Take The Heavenly Solitude Challenge!

My clients often ask me how I manage to stay so positive and upbeat every time they call for a psychic reading. They often mention how my energy seems to lift their spirits, and this brings me immense joy! I feel blessed when I can share my gift for energetic healing.

This does not mean that I am automatically or miraculously energized and balanced to be of service to others. To share some love and light, I have to be disciplined with my spiritual practice and self-care routine. One of the key ingredients in my self-nuturing routine that keeps me going is spending some time in solitude.

Solitude is to be alone by choice, without the presence or interference of others. As a spiritual practice it involves deliberately setting aside time to be alone, away from the distractions and demands of daily life, in order to connect more deeply with your higher self, spirit and the divine. It is a time of quiet reflection and introspection.

Unlike loneliness, which is often associated with negative emotions, solitude is a positive and restorative experience, embraced for spiritual growth and personal well-being. I often enjoy my solitude with a cup of tea or coffee, sometimes knitting, sewing, doing yoga, meditating or going for a walk. I cherish these moments and wish everyone could experience the peace they bring, even if only for a few hours each day.

A good time to embrace solitude and a spiritual practice is during times of transition or personal challenge, when life feels overwhelming or uncertain. Whether you’re navigating a career change, recovering from a loss, or simply feeling disconnected from your inner self, solitude can provide the clarity and peace you need to reconnect with your passion and purpose.

True silence is the rest of the mind, and is to the spirit what sleep is to the body, nourishment and refreshment ~ William Penn

It’s particularly beneficial when you feel the need to pause, reflect and gain deeper insight into your life’s direction. By retreating into solitude, you create the space to reconnect with your spiritual core, heal from emotional turmoil and emerge with renewed strength and a clearer sense of purpose.

If this sounds like something you may need more of in your life right now, I invite you to join my Heavenly Solitude Challenge. Try it for the next week or two, you may just experience a whole new outlook on your life. You’ll be amazed at the transformation that can happen when you allow yourself to embrace simple solitude and just let go.

So, let’s embark on this journey into the healing power and bliss of solitude.

Step 1: Set Aside Time And Space

First, set aside a time and place specifically for solitude. This means being alone – just you, yourself and you. Think of it as a daily mini-retreat.

Create a quiet, comfortable space in your home where you can retreat for meditation, reflection or prayer. This space should be free of distractions and filled with items that bring you peace and joy, such as candles, crystals or your journal. Soft lighting and soothing scents can enhance the atmosphere and make it a sanctuary for your solitude practice.

If your home is too chaotic, try sitting in your car – just turn off the radio! There are countless ways to connect with silence that will raise your energy and bring miracles into your life. On weekends, or if a room in your home isn’t possible, consider practising solitude in nature, such as a secluded park, a quiet beach or even a peaceful spot in your garden. Other options include a quiet corner in a library, a meditation centre, or a quiet place of worship. Embrace solitude wherever you can find it!

In the peace and quiet of solitude, you can reach a state of bliss where nothing can disturb your good mood. When you’re in this space, you naturally attract the wonderful things that are waiting to come into your life.

Remember to disconnect from all technology. Solitude and smart phones do not go well together! Turn off your phone, computer, and other electronic devices. The goal is to minimize distractions and focus on your inner self.

We live, in fact, in a world starved for solitude, silence, and private: and therefore starved for meditation and true friendship ~ C.S. Lewis

Step 2: Engage In Reflective Practices

During your solitude time, it’s important to focus on activities that encourage deep inner reflection and cultivate a sense of peace. These practices allow you to turn inward and explore your thoughts, feelings and spiritual needs:

Meditation: Meditation is one of the most powerful ways to centre your mind and connect with your inner self. Whether it’s mindfulness meditation, where you focus on your breath and observe your thoughts without attachment, or a guided meditation designed to explore specific themes, this practice helps you quiet the mental chatter and gain clarity.

Breathwork: Breathwork is the conscious control of the breath to influence your mental, emotional and physical states. Practicing breathwork in solitude can be incredibly grounding and transformative. Techniques such as deep diaphragmatic breathing, box breathing or alternating nostril breathing help to calm the mind, reduce stress and increase focus. As you breathe mindfully, release tension and invite a sense of peace and clarity into your being.

Journaling: Writing in a journal during your solitude allows you to process your thoughts and emotions more consciously. It’s a space where you can freely express what’s on your mind without judgement or censorship. Journaling helps you identify patterns in your thinking, release pent-up feelings and explore your goals and aspirations. Over time, this practice can provide insights into your personal growth and spiritual journey.

Prayer: Prayer is a powerful way to connect with your higher power or the divine. In solitude, prayer becomes more personal and meaningful, allowing you to express gratitude, seek guidance or simply share your thoughts and concerns with God, Source, Spirit, the Divine. This practice brings comfort and a sense of connection to something greater than yourself.

