When we’ve had relationships with people, these cords extend from our chakras or energy centers to those of the other person. So, you can imagine the amount of emotions we can take on from someone else – more often than not ‘fear-based’ emotions. That fear can show itself as fear of abandonment, unforgiveness, co-dependency, or any other negative emotion.
Years ago, I remember reading a newspaper article shortly after the son of Dean Martin had been killed in an air crash. The famous singer said it felt like his heart was being ripped out – so real are these cords that bind us. The ripping at his heart chakra was, in fact, real, even though there was not any physical evidence of his heart being pulled from his body.
Holding on is believing that there’s only a past; letting go is knowing that there’s a future ~ Daphne Rose Kingma
Cutting these cords that bind us can help free both parties of the stresses attached to cords. Cutting cords does not mean turning our back on the other person, or not caring about them in future, but rather releasing the more dysfunctional areas of our relationship.
Should a person we are attached to be having a lot of drama in their lives, they will drain our energy through the etheric cord and we will end up being the sponge that has absorbed much negative energy. We will end up not knowing why we feel so exhausted and out of sorts – even grubby.
Those we experience sexual relationships with become attached to our sacral chakra or base chakra. Those we experience conflict with are attached to our solar plexus. When we are grieving over a person or pet, they are attached to our heart chakra.
When we experience neck and shoulder pain, this may not necessarily be physical overload, but can relate to us carrying a lot of the load in a relationship, or from being involved in painful relationships.
Here are some simple steps to help you cut ties between you and another person that may be draining you right now.
The mental and physical space we create by letting go of things that belong in our past gives us…the option to fill the space with something new ~ Susan Fay West
1. Relax, preferably lying down doing some deep breathing until you feel completely relaxed.
2. With your eyes closed, think of the individual you wish to cut ties with, even if it’s just those dysfunctional parts of the relationship you wish to release.
3. Imagine that person standing several feet away from you and a tubular cord connecting their belly button to your belly button.
4. Imagine cutting that cord with a large pair of golden scissors. Visualize the other person withdrawing, as they become smaller and smaller, and the background gradually enveloping them.
5. Wash your hands thoroughly and give them a good shake, imagining any negative residue being shaken off.
A final note: I sometimes find the person I have just cut the cord with rather anxious to reconnect with me, because they will feel the disconnection just made. There should be no need to repeat the procedure. Energetically, that individual may just be coming back for a final drain on your energy! Do not be tempted back into that attachment.
Karmic ties, known as the invisible cords connecting us to certain people throughout many lifetimes are particularly strong cords of attachment, and will be discussed in my next blog.
| PsychicAccess.com.Shani is a qualified practitioner in Reiki, aromatherapy, reflexology, body spin, and animal telepathy who received psychic development training at the Arthur Findlay College of Psychic Research in England. A published writer, her articles and predictions have appeared in several respected magazines and on psychic websites, and she has read for many celebrities and even heads of state in Africa. Though she was born in London, Shani has traveled the globe and has studied the art of African Mysticism, bringing her unique flavor to those seeking her incredible talents. Get a reading with Shani at |
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