Reclaiming Your Power When A Relationship Ends

One of the main reasons it is so painful to release someone when a relationship ends, is because we have usually invested so much of our time and energy in our connection with that person. In essence, what we are truly missing when we mourn a relationship are parts of our self that we have given away. What we are mourning is the loss of our hopes and dreams, not merely the presence of the person who is no longer in our life.

If this is something you are currently struggling with, I recommend the following ritual designed to help you reclaim your power after a relationship break-up, so that you can restore your inner wholeness and resume your search for true and enduring love.

Supplies

• 3 votive candles: 1 blue, 1 green, 1 yellow
• 1 aqua marine or clear quartz crystal
• rain or sage incense wand
• small mirror
• 3 copper pennies
• 2 tbsp of fresh or dried mint in a small bowl
• 2 tbsp sea salt

Preparation

The ritual is most effective when performed on a Sunday, Monday or Thursday, and ideally within five days before or after the Full Moon.

Dress in white to perform the ritual, and play your favorite self-empowerment or inspirational music. Select songs that reflect personal independence and freedom.

Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy ~ Robert Tew

The Ritual

Begin by placing the three candles in front of you, left to right in this order: blue (your thoughts), green (your emotions), and then yellow (your personal power).

Place a copper penny in front of each candle, and the crystal in front of the yellow candle. Place the small bowl of mint in front of the green candle, and the small mirror in front of the mint.

Light your incense wand, and then with the wand, light each candle. Add the sea salt to the bowl of mint and mix with your right index finger.

Pick up the first penny in front of the blue candle and hold it in your left hand, with the mirror in your right, while you meditate on the relationship that has ended. This will enable you to clear any communication or compelling thoughts to stay connected to the person you are releasing to the past.

Next, swirl the penny in the mint and salt mixture and place back in front of the blue candle. Then gaze into the mirror and say aloud:

I call back to me any thought-related or mental energy that was given to (name the person) during the time we were involved.

Next, pick up the penny in front of the green candle with your left hand and repeat the process, focusing this time on the emotional side of the relationship. Continue to hold the mirror in your right hand, and meditate on the drawbacks or limitations of the relationship; how it made you feel, and what was lacking in the heart aspect of this connection. This will help you release any pent up anger, resentment or negative feelings you still carry about this relationship, which in turn continues to tie you to your ex.

When you are done, swirl the penny in the mint and salt mixture and place back in front of the green candle. Then gaze into the mirror and say aloud:

I call back to me any emotional and heart energy that was given during the time I was involved with (name the person).

Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t ~ Steve Maraboli

Pick up the third penny and repeat the process, this time focusing on the yellow candle, and meditating on drawing your personal power back to you, where it belongs.

Swirl the penny in the mint and salt mixture and place back in front of the yellow candle. Then gaze into the mirror and say aloud:

I call back to me all my personal power and energy that was given during the time I was involved with (name the person).

Once you have finished this process, it is important that you bless the person you are reclaiming your power from. Pick up the crystal in your right hand and send them positive thoughts, wishing them all the best. This will cut any ties of hurt, resentment, anger or pain you may still be experiencing.

When you are done, collect the three pennies and the crystal and place them on your spiritual altar, or keep them in your pocket, purse or wallet to represent the power and energy you have just reclaimed.

This ritual can be repeated each time you feel overwhelmed by the emotions of this past relationship. After a few times, you won’t need it any longer, as you will have restored your mind and heart energy to its pre-relationship status.