Mindfulness: Sometimes the most profound reflections come from simply sitting in silence. In this stillness you can observe your thoughts as they arise, without judgement or the need to act upon them. This practice, often called mindfulness or contemplative meditation, teaches you to become an impartial witness to your own mind. By not engaging with your thoughts, you allow them to pass, which leads to greater mental clarity and emotional balance.

Divination: Divination tools such as tarot or oracle cards, runes, or a pendulum can be used during solitude to gain insight and guidance. By drawing cards or casting runes, you tap into intuitive wisdom and reflect on how the messages resonate with your current situation. Divination practices offer a way to explore your inner world and uncover hidden aspects of your life, helping you to make more informed decisions and gain clarity.

Gratitude: Practicing gratitude by acknowledging and appreciating the positive aspects of your life. Personally, this is one of my favorite activities. In solitude, you can keep a gratitude journal, listing things you’re grateful for, or simply reflect on them in silence. This practice shifts your focus to positivity and abundance, improving your mood and fostering a sense of contentment. Practicing gratitude helps you recognise the good in your life, even in difficult times, and deepen your appreciation of the present moment.

Remember to surrender to the experience of solitude without expectations. Let go of any preconceived notions of what you should feel or achieve during this time. Allow whatever arises to simply be, whether it’s a feeling of peace, discomfort or something in between. Over time, this practice will teach you to be more accepting and present in all aspects of your life.

People who need people are threatened by people who don’t. The idea of seeking contentment alone is heretical, for society steadfastly decrees that our completeness lies in others ~ Lionel Fisher

Step 3: Identify The Energy Thieves

During my psychic readings I can often sense when someone is surrounded by negative energy, whether it’s from difficult colleagues, ongoing drama or recent loss. I always offer personalised advice on how to deal with these challenges.

While you’re enjoying your solitude, also take a moment or two to reflect on the people in your life who tend to drain your energy. Who are the ones who always leave you feeling drained? Think about what you might be doing or not doing that contributes to this feeling.

Then, like a strategic game of chess, consider ways to limit your interaction with these people in future. Whether it’s making yourself less available or politely declining their invitations, do whatever it takes to protect your energy and keep yourself in balance.

In solitude you’ll find that you also gain more clarity about what no longer serves you. Simply ask your higher self to reveal what you need to let go of and then contemplate what you need to do to release it.

The Benefits Of A Solitude Practice

The benefits of solitude are profound and can significantly improve your life. You can experience happiness, clarity and a sense of abundance. Without the quiet time and inner stillness that solitude provides, life can become chaotic, leading to nervousness, anxiety and other negative emotions. Solitude offers many benefits for your personal and spiritual well-being, including:

Reduced stress: Spending time alone can help lower levels of cortisol, the stress hormone, and promote relaxation and calmness.

Energy restoration: Solitude allows your energy field to recharge and rejuvenate, preventing burnout and preparing you to re-engage with the world with renewed vitality.

Increased self-awareness: Solitude allows for introspection and self-reflection, leading to a deeper understanding of your thoughts, feelings and values.

Focus and concentration: Without external distractions, you can concentrate better on tasks and be more productive.

Emotional regulation: Solitude offers a safe space and time to process emotions, leading to emotional balance and stability, both crucial for energetic well-being and vital for better emotional control and resilience.

Personal growth: Time alone promotes personal development as you explore your interests and passions without external pressure.

Increased creativity: Solitude provides space for the mind to wander freely, fostering innovative ideas and problem-solving skills.

Strengthened relationships: Ironically, spending time with yourself can deepen your connections with others by improving communication and empathy.

Spiritual connection: Without external influences, solitude facilitates a deeper connection with your higher self, spirit and the divine.

Mindful awareness: In the absence of distractions, you can cultivate mindfulness and presence, aligning your energy with the present moment and the universal flow.

Increased happiness: By prioritising self-care and reducing stress, solitude can contribute to overall happiness and life satisfaction.

But many of us seek community solely to escape the fear of being alone. Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving. When we can be alone, we can be with others without using them as a means of escape ~ Bell Hooks

You may experience even more benefits than these! When we embrace silence, we begin to live in Zen. Zen is about going with the ebb and flow of life, letting go of the need to control everything, and tuning into our inner guidance. When you align your energy with the light or divine within, you begin to experience bliss. You become open to new possibilities, less fearful and less judgmental.

For me, solitude offers the gift of inner peace. It teaches me to be okay with uncertainty, to welcome whatever comes my way, and to understand that it’s perfectly okay to say “no.” Solitude also helps me to release energies that don’t serve me, which in turn benefits everyone around me.

When you’re happy and smiling, it has a positive effect on those around you. If someone tries to steal your joy, say to them, “I’m so sorry you’re having a bad day. I’ll pray and hope it gets better.” You don’t need to absorb their toxic negativity.

I love solitude and I hope you will love it as much as I do. It will empower you to live a happier, healthier life and to let go of anything or anyone that blocks the goodness that solitude can bring.