Still Hanging On To The Wrong Person?

Are you still hanging on to the wrong person? I know you adore him. I know you love her. I understand that you believe you are soulmates and ‘meant to be.’

But be aware that your beloved has free will. If they are not exactly alignment with you, no matter how you strongly feel about them, nothing will come of your ‘situationship.’ They are on their own journey and you cannot will someone to be your lover or life partner. It is nothing more than the beginning of a colossal heartbreak.

I have witnessed many love-struck people hang on for years to someone that has either left them for good, or kept stringing them along. Some of them have even married and had children with someone else, and yet, they still hang on. They often fervently believe their love interest will someday return to them and then they will live happily ever after. Well, the truth of the matter is that they will not. The other person has made their choice and walked away for a reason.

This new year, with all that has been going on in the world, it may be time to take a few deep breaths and have a self-reflective moment. Take a good, hard look at your life choices and your relationships.

If you are making unwise, self-sabotaging choices, consider what it may be that is not feeding your soul? What is it that is really missing in your life? Maybe it is time to release what no longer serves you. Simply let it go. Find your inner peace, and just be happy and content with yourself and who you truly are.

As a psychic advisor, I encounter the good, the bad and the ugly. I have seen much trauma and damage done, sometimes almost irreparable, to people in toxic relationships and love obsessions. Marriages of several years simply falling apart or ‘trusted’ partner walking out with zero notice. I have watched many go through failed relationship after failed relationship, always with the same results. The result is always the same: excruciating heartbreak.

When the victims of these bad relationship choices are encouraged to do some soul-searching, to see what it is inside of them that is compelling them to go back to the same type of person, time and time again, they are offended and become angry.

The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too ~ Ernest Hemingway

To live life to its fullest, happiness has to come from within first and foremost. Nothing can change that fact. Someone else cannot ensure or provide your happiness. If you are not happy with yourself, how do you expect another to find happiness with you? They cannot create your joy and fulfillment; they can only enhance it. If you are unhappy and unfulfilled, nothing is going to fix that.

You are worthy and deserving of happiness and fulfillment. Do not compromise on what you deserve and stay true to yourself, without trying to impose our wishes on someone who has no desire to meet you halfway.

If a partner has most of what you want, but their lifestyle choices or bad attitude drives you nuts – that is not going to change. They are not going to change simply because you want them to. In a few years, you will just be angry at them all the time and wonder why you got yourself into the situation to begin with. The answer will simply be that you compromised on what you wanted, and you allowed this person to remain in your life.

If your family or friends tell you that you are ‘too picky,’ ask them if they are genuinely happy in their relationships. Tell them you will not compromise on your future or your life.

You will have to rise up and say, ‘I don’t care how hard this is, I don’t care how disappointed I am, I’m not going to let this get the best of me. I’m moving on with my life ~ Joel Osteen

Your partner does not have to be 100% perfect or exactly like you. That would be boring. They must at least not have traits that drive you crazy at the get go. They need to be at least kind, considerate and respectful. They should sincerely enjoy your company and make you laugh. And they must be truthful and trustworthy. If not, then do not let them become a part of your life. And if they are already taking up space in your life, then it may be time to let them go!

Additionally, never carry your residual pain, doubts, mistrusts, and resentments into a new relationship as you will doom it from the start. Deal with your issues before allowing another person to come into your life. You will be emotionally and spiritually healthier, and this time the relationship you have been seeking will finally show up for you.