Is Your ‘Friend’ A Toxic Energy Thief?

Do you have a friend who constantly makes you feel unbalanced and drained, while adding no value to your life? We’ve all had that so-called ‘friend’ who doesn’t seem to care much about our well-being. Sometimes they don’t even seem to like us at all!

They are that fair-weather friend who drains your energy and constantly exhibits toxic behaviors that destroy your inner peace, steal your joy, and disrupt your spiritual balance. Interacting with them increases your stress or anxiety, and even triggers a sense of disconnection from your true self.

If you have such a “friend,” consider this a serious wake-up call. After all, with a friend like that, who needs enemies? And if you have more than one such friend, consider it an urgent intervention!

The truth is that having an energy vampire masquerading as a friend in your life poses significant spiritual dangers and negative effects on your overall health and well-being.

Constant interaction with someone who is unkind and unsupportive hinders your personal and spiritual growth. Instead of uplifting and encouraging you, they serve only to hold you back and may even discourage you from pursuing your dreams. These people are not your friends.

It reminds me of the karate classes I used to take. We were taught to have ‘situational awareness.’ In karate, this refers to being fully aware of your surroundings, including potential threats, opportunities, and obstacles during training, sparring, or self-defense scenarios. It involves being mentally present and observing the environment, the opponent, and any relevant factors that could affect the outcome of a situation.

Negative people can only infest you with discouragements when they find you around… Just get lost and get saved! ~ Israelmore Ayivor

Well, we need to cultivate the same kind of situational awareness in our spiritual lives to protect our energy from those who don’t mean us well. We need to practice good energy hygiene and spiritual self-defense, just as we clean our bodies, wash our hair, and brush our teeth to keep nasty fungi and bacteria at bay!

Negative and unsupportive friendships are like soul bacteria. They slowly chip away at your self-esteem, self-worth, and soul alignment. If you’re constantly exposed to someone who is toxic, you begin to internalize their negativity like a disease. Your spiritual energy and vitality will be significantly depleted by continued interactions with them, as they increasingly rob you of your joy and happiness. They can leave you feeling spiritually empty, disconnected, and unfulfilled.

To make matters worse, someone who constantly steals your energy while contaminating your aura with their toxicity can make you more susceptible to dark spiritual energy attachments and even psychic attacks. It weakens your spiritual defenses and makes you vulnerable to other toxic spiritual influences.

Signs Of A Toxic Friendship

Identifying a toxic energy thief among your friends is crucial to maintaining your well-being and happiness. Here are some typical signs that someone in your life may not have your best interests at heart:

Constant negativity: Your friend constantly focuses on the negative aspects of life and often complains without seeking solutions. They may bring your mood down and drain your positive energy with their pessimism.

Narcissism: The friendship is always one-sided, with your friend talking only about themselves, their problems, and their accomplishments, without showing genuine interest in your life or well-being.

Lack of support: Your friend is dismissive or unsupportive of your goals, dreams, or challenges. They may undermine your efforts or show indifference when you share your successes or struggles.

Manipulative behavior: Your friend uses guilt, passive-aggressive tactics, or manipulation to control you or get what they want. They may make you feel obligated to meet their needs at the expense of your own.

Drama and conflict: There’s a pattern of drama, gossip, or unnecessary conflict around your friend. They may thrive on stirring up drama, and drama seems to follow them wherever they go.

Envy and competition: Your friend feels threatened by your accomplishments or relationships and may subtly compete with you instead of celebrating your successes.

Disloyalty: Your friend talks negatively about you behind your back or breaks your trust by sharing personal information with others. They may betray your trust or loyalty.

Energy drain: After spending time with this friend, you feel emotionally exhausted, drained, or depleted. They may make you feel worse rather than uplifted or supported.

Inconsistent behavior: Your friend’s behavior is unpredictable or erratic. They may be unreliable, frequently cancel plans, or only reach out when they need something from you.

Feeling unappreciated or used: Overall, you feel unappreciated, undervalued, or used in the friendship. Your friend may take advantage of your kindness or generosity without reciprocating.

If you see several of these signs in a friend’s behavior, it may be time to evaluate the impact of the relationship on your well-being. You may want to begin to set some boundaries and consider whether this friendship is truly serving your highest good. Distancing yourself from such a ‘friendship’ may be necessary for your spiritual well-being and growth.

Often the best course of action is to cut ties completely. By continuing a toxic friendship, you are constantly “leaking” energy. Every interaction with them rips another tiny hole in your aura through which you leak your life force every day. Usually the only way to plug these tiny punctures and heal your energy field is to stop all connection and go no contact.  You wish them well, but stop all communication and engagement immediately!

Look around you at the people you spend the most time with and realize that your life can’t rise any higher than your friendships ~ Mandy Hale

The Spiritual Duty To Protect Your Energy

As a spiritually conscious person, you may continue to spend time with this kind of person because you feel you have to be kind and tolerant, even though they are never very nice to you. But the truth is, you don’t! Being spiritual does not require you to be nice to everyone all the time or to accept mistreatment.

Spirituality is about authenticity and integrity. It means being true to yourself and honoring your values and boundaries. Being spiritual doesn’t mean sacrificing your self-respect or allowing others to mistreat you. True spirituality is also about discernment and wisdom. It’s about knowing when a situation or relationship is toxic or harmful.

While kindness and compassion are essential aspects of spirituality, they should not be confused with enabling or tolerating abusive behavior. Sometimes it is necessary to show tough love or set boundaries for the well-being of all involved. Reserve your divine energy for yourself and for those who wish you well.

Being spiritual also means practicing self-love, self-care, and self-compassion. This includes prioritizing your own well-being and recognizing when a relationship is draining or harmful. It’s important to treat yourself with the same kindness and respect that you would extend to others. After all, you are a divine spirit being, so take back your power!

When I do readings, I often receive messages from spirit advising my clients to protect themselves from someone in their life because they are causing them harm energetically. It is our spiritual responsibility to ourselves and the other people in our lives to protect and nurture our energy.

When something doesn’t feel right with another person, it is often our ancestors, guides, angels, or higher self telling us to proceed with caution and practice detachment to protect ourselves energetically. Maintaining supportive and positive relationships is vital to your overall spiritual health and happiness.