Heal Your Toxic Family Legacy With Ancestral Guidance

Our loved ones in spirit are aware of things that we cannot see. Once they have crossed over to the other side, they begin to connect with us through signs and synchronicities, as well as in the dream state, to guide us on our life journey.

One of the life challenges they can assist with is healing generational trauma and breaking the cycle of toxic family abuse. In their new state of higher consciousness, they are now able to clearly see how they may have wronged us while they were here, and how they contributed to a dysfunctional ancestral legacy, often going back many generations.

As part of their own life review and soul evolution process in the afterlife, they want to provide us with insight and guidance, to help us undo some of the mistakes they made and break the family curse of dysfunction and abuse, so that we can be blessed with healing, joy and unconditional love.

I have channeled many readings for clients over the years to offer them this type of guidance from their loved ones and ancestors in spirit. The spiritual guidance they received proved to be of great value in their lives and brought much peace and healing to their families, as well as their romantic relationships and marriages.

Some of the self-care goodies and nuggets of divine wisdom that my clients have received from spirit over the years include:

GET MORE SPIRITUAL

No matter what challenges and hardships we may face in life, they are always more manageable and easier to navigate when we are spiritually aligned and maintaining an elevated vibrational state of higher consciousness. If you do not have a daily spiritual routine, begin to incorporate one into your daily lifestyle. If you already have a spiritual or metaphysical practice, it may be time to expand it by spending more time with it, introducing new modalities, or even changing it completely.

Just a few minutes of prayer, meditation, breathwork, journaling, affirmations, chanting, candle work, divination, and so on, will greatly improve your own mental and emotional well-being, while working wonders in how you navigate interactions with your toxic family.

Blood doesn’t make you family. Some of the most demonic and demeaning people in your life share your DNA ~ Temi Ade

Some of my favorite spiritual practices are:

Shielding. Do a daily shiedling visualization in which you imagine a white light of protection around you, so that any negativity directed at you does not enter your aura, but is deflected away from you.

Meditation. Learn to meditate, or download a guided meditation app to your favorite digital device. It will calm your mind and reduce anxiety and overthinking. It is important to clear your mind as much as possible of thoughts of the toxic people in your life. The less you think about them, the less power or influence they yield over you.

Gratitude Journal. Keep a gratitude journal. Be sure to write about all the kind, loving, supportive people in your life, so that you are constantly reminded that there are also some good people around you and in your life. Focus on those folks, and the many other blessings in your life, no matter how small.

Black Tourmaline. Always carry some black tourmaline with you. Black Tourmaline or Schorl is considered one of the most powerful protective and personal healing gemstones. Not only does its black color absorb negative energy directed at you by toxic family members, but it is also very effective as a grounding stone. Tourmaline is formed deep underground under intense pressure by hydrothermal activity in the presence of certain minerals such as iron and manganese, which gives it enhanced magnetic and electrical properties.

Cord cutting. I like to take an Epsom salt (magnesium sulfate) bath and call in Archangel Michael to cut the energy cord attachments I have with people that no longer serve my highest good. I specifically visualize those people who are disrespectful, toxic, or abusive and ask Spirit to help them find healing and peace elsewhere on their own, away from me, without having to drain or steal my energy.

Nature Meditation. Spend time with nature and animals. Walk or jog in the park, meditate on the beach, or just walk barefoot on the grass outside your house. Join a hiking club or go scuba diving. Spend time with your pets. If you do not have pets, volunteer at your local animal shelter or offer to walk your neighbor’s dog. Our furry friends are our ‘furever’ family. They do not judge or demean us. They love us unconditionally and spending time with them is very healing.

Focusing on ancestral healing is like nurturing the roots of a tree to make it grow and thrive. Your ancestors are the roots of your being; therefore, the first place to look for the root of your struggles, limiting beliefs, and your path to peace of mind ~ Alexandra Tudor

CHANGE YOUR LIFESTYLE

Exercise more, eat healthy, get enough sleep, and live your best life by doing the things you enjoy. It sounds cliché, but it works! Keep yourself healthy and strong. You cannot properly advocate for yourself and protect yourself from a toxic family dynamic if you are constantly tired, sick, weak, or energetically drained.

Limit your exposure to social media and limit your toxic relatives’ access to your posts. Be sure to also include anyone who might act as their ‘flying monkeys.’ The term comes from the famous 1939 movie The Wizard of Oz, in which the Wicked Witch of the West uses an army of flying monkeys to do her evil bidding. Flying monkeys in a toxic family can be siblings, grandparents, relatives, or family friends who side with your toxic family members, act as their surrogates, and do their bidding by spying on you, spreading rumors, guilt-tripping you, or controlling you by proxy.

Do not share publicly what you are planning or doing. Protect your joy and privacy, because they can use any knowledge they have of you and your life against you. So be careful what information you share with them.

SET FIRM BOUNDARIES

In a family situation, where a parent repeatedly verbally disrespects an adult child, a line must be drawn. Without setting boundaries, you will never receive the basic respect and consideration that you deserve as a beautiful child of God, Source, Spirit, the Divine.

Find the inner strength to forgive them, but then distance yourself from them indefinitely. Limit all contact until they show sincere remorse, truly apologize, and demonstrate to you through their actions that they have changed.

If they refuse to see your point of view, show no remorse, and continue to disrespect, abuse, or scapegoat you, while your own mental health and well-being are severely compromised, then it is wise to make the decision to go ‘no contact,’ or even permanently cut ties with them.

Our spirit ancestors know what we have been through and they know what is going on. They can see clearly after they are gone. So believe me when I say that they will not hold it against you if you no longer go over to burn your soul by touching the flame of family toxicity. You have their support and their understanding. Spirit does not want you to put yourself in danger by exposing yourself to abuse and cruelty.

You don’t have to continue to spend time with, or talk to toxic family members. Blood is not necessarily thicker than water, and spirit always has your back. You are a divine being who does not deserve to be belittled and criticized any longer. So, walk away. Let it go. It is okay! This is always the message from our ancestors.

It is not only okay for you to remove yourself from the toxic drama and end all contact with them, or at least keep them at a ‘football field distance from your aura, but it is a karmic necessity. If you can break the cycle of dysfunction and abuse in your family, you will not only be advancing your own soul growth, but you will also be supporting the soul evolution of your loved ones in spirit, help to heal the soul family wounds of your ancestors, and protecting your own children’s children from inheriting the burden of a toxic family legacy.