problem lies in the fact that people either want it too much, or that they turn themselves and the other person they are trying to attract into magnets that push each other away, instead of being attracted to one another.
To attract what you want into your life, you have to let go and essentially focus on it without force. Stay clear of any negative emotions, as that will not help in keeping you in Zen. Continue reading