When A Relationship Ends

Many requests for readings that I receive are about relationships, and a good percentage of those are about past relationships that just seem to keep hanging on in callers’ minds and dreams. There are often constant thoughts about the person, a longing for a second chance, or bitterness and remorse for time that now seems wasted.

The longer and more intense the relationship, the more battle scars and wounds exist. If it was a soulmate or twin flame connection, the aftermath can be gutting. The relationship has ended and the connection has been severed in this life. This time can be acutely painful. You know that you gave it everything. You hung in there for years, or you went to heroic lengths to ensure the survival of  the relationship, but you fell short.

I am frequently asked, “Is it really over?” Of course, the answer depends on the particular circumstances and this is where a reading with a trusted psychic advisor can be very helpful.  It can bring clarity, comfort and assurances about choices and decisions made along the way.

If you are highly aware you may very well still be picking up on your former partner, which can be very painful, annoying and disruptive. Leaving these wounds unattended or resolved can keep one stuck in a repetitive cycle of repeating the same pattern with this person, or leaving us unable to move forward in peace and confidence.

I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have – life itself ~ Walter Anderson

If you find yourself at this place the most important thing you can do is to support yourself and avail yourself to all the healing energy possible. Surround yourself with positive, non-judgmental people. Trusted friends, family and support groups can be a great boost during this time.

Don’t forget to pay attention also to your health. An ending can impact your health like a sledgehammer. It’s an assault on your emotional body, the impact of which many times your physical body will also feel. Lack of sleep, overeating, or not eating properly, depression, anger and exhaustion are all very common.  The relationship was a very significant part of your life. Now that it’s over, don’t neglect yourself.

This is a time for you to affirm yourself and to begin to rebuild your peace and happiness, with the focus on self-care and self-respect. Reach out and get an energy healing, a reading from a trusted source, join a support group, or talk to a trusted friend. Make it a point to prioritize your well-being every day.

On the grief scale the loss of a meaningful relationship ranks right up there with the death of loved one. Death we are forced to accept, but endings can sometimes leave a very blurred line.  Get some clarity and perspective about what has happened and where your future happiness lies. Don’t get stuck in the pain or lost in the anger. Don’t sacrifice your future happiness. Take good care of yourself. Whatever has happened, know that there is a future for you and your heart. Never give up on yourself.